Post the most couragious thing you did this week?
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sevenroses
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This week I'm getting better feeling more conformable in the mall and spent lots of time there and starting to not care what people thought of me.
Today I was officially accepted to volunteer at the Mercury Insurance Open, so that's something. What have I gotten myself into?
dottie
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made a father's day call to long distant relative who i haven't spoken with in years. got the answering machine so i felt relieved. still was nerve wracking. god i'm such a pansy.
i think it is the whole "fake" vs "yourself" thing... is it fake to have a cheerful disposition while interacting with others? i mean, i really want people to believe i'm sweet, thoughtful, and want to connect (and i do feel it is true). but it's something i really have to push for. because it takes effort does it mean it is fake? i worry i don't come across as genuine. blegh. i worry too much.
i think it is the whole "fake" vs "yourself" thing... is it fake to have a cheerful disposition while interacting with others? i mean, i really want people to believe i'm sweet, thoughtful, and want to connect (and i do feel it is true). but it's something i really have to push for. because it takes effort does it mean it is fake? i worry i don't come across as genuine. blegh. i worry too much.
GhoulsNightOut
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I didn't ditch my discussion class yesterday when I knew there was a chance the TA (Teacher's Aid) would go around the room again asking each student about their research topic.
When she did that on the first day, I was so caught off guard that I trembled in my seat and when my turn came I stammered and spoke really fast. I felt so embarrassed because everyone else was calm and smooth, and I got a huge headache afterward.
I also have a history of ditching classes, dropping classes, and skipping assignments because I had to speak in front of people or work in a group...so when I stayed for that class yesterday it was a big deal for me. I still shook in my seat, my heart was pounding, and I stammered but I got it over with and actually felt good about it later on. I just hope I can keep this up for the next 4 weeks....
When she did that on the first day, I was so caught off guard that I trembled in my seat and when my turn came I stammered and spoke really fast. I felt so embarrassed because everyone else was calm and smooth, and I got a huge headache afterward.
I also have a history of ditching classes, dropping classes, and skipping assignments because I had to speak in front of people or work in a group...so when I stayed for that class yesterday it was a big deal for me. I still shook in my seat, my heart was pounding, and I stammered but I got it over with and actually felt good about it later on. I just hope I can keep this up for the next 4 weeks....
dottie
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hi ghoul, i was just wondering if it helps if you sit in an edge seat very close to the door? or in the very back where you will not be looked at? i struggled with school, too, and i found that sitting near the door where i felt i could escape, if necessary, relieved my panic a little. if you haven't tried it, give it a whirl. and hang in there!
lyricalliaisons
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Phone calls: I talked to nurses, a social worker, & the billing department at the nursing home my moms at. Plus, I scheduled an appointment with my therapist & psychiatrist.
JonnyD
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good work, i made myself a fool more then once trying to avoid doing favor to people just because i was afraid !I just went outside my house! My neighbours rang up to ask if i could shut and lock there back door for them and i did it! Even managed to have a conversation with them both with little anxiety.
Today is sunday so it doenst count, but yesterday i was talking to a girl i have a bit of crush , i was just making up conversation to keep talking to her... i was terrified but that went alright, she laughted and we chatted for a while
HeavyRain
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Yesterday I finally mustered up the courage to make a facebook account.
I know it may sound like a small accomplishment to others, but to me I've been struggling for quite some time to make one.
I've always been afraid to be found and confronted on there by people I'd rather not socialize with, and to be further judged. Also I've been worried by the amount of friends I'd have, but I've gotten over that silly matter, and only a select few will really count to me.
I'm somewhat proud of myself, though still a little anxious about it.
I know it may sound like a small accomplishment to others, but to me I've been struggling for quite some time to make one.
I've always been afraid to be found and confronted on there by people I'd rather not socialize with, and to be further judged. Also I've been worried by the amount of friends I'd have, but I've gotten over that silly matter, and only a select few will really count to me.
I'm somewhat proud of myself, though still a little anxious about it.
GhoulsNightOut
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hi ghoul, i was just wondering if it helps if you sit in an edge seat very close to the door? or in the very back where you will not be looked at? i struggled with school, too, and i found that sitting near the door where i felt i could escape, if necessary, relieved my panic a little. if you haven't tried it, give it a whirl. and hang in there!
Hey, Dottie :]
Yeah, sitting near the door definitely gives me comfort too, but so far others keep beating me to it. hahah
To my surprise, sitting in the back was actually worst! When I was called on, half the class turned and looked at me (probably 'cause they remembered me from the first day, gahh), whereas when I sat at the front before, I could only see a few people from my sides looking at me. I also had to project my voice more from the back. So much for my favorite spot...
But thanks for the suggestions anyway
I'm Not There
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While I was waiting for the bus, some girl came sitting next to me. I thought I recognized her; we went to the same school and I used to have a crush on her. The least I could do now was asking whether she remembered me. It would also be a great opportunity for me to ask her e-mail address or something, I would've never forgiven myself if I didn't as I probably wouldn't see her again for a long time. Minutes were passing by as I was mustering up the courage to talk to her.
Meanwhile, two of her friends (one guy, one other girl) joined her, making it even more difficult for me. As my heart rate reached its maximum, I finally dared to talk to her. Turns out she wasn't at all the girl I had in mind. She just resembled her. I obviously looked like an idiot while trying to find my words, but now I look upon it as the most couragious thing I've done in the last couple of months.
Meanwhile, two of her friends (one guy, one other girl) joined her, making it even more difficult for me. As my heart rate reached its maximum, I finally dared to talk to her. Turns out she wasn't at all the girl I had in mind. She just resembled her. I obviously looked like an idiot while trying to find my words, but now I look upon it as the most couragious thing I've done in the last couple of months.
