Openers to make friends or get a gf or bf

[Mr_Vabanque]

I was on an elevator once with this girl. I hadn't slept at all the night before and i felt kinda light headed and i thought, you could actually just ask her a completely excentric and blatantly interested question like: "what do you read?" or "what do you think about X". I thought that way you could actually bypass the first impression or better: if she's the right type for it, you could actually move the focus of the first impression away from physical to other things. ( things she could feel insecure about for a change)
I know a lot of things need to come together for that not to be pretentious or awkward, so you better add two pinches of 'irony' and complicity. The right mindset for this would be to not give a ****.

 

[Mr_Vabanque]

The idea behind that is to put yourself into a "demanding" position. If she's the discursive type, she might fall for it ....right?

 

[rustyrus303]

don't you think that would make you sound a bit desparate tho? maybe would work if youre really good looking though.

heres one...
you: Hi, have you got a light?
Her: No, i don't smoke
You: Me either

nah cos i say it like a joke like im completely not desperate, even though i am

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

I feel like such an idiot now. The other day I went to the mall with some friends to go take some Purikura (those really cute pictures you take in those Japanese photo booths) at this new bowling alley/arcade they opened at the local mall and my friend and I were sitting in the booth, waiting for our other friends to come back with some tokens to use the photo booth. While waiting, I was playing around with my phone absentmindedly and I suddenly looked up and saw this really cute guy standing next to the booth looking at me. I looked over at my friend thinking he was looking at her but she didn't even notice him standing there, so I just looked back at him and gave him a small smile. He said "hey", I replied with a shy "hi", then he asked me "Do I know you?" and I said "I don't think so". Then he just shrugged and I shrugged awkwardly in response and looked back down at my phone, afraid to look up and see him staring at me. I was so tense the entire time. After about 30 seconds I looked back up and he was gone. I felt so stupid after that and felt even dumber that my friend hadn't noticed what had happened at all!

Now after reading this post I realize that maybe this guy was interested in me and was trying to use one of these "openers" on me and I totally blew it. Haha wow I really am hopeless ::

 

[userremoved]

I feel like such an idiot now. The other day I went to the mall with some friends to go take some Purikura (those really cute pictures you take in those Japanese photo booths) at this new bowling alley/arcade they opened at the local mall and my friend and I were sitting in the booth, waiting for our other friends to come back with some tokens to use the photo booth. While waiting, I was playing around with my phone absentmindedly and I suddenly looked up and saw this really cute guy standing next to the booth looking at me. I looked over at my friend thinking he was looking at her but she didn't even notice him standing there, so I just looked back at him and gave him a small smile. He said "hey", I replied with a shy "hi", then he asked me "Do I know you?" and I said "I don't think so". Then he just shrugged and I shrugged awkwardly in response and looked back down at my phone, afraid to look up and see him staring at me. I was so tense the entire time. After about 30 seconds I looked back up and he was gone. I felt so stupid after that and felt even dumber that my friend hadn't noticed what had happened at all!

Now after reading this post I realize that maybe this guy was interested in me and was trying to use one of these "openers" on me and I totally blew it. Haha wow I really am hopeless ::

Na if he didn't say anything else after you said "I dont think so" then maybe he really did think you were familiar. Otherwise I figured he'd say something else after he broke the ice. No biggie

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

Na if he didn't say anything else after you said "I dont think so" then maybe he really did think you were familiar. Otherwise I figured he'd say something else after he broke the ice. No biggie

True. *Sigh* I really don't get people anymore :I

 

[userremoved]

True. *Sigh* I really don't get people anymore :I

I actually get that a lot because I have one of those generic standard issue faces lmao. Either that or Im getting hit on constantly and blowing my chances >.<

 

[mattbarneswillkillu]

50 Cent - Get In My Car - YouTube

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

In brief, the trick is use openers. An opener is how you start a conversation.

First of all, you have to use non-verbal communication (make friendly eye contact, and smile). If the girl or guy look back to you in less than 60 seconds, that means she/he is interested.

After that, you have to approach to she/he and use an opener.

Classic openers: Hi, Hey, My name is...., You look like someone I'd like to meet.

Compliment openers: I like your hair.
you have a beautiful smile.
you have captivating eyes.
you are in a good shape.

Opinion openers: I need an opinion on something. You could really help me out; it'll only take a second.
That's a really cool tatoo! When did you get it? Like, how old were you?

Question openers: Excuse me, aren't you...? You look exactly like...


Direct openers: That dress you're wearing, it looks great on you.
You're absolutely adorable. I need to meet you.
What is your name?

I am hoping the wink indicates this whole post is a joke.

 

[skins]

I actually get that a lot because I have one of those generic standard issue faces lmao. Either that or Im getting hit on constantly and blowing my chances >.<

sorry to say ladies but yes, you're actually getting hit on when guys come up ask that...its a classic conversation starter or "opener" known amongst guys to use on girls they like....its not that they actually believe they may know you at all lol ...i can't belive you would even think that....just ask any guys how often it happens to them, and i bet they tell you rarely if never. Just another reason why girls get it easier in the dating game *sigh*

 

[userremoved]

sorry to say ladies but yes, you're actually getting hit on when guys come up ask that...its a classic conversation starter or "opener" known amongst guys to use on girls they like....its not that they actually believe they may know you at all lol ...i can't belive you would even think that....just ask any guys how often it happens to them, and i bet they tell you rarely if never. Just another reason why girls get it easier in the dating game *sigh*

I'm not a girl ::

 

[Dj SL]

how about this one?

"Hello, I am enter name here. I am not a stalker, pervert, psychopath or serial killer. I saw you from across the room and thought you looked delicious--- I mean... I thought you looked like a good person! Would you like to be my friend?"

If that line doesn't make friends, I don't know what would!

yes it would work If you change it a little bit the sentence.

Correction: Hello, I am.... I think you're a good person! Would you like to be my friend?

^ This

 

[Dj SL]

don't you think that would make you sound a bit desparate tho? maybe would work if youre really good looking though.

heres one...
you: Hi, have you got a light?
Her: No, i don't smoke
You: Me either

you: Hi, have you got a light?
her: No, I don't smoke
you: me either, It's a joke.. I just decided to approach to you because you look friendly.
her: yes, I am
you: I study at [name of the school] or I work at [where you work] What do you do?
her: I'm a full time student and I work part time
you: That's great, Don't you think is difficult study and work?
her: yes, It is difficult and my work sucks
you: why it sucks? where do you work?

Advice: Keep the conversation going on.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

yes it would work If you change it a little bit the sentence.

Correction: Hello, I am.... I think you're a good person! Would you like to be my friend?

^ This

OH!! So that's what I've been doing wrong!!

 

[JamesSmith]

No matter what you say, it won't work on most women. A huge amount of women already have boyfriends or husbands, especially at my age, which is an immediate turn-down for the guy trying to make the move.

Even if the woman doesn't have a significant other, no matter what you say, your odds of success are less than 50%.

What I'm trying to say is, be prepared for failure.

 

[JamesSmith]

I actually get that a lot because I have one of those generic standard issue faces lmao. Either that or Im getting hit on constantly and blowing my chances >.<

You are getting hit on pretty much every time a guy uses that line on you. In fact, that's blatantly obvious.

I've never had a woman come up to me and ask me if they know me or tell me I look like someone. Been to over 50 parties too.

 

[userremoved]

You are getting hit on pretty much every time a guy uses that line on you. In fact, that's blatantly obvious.

I've never had a woman come up to me and ask me if they know me or tell me I look like someone. Been to over 50 parties too.

Well I have had girls mistake me for someone else. One time I had one run up and grab me (obviously upset) only to see I was not the guy she angry at. Had some girl call me "Mike" yelling from their car. I'm not Mike. At a cafe, the girl behind the register asked me if I was gonna get the usual. I said "Huh? What are you talking about?" she said "You know, a banana cappuccino", I've never ordered that crap there before... And then guys have mistaken me for a lot of people. Maybe that is a pick up line but personally I get mistaken for a lot of people.

 

[SM1010]

Well I have had girls mistake me for someone else. One time I had one run up and grab me (obviously upset) only to see I was not the guy she angry at. Had some girl call me "Mike" yelling from their car. I'm not Mike. At a cafe, the girl behind the register asked me if I was gonna get the usual. I said "Huh? What are you talking about?" she said "You know, a banana cappuccino", I've never ordered that crap there before... And then guys have mistaken me for a lot of people.

Haha that's awesome, cracked me up. I don't think anyone's ever confused me with anyone. Not that I can recall anyway.

Anyway before we worry about approaching and lines just start saying "hi" to random people. If it's a hot girl don't even worry about saying anything after, just get used to talking to random people.

That's what I've been trying to do. It does help.

 

[Sial Axetder]

Smiling bit seems true. Although I don't know from experience. I am the serious type, very difficult for me to smile.

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

Hmmm...

Shark Attack 3 - That Famous Line - YouTube

Perhaps a bit too forward in reality.