Post your random thoughts/feelings etc

[Hot_Tamale]

Perhaps not outright, but to some degree, aye.
Getting grief from family for still being single ain't great either, mind you.
I suppose it is human need to feel want and feel like ya belong. I've felt that I'm, either, wanted or that I belonged myself. So... :idontknow:

I understand where you're coming from. My boss told me I need a girlfriend, my doctor said he wants to see me with someone on the next visit to him in January and my own dad asked me if I was gay a few years ago. I've never been in a relationship before either.

 

[Graeme1988]

I understand where you're coming from. My boss told me I need a girlfriend, my doctor said he wants to see me with someone on the next visit to him in January and my own dad asked me if I was gay a few years ago. I've never been in a relationship before either.

I can relate there. Especially the being asked if I was gay by my family. My mum and sisters would constantly ask me that during my adolescents, to the point I just ignored the question.

Even now, they feign shock and surprise if some young lass about my age is noticeably eyeing me up whenever I'm out in public with them. mg: Which kinda embarrassing for me - y'know, the fact my family all but yell about these brief moments when they occur.

 

[theslowesthand]

Bull poop you say? In some ways and some ways no. Isn't it a basic human need to feel wanted or to feel like you belong? I do agree that the medias over glorification of it is downright sleazy business tactics though

I don't believe its a human need, but only a want, and that want has been "programmed" into us since birth (ie nurture, not nature). And the programming has been done well, so seamlessly, that we believe they are needs, and not wants or luxuries (like sweet cakes & biscuits).
Like xmas season, the media takes it, & feeds us back a distorted incorrect message, which is then maintained by almost all of society.

 

[SilentAndShy]

I wish I could go back in time and refuse that offer of marriage..

I liked my life on my own. Having to be judged on living up to the normal expectations of marriage by other people sucks

 

[BlackPuma]

I think I may be inherently unlikable. People seem to be uncomfortably humouring me for the duration, until they have a chance to politely decline friendship and future interaction.

At a certain point I need to have the self awareness to realize it's really not them - it's me. I feel sorry for those that have to put up with me, or had. Truly, without sarcasm, I'm sorry people have to deal with a broken person tarnishing what could be a fun moment in their lives.

What broke in me will never come back, and it's not right others have to suffer for it.

 

[Graeme1988]

I think I may be inherently unlikable. People seem to be uncomfortably humouring me for the duration, until they have a chance to politely decline friendship and future interaction.

At a certain point I need to have the self awareness to realize it's really not them - it's me. I feel sorry for those that have to put up with me, or had. Truly, without sarcasm, I'm sorry people have to deal with a broken person tarnishing what could be a fun moment in their lives.

What broke in me will never come back, and it's not right others have to suffer for it.

That's how I feel about myself. :sad:

 

[Graeme1988]

My mum's kicking off and being "eccentric"... again. mg: Why am I forced to suffer this immature, stupid behaviour? :kickingmyself:

 

[theslowesthand]

I think it's not a bad idea to start the new year on a realistic level, rather than too high or too low, especially for people like us.
http://www.dear******.com/8-expectations-we-had-in-our-20s-vs-reality/lifestyle/girl-talk/

Edit: Might not apply to many here, but it's just the idea of lowering expectations to that of reality.
Swear filter appears to have broken above link, so try this one: 8 Expectations We Had In Our 20s vs Reality
Nope, still got "******" in url.
--> 8 Expectations We Had In Our 20s vs Reality (you will need to manually change the address of page, by inserting an "a" in place of the "*" at end of "vagin")

 

[PugofCrydee]

wow... really, really quiet period on SPW.. *crickets*...

*tumbleweeds*...

*wind blowing*....

 

[Graeme1988]

I keep trying, then... Deleting. Type. Delete. Type. Delete.

Guess that what I get for not being emotionally intelligent enough to express how I'm feeling. :kickingmyself:

I wish I didn't feel as self-conscious of myself everytime I walked out the front door of my house. You'd think as physically disabled person I'd be used to people staring, but no... mg:

 

[Megaten]

Ive really screwed myself. Not exactly sure whats going to happen with my plans for the future now but all I know is its my own damn fault.

 

[theslowesthand]

Ive really screwed myself. Not exactly sure whats going to happen with my plans for the future now but all I know is its my own damn fault

Well the main thing is to have a roof over your head, and food on the table. All the rest is window dressing, as they say.

 

[mantishugo]

I have been feeling little pain in the chest region on left side. I know it is not a heart attack as it has been for one month. It happens sometimes and lasts long for 2-5 minutes. I think it is related to gas. This has made me little depressed.

 

[Megaten]

Well the main thing is to have a roof over your head, and food on the table. All the rest is window dressing, as they say.

I wish that was enough for me to be happy. I wish it was my own roof too.

 

[PugofCrydee]

its interesting how a girl can call you on the phone, be excited to talk to you, literally say she loves you ..and then 24 hours later just erase you from her life...after a year and a half of this she just suddenly says she doesnt want to be friends with me anymore, blocks my number, and pretty much erases any sign that ANYTHING ever happened between us.......its almost feels like she's just finished with me..i had served my purpose in her life so she just threw me away.


after all the times i was there for her and listened to her cry and talk about her life and how hard things are for her, tried to give her advice, was there for her when she felt completly alone......after a year and a half of that she just throws me away like I'm nothing.

Girls - more specifically the less mature ones, will use and abuse you.
They will keep you around until they find something/someone they consider better or more useful.

But in 'ditching' you they have in fact done you a favor. (Although you may not currently see it that way). The best thing for anyone is to have these sorts of ppl (toxic ppl) cut from their lives.

So my friend, try to look at it as a positive rather than a negative. Because a girl worth knowing wouldn't treat you that way.

 

[FountainandFairfax]

My mum's kicking off and being "eccentric"... again. mg: Why am I forced to suffer this immature, stupid behaviour? :kickingmyself:

Oh boy... "eccentric." I used to know a girl who covered all her shitty behavior with that word, that and "passionate." They're code words for childish.

 

[Graeme1988]

Oh boy... "eccentric." I used to know a girl who covered all her shitty behavior with that word, that and "passionate." They're code words for childish.

Aye, that's true. I'm getting really fed-up with having to put up with it, though.
Just having to accept it, otherwise I'm an "uptight" arsehole.

It's stressful being only member of my immediate family who's self-aware enough to realise people tend to treat ya based upon how you treat them or conduct yerself. Y'know the hilarious thing is, my family would contextualise what I just said there as me saying I'm better than them were I to actually say that out loud. Can't win at all. :sad:

 

[S_Spartan]

its interesting how a girl can call you on the phone, be excited to talk to you, literally say she loves you ..and then 24 hours later just erase you from her life...after a year and a half of this she just suddenly says she doesnt want to be friends with me anymore, blocks my number, and pretty much erases any sign that ANYTHING ever happened between us.......its almost feels like she's just finished with me..i had served my purpose in her life so she just threw me away.


after all the times i was there for her and listened to her cry and talk about her life and how hard things are for her, tried to give her advice, was there for her when she felt completly alone......after a year and a half of that she just throws me away like I'm nothing.

You should never give a woman more than she gives to you. Many women can not, and will not respect a man who does that.
Not saying that you did that but it sounds like you were there for her a lot from what you wrote here.
The best thing to do in this situation is to learn from it and give the next one less of your attention.

 

[theslowesthand]

"Novelty is one of the keys to happiness". Interesting... :thinking:

 

[FountainandFairfax]

Aye, that's true. I'm getting really fed-up with having to put up with it, though.
Just having to accept it, otherwise I'm an "uptight" arsehole.

It's stressful being only member of my immediate family who's self-aware enough to realise people tend to treat ya based upon how you treat them or conduct yerself. Y'know the hilarious thing is, my family would contextualise what I just said there as me saying I'm better than them were I to actually say that out loud. Can't win at all. :sad:

I hear you. Any time I'd get fed up she'd try to twist it around like I was the one with a problem. "God, you're so petulant! or "Are you a woman?" :bigsmile:

Just remember that you're actually the one who's well in this situation. They're simply trying to maintain the status quo and keep things the way they are.

You don't have to win the argument to be right.