Argh!
There is a board game that some friends of mine and I like quite a lot. Two close friends of mine (let's call them Sandra and Michelle) wanted to show that game to a third friend (let's call her Brigitte) and her Boyfriend (let's call him Mark). The latter two I know and are nice people, but I see them maybe once a year, so I don't really care.
Sandra and Michelle are close friends of mine, so they asked me whether I'd want to join. They also asked Sarah, who is another close friend of ours. Sarah also asked her mother.
So it would be:
sandra and michelle, who thought of this
brigitte and her boyfriend, who are supposed to learn the game
sarah and I, who joined too, because we are close friends of most who participate
sarahs mother, who is simply a nice person and shows up every now and then
Then I thought "well, this board game is mostly about communicating, and is meant to be only for five people. We are seven. My voice is very quiet, with seven people around, I'd have the feeling of having to scream constantly to be even heard. That would be annoying. Well, I see those friends often, and we play the game often, so I'll just skip it."
So I told sandra, michelle and sarah: "it's a bit a lot of people for me, but we will meet in the evening anyway, so I will not show up for that board game."
Ok, so Sara got angry on me. I didn't expect that. She got angry on me because she thinks that Michelle is angry on her, because Michelle would like me to be there, and now I'm not, because there are too many people, one of them being Sarahs mother, who was invited late. So Sarah thinks that Michelle is angry on her for having me leave because of her inviting her mother.
ARRRRRGH!!!!
That's all crazy!
I told her "noooo, michelle will not be angry on you. I do not leave because of your mother, but simply because it's too many people and I think that's a bit stressful. But we see each other every few days and play the game quite often, so what does it matter!"
GAAAAAAHHHHH!!!! :kickingmyself:
I just had a 30 minute chat with Sarah, trying to tell her that nobody will be angry on her. Why are people so complicated? Why can't they just say "oh, a pity, but we see each other often anyway". And now I feel bad because Sarah is angry and Michelle is disappointed. If it would be about a vacation we planned in Japan for a month or something, I'd understand it. But I just saw them yesterday. I saw them three days ago. I see them tomorrow evening. Why is this worth all the fuss? We meet constantly and play board games. It's not even like the game is unplayable tomorrow. It's for up to five people. When I don't show up tomorrow, there will still be six people there. Why this discussion? :kickingmyself:
