one comment which has affected your confidence

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"It's not you it's me". The one line uttered by the fairer sex that I can't stand. Just be freaking honest. I can't stand lies by anybody. How about have some B**ls and just tell the truth. When you don't tell the truth guys don't know what they need to fix and over-analyze what the truth is and can kill one's confidence.

I know what you're saying. You begin to mull over every little thing that could possibly be wrong with you that would have made her reject you. After a while if not careful you begin the think that everything is wrong with you. There were times I spent hours wondering what I might have screwed up.
 
an ex once tried to destroy me with my height ( I am only 5 ft 6" , not a fkin giant )


he would go on and on AND ON about "petite" girls , that he prefers them , its how women should be .....I grew to loathe and still do , the term "petite" when describing a woman.

Then one christmas I met his family for the first time ( by the way he was 5 ft 7" ) and that's when the penny dropped........

all of his brothers where 6 footers ...except him .... it wasnt me who was a misfit of life it was him in his mind .....he had short man syndrome ..

from that point forward I just looked at him with pity and put my heels back on.

the moral of the story


it's usually their own petty insecurities that lead a person to try and mentally destroy you.
 

Hellhound

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A positive one. A few little kids in my art school left their class for a moment because they wanted to meet me. My teacher has been showing my work around and these kids were curious about who the artist was. They followed me around and talked to me for IDFK how long (which made me a bit nervous, since I'm not used to talk much). It's funny how some adult people fear me... but kids seem not to have any problem at all. I don't get it :confused:
 

Damaged

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Thats properly just to do with his own insecurities. I know a couple. The husband is always telling the wife shes fat. Shes pretty toned and I see her running almost everyday while he's sat at home eating pies. fecker.

Yeah, i can understand where he was coming from though. After a month of being with me i develop agoraphobia and i do get fat from being indoors all day. But still his words made me by a running machine and i lost it all, and now we broken up hes jealous that im all skinny and in shape :cool::cool::cool:
 
just right now i've had a comment that has affected my confidence. actually affected isn't even the word- i feel absolutely terrible after it :( my mother said something cruel about my appearance. she didn't mean to hurt me/ it just happened. i just feel like hiding myself from the world forever now!! UGH

oh mums and their comments ( I am trying not to be one of those mums , but honest it just comes out ;) )


I do feel for you , when I told mine I was pregnant.... she tutted..hahahaha

I wouldnt mind but I was 32 !!!!! :rolleyes:



sundaygirl , seriously are you ok ?? its not welcome is it , especially when its your mum or dad etc .
 
no I can't understand why your mum would either , but I do know your not alone , and for some reason mums and dads are often the root of many many problems .... I don't know if its envy or simply because they can.

I imagine it affects you so bad because it is your mum , and mums arn't supposed to do that , or say that or act like that , and I guess we are brought up surrounded by stereotypical images of the "perfect" families , who you can turn to no matter what and they support you. However , its not the case and for the ones that know its not the case its a real kick in the teeth.

Please try and find your smile today :D
 
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hangbi92

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just right now i've had a comment that has affected my confidence. actually affected isn't even the word- i feel absolutely terrible after it :( my mother said something cruel about my appearance. she didn't mean to hurt me/ it just happened. i just feel like hiding myself from the world forever now!! UGH

Maybe its just your mum was in a bad mood or sth, and like you said she didnt mean to hurt you. I had been told like that before, by my dad. Although he was a really great dad, there was time when he got angry at me and said things that hurt my feelings. But then everything went back to normal. I hope u dont take that too seriously
 

Redskinsfan

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What's one thing in your lifetime that someone told you that has affected your confidence?

A girl i had to share a work space with in college told me i was no fun to be with and that i had no clue how to talk to people. This was ten years ago yet i still have this going through my mind, and i am constantly worried about how people see me. It seems to bother me a lot that i think that people see me as boring becasue i have a hard time maintaining conversation.

I know what you mean. Nobody has told me that I'm boring. But it's one of my worst fears. I would kill to be funnier and or more entertaining in social settings.
 

Felgen

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just right now i've had a comment that has affected my confidence. actually affected isn't even the word- i feel absolutely terrible after it :( my mother said something cruel about my appearance. she didn't mean to hurt me/ it just happened. i just feel like hiding myself from the world forever now!! UGH

I don't think there's anything wrong with your appearance. :)
 

mummylala

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:eek: your own mother said that ........ jesus thats nice isnt it......

She is a very evil woman, abandoned all three of her kids and blamed everyone but herself for it, even lied about having cancer just to get attention, i do blame that woman for alot of the things i am going through right now.. She has affected my confidence big time and i will never forgive her for it..

Rant over lol
 

jaypee06

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probably when a friend told me im like a little child when it comes to expressing my feelings... its true but it just hurts to know lol
 
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