Obsession with life maintenance/future financial safety, and misplaced sense of pride mostly. When I say misplaced I meant it as in; someone using their job (and their income) as identity, rather then who they are as a person.
Taking money/a offer from someone would put them in a submissive position, because they now feel that they owe you something. Which is quite a shame because it totally ruins the nice gesture and just makes the whole situation a bit more bitter.
Mentality can be weird that way..
Or they were just raised to work for things, and not take hand-outs.
It could have something to do with integrity.
Especially if they didn't need the money, and the person was just giving it away to be nice.:😛:
Someone I thought I was close to revealed he only stuck by me because he was desperate to the point where, even if I was abusive, he would remain by my side. Seems like he would have settled for anyone willing to spare him a second glance.
I can't read people. They change like the weather. Are they being friendly of secretly having a go behind my back? It's all ying and yang, you get along with someone one day and the next they won't speak to you. Have I communicated appropropriately or will I get called names due to some misunderstanding. It's all too much, and it makes me feel unwell.
Or they were just raised to work for things, and not take hand-outs.
It could have something to do with integrity.
Especially if they didn't need the money, and the person was just giving it away to be nice.:😛:
Many nice gestures aren't about the money perse, nor about the amount. It's one thing to decline direct money offers (Example: ''Here's 5 bucks, I don't need it). That I can understand when declined, it's a little suspicious.
But when you're in a restaurant, café, mall, or anywhere else that offers an object/activity/resource for money, and a friend offers to pay that for you out of good will, it's not necessarily a hand out. At that point it's a nice gesture. The friend wants to be responsible for the (however small) amount of joy you'll get out of the object/activity/resource.
Sure there are ''friends'' that do similar to showboat how much money they have, but I'm of course not referring to those people right now.
I'm not saying that those gestures should always be nurtured, but it wouldn't hurt to do it once in a while. Because they're not declining money in the friend's eyes, they're declining kindness.
We live in a quite selfish ''my money''-era, and when people have enough money to get by in this case it wouldn't hurt people to bend their integrity a bit. Money is nothing more then a universal gift certificate. Share, and let it be shared.
My aunt kept talking to me and giving me instructions for the day while I was sleeping. And then said, "OKAY?" I said "yup" three times but she didn't hear me. So I finally said "YUP!" and she said, "Can you talk nicer? I don't talk to you like that," as she walked down the stairs.
I just got upgraded from being an intermediate user to an advanced user. I think I'll celebrate by not getting off the couch to do anything else today.
randomly cried while reading my vocational evaluation and looking for possible colleges....she's still on my mind, a lot, a whole lot. i don't think of her, specifically, as much, but she's always there like this feeling of sorrow that just kind of hangs over everything...i compare everything to her and everything reminds me of her...ah
yeah, but you still watched the Danica Patrick videos, right?
..... OK, maybe I did. But I thought it was SPW, and they'd had a redesign. Nothing to do with a sexy racing driver, I thought it was the music thread 😉
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