There's one problem...what the hell am I gonna talk about??? Oh man, i never even considered all that before...
That shouldn't be a problem if you're comfortable around each other. Even if not, the conversation can still flow. You will be fine - just act yourself. 🙂
Kool-Aid! So, water you waiting for? Go lie down before you see what you ate today..... again. I'll Sierra to it that you get better! Make sure you don't need to get a Chek-up, okay? While you're out, you should go get a Minute Maid;)!
Moxie here. I don't take orders from you. I mountain dew as I please.
It's not that... I don't care that much because they can't be as hurtful as myself.
Oh man, when I was in primary school, I was teased relentlessly. And the defence I learned was to pre-empt them, to put myself down before they could, so that they... yeah, couldn't be as hurtful because I'd already outdone them. And this worked.
Unfortunately, I internalized the negativity, and effectively ended up teasing myself. A very hard habit to break.
I do miss the confidence that being considered smart by others gave me. And their opinions became my perception of myself. Myself that I liked, compared to my present self that I hate. Didn't that make you happy? Why would you be ashamed of being smart? Never felt that way. Quite the opposite.
I associated being smart with being unpopular.
After I (inexplicably) became popular at university, the shame subsided, and I was able to take pleasure in having people think I was smart.
Grades always came far too easy for me; but I had no idea what I was doing and have never claimed to be smart...
actually- I believe I'm quite stupid on all levels.
I know very little about anything.
haha
School was just one of the few games I've not been a complete failure at in my life-- but even the best player will lose if they don't have the money to pay for tuition.
In conversations, I can never be sure how what I'm about to say will go over, whether it will resonate or be embarrassingly far off the mark.
Here, I can throw stuff up onto the boards, and no one is under any pressure to respond to it. If it strikes home for somebody great! if not, no harm done.
Similarly, I can go grazing around and leave replies as they occur to me. I'm not caught in the headlights of expectation the way I would be one on one.
Ideas fall together naturally rather than being forced.
Not sure if this is a side effect of the zoloft, but i just had this intense burst of energy and didnt know hat to do with it sooooooo i deep cleaned the entire downstairs area of my townhouse apartment. I'm still antsy so i guess ill have to find something else to do. hmmmm weird feeling.
In conversations, I can never be sure how what I'm about to say will go over, whether it will resonate or be embarrassingly far off the mark.
Here, I can throw stuff up onto the boards, and no one is under any pressure to respond to it. If it strikes home for somebody great! if it not, no harm done.
I worry about that too, but if I feel comfortable with people I can chat pretty well (although that is rare too). I actually think I have even more anxiety posting on the boards. Every time I see my name on the main page I cringe.. when I see that I was the last who posted in the thread, I fear that I was the one who killed it.
Thats why I like the popular threads because someone else will always post something after me.
And now I think I might have a date this weekend 😕 I need to figure out a good Italian restaurant lol
Good luck Pips!
You know I have no experience with women, but try to be natural, relaxed (relaxed with SA? o.0 well, try it! 😛) and just do what you feel, show her your interest, let her talk, and listen 🙂
Oh man, when I was in primary school, I was teased relentlessly. And the defence I learned was to pre-empt them, to put myself down before they could, so that they... yeah, couldn't be as hurtful because I'd already outdone them. And this worked.
Unfortunately, I internalized the negativity, and effectively ended up teasing myself. A very hard habit to break.
Yeah, it's what happened (and still happens) to me too and it's no good. I have to figure out how to change. But I have so many things to change about myself...
Oh man, when I was in primary school, I was teased relentlessly. And the defence I learned was to pre-empt them, to put myself down before they could, so that they... yeah, couldn't be as hurtful because I'd already outdone them. And this worked.
Unfortunately, I internalized the negativity, and effectively ended up teasing myself. A very hard habit to break.
While that would work, it's so paradoxical that it just makes things worse. Sorry to hear you had to resort to that, Aletheia. :🙁:
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