I don't quite understand why people who are suffering so much from loneliness, have such a desire to be with someone, when all atound them is evidence of those going through relationship issues and painful breakups.
I can see myself how good connecting with someone is great when it goes well. It is like all the lights go and there is a buzzing in your soul. I think they're great, and we think on the same wave length. You float a little on air, heart rate rises. Someone thinks I am Ok, I am not alone.
But those times are rare, and being around people is like 4 seasons in one day, with tsunamis, stormd, floods, drought, pestulence. I am beginning to understand that the trick is to look at people and be more tolerant of their idiosyncracies, and my own. The thing is I am more likely to experirnce peace and happiness on my own. People are good in small doses, it is not long before complication sets in and I am screaming to escape somewhere by myself
There are a people around me who break up and then immediately want to get together with someone else, and go through similar ptoblems all over sgain.
Then there is the pain of loss. You fall in love hard, and it ends. The pain of loss and grief is unbearable. The worst pain, you gain love, and the more you love, the worse the pain of loss is. Why go thtough that again?
I suppose life is about those times things go well, and happiness, love, inspiration achievement, peace come into your life, even if those moments are rare.