Agent_Violet
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if i didn't already know what a sweetheart you are and how much depth you have, i'd be truly offended ;-)
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if i didn't already know what a sweetheart you are and how much depth you have, i'd be truly offended ;-)
coyote
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if i didn't already know what a sweetheart you are and how much depth you have, i'd be truly offended ;-)
well, i'd still want her and i to be friends, of course
Agent_Violet
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KiaKaha
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It's a woman's kindness that makes me become infatuated.
I go all funny when I receive warmth, interest and concern from someone - it makes me want to know them better.... and it makes me feel unhappy that I cant. She was probably just being nice anyway.
I have noticed that it's mostly foreigners who are the nicest people....or maybe I just notice it more.
I go all funny when I receive warmth, interest and concern from someone - it makes me want to know them better.... and it makes me feel unhappy that I cant. She was probably just being nice anyway.
I have noticed that it's mostly foreigners who are the nicest people....or maybe I just notice it more.
1BlackSheep
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Are you sure it's just their kindness?
PS - it's good to see your avatar status back to "green"!
coyote
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yeah, i'm a sucker for that, too
and if a woman i'm attracted to seems at all interested or attracted to me, i feel like i'm not doing something right unless i flirt with her, and then if the flirtations increase, i feel like i'm not doing something right unless i ask her out
but i hold back, because i worry that i'm off my mark, and that she is just being nice
that, and the whole 'fear-of-rejection' thing
it creates a lot of anxiety- feeling like i should be doing something that i'm not
Agent_Violet
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I know we all do that to ourselves, "this person was probably just being nice." but think about it, how often do people of today behave a certain way just to be nice? usually niceness is because they really like someone or feel a certain way about the person and it gives them joy to be nice to them...
you're smart,good looking,funny,etc...I find it hard to believe she was just being nice
MikeyC
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Don't get involved with a married person. It'll just lead to pain.
Good luck!
I agree with all of this. I am nice to people I enjoy talking to or being around, whether or not I'm attracted to them.I know we all do that to ourselves, "this person was probably just being nice." but think about it, how often do people of today behave a certain way just to be nice? usually niceness is because they really like someone or feel a certain way about the person and it gives them joy to be nice to them...
you're smart,good looking,funny,etc...I find it hard to believe she was just being nice
I agree.I bet you are a lover coyote
But, jokes aside, how is their relationship going? If there's mutual interest between you two, the relationship is on the road to ruin and you want to take things further with her, then maybe it would be best to wait until it ends to go any further or you could ask her to break up with him before you two go any further. I'm not saying that you can't move forward now, but just be ready to accept the consequences of what'll come about, no matter what they are. So, for example, if he does pull out the knives, then call the cops.
I am of the thought that if you mess with someones family,you will deserve what is coming to you,it isnt a matter of making vows to the husband,its a matter of helping breaking up a family,to me this kind of attitude is one of the things that is wrong with the world.
Agent_Violet
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helping break up a family?
As someone who has been married and someone who has been cheated on many times before I can tell you no one helps you break up your family. you do it all on your own by making selfish choices. It isn't the responsibility of the other man or other woman to police your actions. If you want to step out and cheat, that is on you and only you. this whole blame the affair partner thing is ridiculous and THAT is what's wrong with the world...no sense of personal responsibility as well as holding the wrong people accountable for the poor choices of others.
(you and your is used as a general reference.)
But since this isn't about social anxiety,i won't discuss it further.
it always takes two,everything someone elses says is only a excuse.
if one says no, it isnt happening,its as simple as that,someone who helps breaking a family up deserves what is comming to them.
Agent_Violet
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no one can truly know what it's like and who to blame til it happens to you as a husband or as a wife.
people with no experience in the matter are better off just observing rather than speaking about it.
I can still see that it takes two persons,taking the blame out of one because they arent compromised to the husband or wife is selfish and again its the kind of attitude that is wrong with the world,get everything that you want and dont care about anything else.
Agent_Violet
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we'll have to agree to disagree on this as well as what the world's problems really are.
coyote
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i have no intention of breaking up anyone's family
i would hope she wouldn't want to leave her husband just because she had a good time with me
my cottage is too small, anyway
Good advice!
Personally, if someone left another guy for me, no matter what the circumstance, I'd find it difficult to trust their faithfulness.
I've been in this exact position in the past. I was single, she was in a rel going nowhere, they had a kid. I did the honourable thing and walked away, I could not have being a splitter of a family on my conscience, never mind the trust issues. They ended up working out their problems (good for them!)
coyote
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my wife left me for another guy
i don't blame him or her
i blame myself for not being good enough
psych
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This is the second time in two weeks some guy practically backed over my vehicle due to simply not bothering to look before starting to back up.
Today, it was 4 middle aged men in a convertible... & Though all my windows were up, they must've heard me scream... "ARE YOU F*CKING SERIOUS?!!!"
Because they all turned around to stare with shocked looks on their stupid, overfed faces.
Sometimes I just hate people.
Today, it was 4 middle aged men in a convertible... & Though all my windows were up, they must've heard me scream... "ARE YOU F*CKING SERIOUS?!!!"
Sometimes I just hate people.
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KiaKaha
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Oh dear - what did I start. It's all good....
here have a muffin...
mmm tasty - everyone loves muffins... I know I do...
Love muffins I do.
mmm...muffins..
Yes - and their beauty. I can find something attractive about almost every female I come across - when a young woman is nice to me, cares about how I feel, engages with me and is friendly... I get infatuated somewhat.... just call it "my type"
Thanks however my socialist leanings are still somewhat valid - even if they do appear dormant my comrade...the majority of the world is still grey, unkind, unfriendly, superficial and selfish - however avatar status is green despite this. I find it interesting that you have to declare rather boldly that you are a woman and that you like men... I thought that was obvious?
Awww... I tend to agree, but I cant be sure about that either... you are being nice to me agent violet...careful now... You are a sweetheart.
here have a muffin...
mmm tasty - everyone loves muffins... I know I do...
Love muffins I do.
mmm...muffins..
Yes - and their beauty. I can find something attractive about almost every female I come across - when a young woman is nice to me, cares about how I feel, engages with me and is friendly... I get infatuated somewhat.... just call it "my type"
Thanks however my socialist leanings are still somewhat valid - even if they do appear dormant my comrade...the majority of the world is still grey, unkind, unfriendly, superficial and selfish - however avatar status is green despite this. I find it interesting that you have to declare rather boldly that you are a woman and that you like men... I thought that was obvious?
I know we all do that to ourselves, "this person was probably just being nice." but think about it, how often do people of today behave a certain way just to be nice? usually niceness is because they really like someone or feel a certain way about the person and it gives them joy to be nice to them...
you're smart,good looking,funny,etc...I find it hard to believe she was just being nice
Awww... I tend to agree, but I cant be sure about that either... you are being nice to me agent violet...careful now...
You are a sweetheart.
this_portrait
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My aunt keeps wanting to talk, but she tends to talk too much, and I really don't want to sit on the phone for hours after I get off work. Hell, I don't even want hardly anything to do with the outside world after I get home from work because I've been around people for the past 9 hours and just want to be alone. Plus, she'll probably ask me about the job, which I really don't feel like going into detail about. Or she'll complain about taking my niece to a Nicki Minaj concert later this month when she visits Texas, and I definitely don't want to hear about that.
Perhaps I should have my mother relay this information to my aunt, because she's starting to take my lack of contact personally...
Perhaps I should have my mother relay this information to my aunt, because she's starting to take my lack of contact personally...