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I've been wondering about this attitude. I seem to default to it. But then I wonder if part of my social awkwardness stems from "elevating" myself above others by seeing them as the out-group, where I am an in-group of one. "Why can't you think like I think, do as I do, and feel like I feel?" Like I'm some sort of moral arbiter. Maybe this attitude is warranted in specific instances. Maybe I've let the poor instances of my past shape my current default attitude--to an extreme--so even when people don't deserve to be labeled as "bastards," I label them as such from the beginning.

Maybe if I made more of an effort to see people as people, and myself as just another cog-in-the-machine of humanity, instead of defaulting them to "bastards," I wouldn't have so many issues. What kind of outcome should I expect, if I am approaching people and interacting with them like they are, by default, going to hurt me somehow? Probably a pretty fucking shitty one.
Yea na. Sorry bro, but for over forty years I've seen people treat each other like sh!t, be self centered, knife each other in the back, exclude others on purpose, play people against each other, cut people off in traffic on purpose, bully, shame and lie to others.
No matter the culture or era. People in general are just dumb and self centered. I'm surprised the human race hasn't eliminated itself already, although we've come pretty damn close to it already.

There are some pockets of hope though, now take my hand as we sit in a circle and sing kumbaya and pray for sanity to prevail.
At the end of the day I just want people to get along and be perfect..... like me! ;)
 
I recently learned that when people are telling of a traumatic experience, it's considered rude to speak of something similar that happened to you. I didn't know this and would usually do it if I had a shared experience. I always thought it was a way of showing empathy as if to say, I know the feeling because I've experienced similar. I didn't know that many looked at it as one-upsmanship. Oh well, you learn something new everyday. I'll have to be conscientious not to do this again.
I'm not sure if it's universally considered as rude. I think one-upmanship is in basically all situations somewhat rude (although easy to do mindlessly), but I'm not sure that's always the feeling conveyed when sharing a similar experience. I think the closest example of this I can think of is this forum, or support forums like this, when learning that you're not the only one who feels like you do or has experienced the things you have is comforting and helpful. On that same line, when the conversation starts to feel like people are comparing their experiences and trying to out-misery each other, its no longer helpful (for anyone).

I think it can be a fine line, but I wouldn't say there aren't times and places to share similar experiences.
 
I'm not sure if it's universally considered as rude. I think one-upmanship is in basically all situations somewhat rude (although easy to do mindlessly), but I'm not sure that's always the feeling conveyed when sharing a similar experience. I think the closest example of this I can think of is this forum, or support forums like this, when learning that you're not the only one who feels like you do or has experienced the things you have is comforting and helpful. On that same line, when the conversation starts to feel like people are comparing their experiences and trying to out-misery each other, its no longer helpful (for anyone).

I think it can be a fine line, but I wouldn't say there aren't times and places to share similar experiences.
Thanks vj288, I really hope this to be true. I can't count the number of times I've shared a similar experience I've been through on here and hoping the person I'm speaking to feels better knowing he/she is not alone. One-upsmanship is definitely not my intent when I do this. Still, I will be a little more careful in "normal" situations as I see not everyone outside of this forum appreciates it.
 
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