Re: POLL #3:What is the main "defect" you have which you fear other people will disco
I put "other".
I don't want people to know what I am really capable of. Some people do, and they take great pains to never be within a hundred yards of me. Some people know a little and they are still my friends. But I don't want them to know everything. I am not sure that any one would want any thing to do with me if they did.:🙁::🙁:
Re: POLL #3:What is the main "defect" you have which you fear other people will disco
I am a "substandard" in general. I mean, I think I would pick many of your options. I'm ugly, I'm boring, I'm a failure... and on top of that, there's my SAD issue... In a few words, "substandard":🙁:
I'm not sure about how to answer this one.
I have an inherent conflict in that I am extremely arrogant, so I think that I am smart, intelligent, or whatever, but also have social anxiety disorder. I just fear that people will misperceive me, and think that I am not as capable as I think I am.
I am not really afraid about anything in particular, I am just afraid that people think of me negatively in any way, period.
I guess that it means that I am afraid that people will think that I am substandard, not in general, but in any given area.
Wow, I feel the exact same way about myself. I also fear that people think I'm ugly due to insults in past.
Pretty much all of the above, with the exception of blushing. However, I definitely have to choose ugly as the main "defect" because that is what I obsess with the most and have the most problems with. I'll always feel substandard in general, which I think goes hand in hand with some of the other options.
Re: POLL #3:What is the main "defect" you have which you fear other people will disco
great question! I went for "other". I think for me it's a fear of being a bad person. The fear of shame and guilt, I think that's what I hate the most. But it's a really great question! I think I'll keep pondering it a bit more...
Re: POLL #3:What is the main "defect" you have which you fear other people will disco
ahh... I chose 'being a failure'
Although I could've also picked many of the other options just as easily...
I've had this problem in the past where people build me up to being someone who is amazing at everything for some reason... they just figure that I look like superwoman or something-- then they find out that I have a potty mouth... and I'm not very smart or pretty or healthy, or good at anything and I hardly ever go through with something all the way because I always chicken out and give up. I just don't care enough to go through with anything.
And there've been many potential 'friends' who just ignored me after realizing how much I suck and how boring and ugly I am as far as people go.
There's alot of hard proof, really... so I know it's true. haha
And I guess that's one thing that I can't stand about people- it horrifies me-- how someone can have a 360 overnight and go from thinking you're a goddess to thinking you're not worth the breath to speak to anymore.
people are such.... people. What can I say? -___-
oh well.
Re: POLL #3:What is the main "defect" you have which you fear other people will disco
Ugly and boring. I feel ugly in general, even when I'm not anxious and I think about the future and getting a job and taking care of my appearance by buying nice clothes, getting my hair done, etc. I'm constantly thinking about turning pretty in the future and that it's impossible to make friends because of my...icky appearance now.
I only feel boring when I'm anxious because anxiety stops me from saying anything interesting at all. I like who I am around people who don't make me anxious (mainly my family). Smart and quirky.
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