pls help me..i feel terrible and lost...:(

[giantyx]

i feel so depressed at the thought of finding a job as i have juz graduated...i study mechanical engineering but i hated it..and my SA makes it all the more worse....now i dunno where my career path lies...i juz dunno wad to do anymore...now i feel so terrible alone outside and even so with a few 'frens', they ask me what am i been doing, i just say im rotting at home.. ...pls help me...i need advice..

 

[Emmaa]

Do you have parents that you can talk to? Or even a counsellor or something like that?

Discuss your goals and how you think you could achieve them and also work on things bit by bit.

Good luck

 

[N04h]

Try talking to your lecturer

 

[Kiwong]

Find someone to talk to: family, counsellors either career and personal. See if you can come up with a plan to get out of your rot.

 

[babegolden20]

Wow you studied mechanical engineering...im jealous already. You dont have to work around many ppl doing a job like that do ya?

 

[DespairSoul]

Aww one smartie here Look try to find some help as people above me write.
I know is hard, but if u already did degree like that is amazing its mean u are smart
and brave! Try to talk to someone who can understand u,work on your preparing to get job where u will feel the most comfortable what u can.

 

[Warpstone]

Hi everyone!

I haven't posted any messages here before but I thought this would be a good opportunity for it.

I've also studied mechanical engineering and used to be pretty good in it and I've actually won my country's championship in CAD Desing. At the time I also had a pretty good job and I was even paid for giving lectures on CAD Desing at my workplace before I had even graduated. After the graduation I started my postgraduate studies in media technology but it didn't feel right to me anymore. By the time I started my studies my social anxiety got way worse than before and I also began to show sings of depression and the fact that I was studying in the daytime, working in the evenings and attending the world champpionship contest in mechanical engineering at the same time got only things to go worse. Eventualy I had to drop out from the evening works and the world champpionship contest and try to focus more on my studies. But still it just didin't feel right to me. I just had somehow lost the passion I used to have for my field before and it wasn't long until I decided to put my current studies in hold and attend a university to study theology. Will I ever get there and will it feel right to me, I don't know, only the time will tell.

You ask where your carreer path lies? Well I can't give you answer to that, no one can and I think it's good that way becouse how boring would the life be if you would know everything for sure before it has even happened. But if you don't ever try new things and new ways then you stay stuck in your old manners. So if you feel like changing your carreer field, do it. because otherwise you won't ever find out what else you could have been.

PS: I don't no if this post was helpfull to you but hopefully you can get something from it.

...And sorry for the long post.

 

[StandingJelly]

Thx warpstone, I think i got something from that post of yours

But I keep hearing people say you must have a goal etc, I guess you can let it be changing

 

[dragonoth]

Woah, I never expected to find others doing mechanical engineering like me! I'm currently in my 2nd year and like you guys I don't really enjoy it (so boringgggg) but I'm only sticking to it cos I have nothing better in mind. Like you I've got no idea what to do in life and the thought of getting a job is veeeeery scary...I don't know how people can just get one without being afraid to in the first place! But I think Warpstone is right - we need to get out there and try new things. I once talked to a man who said that he stumbled across his 'calling' by chance whilst working for a company, so maybe just go for something that vaguely interests you and you may hit gold. Best of luck!

 

[giantyx]

the problem is i cannot think of wad i wan in life, seriously i have a problem because i have no ambition ,i just live for the sake of living. and it is just so stressful to live in singapore, people just do notunderstand SA here, i have been to the pychaitrist, psychologist, i needed help from my sch counsellors and even th department head to deag me through the final 2 years(i spend 5 years completing my degree) and it was a total torture in my 5 years of study, i hated everything, had to complete it just not to make my parents sad as well as not to waste school fees. In the end, my condition is still the same, nothing has changed me, i just keep falling back into this quicksand...

 

[giantyx]

and i hate it when i meet up with my so called 'friends', they are just w8ing to attack me, asking me if i am still rotting at home, or telling me to come out often and not be a nerd..when they do not knw that i am having this anxety problem. they do not believe that i have this problem, and i always, always feel miserable going out with them, they just treat me as another person to make up the numbers...

 

[Feathers]

hmm, studying something just for the sake of parents can kinda suck..
and many people feel 'lost' after finishing school (especially if they hated it) Sometimes work is better than school though.. (just ask Puma on this site )

people *do* change careers all the time too... or at least transition from own field to a related field, or even to something else completely..

I know someone who started studying economy (for her parents' sake) and wasn't interested in it at all, couldn't finish it, then studied ethnology 'for her soul', travelled and had study/work experience/internship abroad (enjoyed some of it a lot, hated some of it, it was still good experience!) and then even finished her 1st degree!! She's had jobs connected with either or both of her studies, and the travel/work/study abroad experience!!

Soo-- there are many ways to professional career and many different lifestyles..

If you google 'career change' a lot of links and articles pop up.. I also recommend the book What Color Is Your Parachute? You can 'test' any possible interests by talking to someone who works in an interesting job etc.

Who do you admire and what looks like an interesting job and what would you like to get paid for?

Also, this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfq_A8nXMsQ

 

[Madix]

Hey man. I know EXACTLY what your going through right now okay. and what you need is a straight foward answer. not some of that fckin psychcologist councler bs. you need to transform your ambitions man. ya ur a smart man, thats obvious. and thats tool that will save you. but what you need is to start doing things for yourself. start a project or something. just do something that you will be proud of yourself for. and the SP feelings will just fly out the window. trust me...ive been on this site for a while man. and since 2 weeks ago...haha yeah man ive been all good...longest ive been without axiety in YEEEARRS. (yeah sometimes it comes back) but THERE IS a way to snap yourself out of it. that i know could work for everyone. i kno espeacially for u.

me and you gotta talk on here alright. ill help you get out of this mental nightmare. just shoot me a message n well talk. I got you.

 

[panicsurvivor]

Wow. I need to reality check all three of you. Your state of mind is one thing, but people that are studying Mechanical Engineering are not devoid of ambition. You guys are smart and doing better than most, just by attending and understanding these classes. LOL. I am not telling you that you don't have problems, I just want you to give yourselves credit where it is due. I have a lot of respect for people like you who can understand the way things work, I mean really work. I just wanted to give you guys props for that.

 

[dragonoth]

Hey thanks panicsurvivor for the compliment. It's great that you think highly of us engineers. Maybe we aren't totally devoid of ambition, we just got lost somewhere along the road! Although tbh I really only picked this degree cos it's flexible and enables me to go into a whole range of things...none of which particularly interest me

 

[awkwardamanda]

I feel your pain. I actually dropped out of civil engineering after two years of school. One of the (many) reasons was that I really didn't like all the group work. And that would have continued into the work world as well. Mainly, I just didn't like it. I switched into a program in applied math which I enjoyed a lot more. It was much easier, although even that stressed me to hell. Engineering was insanely demanding. I don't know how anybody with issues like SA and depression can ever get through that. But even having studied something I enjoyed, I'm completely lost too. I finished a year and a half ago and I still can't motivate myself to look for a new job because I dread it so much. I really have no direction in life and it's depressing as hell.::

 

[dragonoth]

Yeah, engineering IS demanding. Sometimes the group work thing puts me off too but at the end of the day you just have to suck it up and get things done. When I graduate (I hope make it that far!) I don't think I'll be pursuing a career in engineering. The whole job thing also scares me but I have 2 and half more years to go to try and get over it.

 

[awkwardamanda]

Yeah, engineering IS demanding. Sometimes the group work thing puts me off too but at the end of the day you just have to suck it up and get things done. When I graduate (I hope make it that far!) I don't think I'll be pursuing a career in engineering. The whole job thing also scares me but I have 2 and half more years to go to try and get over it.

Hey, even if you decide not to become an engineer, that's still good knowledge to have. I'm sure there are plenty of related fields you could work in that require people with training in math/science/computing/etc.

 

[JamesSmith]

Hi, I don't even have a degree and am unemployed. Being lost and having no ambition has been my specialty for my entire life. In the USA we have like 9% unemployment rate, so I'm not sure what Singapore is like, but there are others in the same boat as you. All we can do is keep looking for work. Many people such as myself even have to work jobs that aren't satisfactory to them. It's either that, or not work at all.

 

[Liam17]

I'm looking for a job, and i'm having no luck ):