theslowesthand
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I think that's possible to become desensitised from over-exposure. Thats why porn addicts end up seeking out more & more extreme/bizarre/etc porn over time to get the same effect. Also various meds can lower or mute the libido.
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theslowesthand
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I too have always had my own idealistic set of old-style morals. I still have most of them, but my view of people in general has greatly reduced since my youth. So my morals have kinda been forced down somewhat, due to the clash between high & low morals. The moral for me is that old-fashioned, idealistic morals are good & fine, but they kinda belong to the realm of fantasy, unfortunately, and not the real modern world.
Could be that you think & believe diffrent things to them, so they cannae "understand" yor point of view? Maybe its just that, but comes accross as hostility, when it might just be lack of empathetic thghts & beliefes in common? My parents are like that with me ... but then again i'm a really hard guy to "get" for many people, so i dont blame them. They arent openly hostile, but i've always picked up some sort of "disquiet" from them, which has affected me & my confidence with people.
Graeme1988
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:thinking: Good point, there. Forgot that meds can factor into the lack of libido.
Though, ah personally tend to stay clear of the more extreme porn, mainly cuz it doesnae appeal tae me. Nonetheless, thanks for clarifying that issue. :thumbup:
Ah think ma mum might huv caught me watching some porn few nights ago - just yer regular straight senarios, like. Nowt weird. - and mad the false assumption ah wus huv a wank, when ah wus'nae.
Ah mean how are ye supposed to wank yersel' off when you've got a bad cough and hackin' up phlegm intae a Kleenex every minute? You'd need tae huv pretty severe case of premature ejaculation tae pull off a wank that quickly. :sarcastic: Oops| Made an unintentionally funny pun there. But it made me laugh oot loud, so I'm no changing the phrasing. :bigsmile:
theslowesthand
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Maybe read more, eg about exotic, faraway places (to help escape reality in your mind, a break from it each day).
Learn some new topic eg a language.
See if you can make some improvements in each of the major areas of life (there are several "areas")
Or maybe read stuff on the web. Might be easier to "hide" then, as no book cover eg "HOW TO DEAL WITH MANIPULATIVE C*UNTS"
Louco
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...WHAT!? I have an epic beard right now, a cool beard is one of those gifts from nature you can't get from anywhere else. Be proud of it, they are just jealous! :bigsmile:
Seriouly though, I wish you the best while dealing with this hard moment my friend. Don't forget to let your mind rest from all this by setting your thoughts on something else and doing stuff you like, it's important.
Graeme1988
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:thinking: Good point, there. Forgot that meds can factor into the lack of libido.
Though, ah personally tend to stay clear of the more extreme porn, mainly cuz it doesnae appeal tae me. Nonetheless, thanks for clarifying that issue. :thumbup:
Ah think ma mum might huv caught me watching some porn few nights ago - just yer regular straight senarios, like. Nowt weird. - and mad the false assumption ah wus huv a wank, when ah wus'nae.
Ah mean how are ye supposed to wank yersel' off when you've got a bad cough and hackin' up phlegm intae a Kleenex every minute? You'd need tae huv pretty severe case of premature ejaculation tae pull off a wank that quickly. :sarcastic: Oops| Made an unintentionally funny pun there. But it made me laugh oot loud, so I'm no changing the phrasing. :bigsmile:
Graeme1988
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Ah guess mine are old-fashioned, and kinda outta touch with modern day life, but not the world. I don't think so, anyway. Though, ma morals are more a reflection of me as person, more than being idealistic. Or mibbe somewhat idealistic in that I tend to be a critic of feminism generally.
As well as being liberal - in that, I'm quite laid back. Or it could being that Scottish "Ah couldnae give a f**k" mentality.
So glad you just said this. Ah feel less alone. Ma whole family are the same with me, particularly ma mum who can really just to irrational conclusions for no apparently reason. It's also hud the same affect on ma confidence in myself generally, not just with people.
Cuz me being the youngest, the oldest members o' ma family would rather start any argument with me for merely expressing a differing view to theirs. And dismissive my view or opinion outright and insist on lecturin' me on how I'm wrong because I'm a man. Mind you, they don't put a great deal of thought intae there arguments - but that's 3rd wave feminism for ya. :bigsmile: Oooh, am a right sexist, misogynistic b'stard, amn't ah? Quick! Get the playdough, bubbles, and calming music, pronto!
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Graeme1988
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Fair play to ya, Louco. :thumbup: Ma beard isn't that epic. Quite short and bushy. As well as being very unkempt. Also, ma moustache doesnae link in with the rest of ma beard. Not that ah see that as flaw, just stating a fact.
Not that am not proud of being able to grow a beard, or ma beard in and of itsel'. It's just huvin been called a terrorist and a Arab cuz of ma beard and skin complexion. And ah don't look Muslim especially if ah shave ma 'tache but keep the rest of the beard.
Oh! And cuz ah've got a couple of piercing (ear and right eyebrow, respectively) and ma stout frame, ah've been mistaken for a junkie before. The shaven head just makes me look more manly and cool or threatening - depending upon yer perception?
Seriously though, I wish you the best while dealing with this hard moment my friend. Don't forget to let your mind rest from all this by setting your thoughts on something else and doing stuff you like, it's important.
Kinda hard to do that at the moment, since ah don't huv much concentration tae read books, or watch movies. Plus, the one thing ah really want to get back to doing - playing ma electric guitar - is currently off-limits until ma legs heal enough from the surgery to the point where it's not painful or tiring to stand for awhile. Looks like listening to music, rather than playing it is my only distraction, and motivation to get through these rough times.
It's not been a good start to the year so far. Aye, the surgery wus a success - everythin' since that has been setback efter setback. Though, the comedy shows and music gigs ah've mananged to attend since ma surgery huv been the brief, moments of happiness to alleviate ma frustration, and take ma mind of things.
Graeme1988
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Aye, in the last few years. Eastern philosophy to be specific. I'm no brainy enough tae comprehend it aw though. But it makes me seems smarter than an actually am. So, anythin' that gies me a perceived leg up over family member is a plus in ma book. Ah dinnae mean that in a "Am better than them. Ha!" way, cuz ah didnae go tae college or university. Always felt ah wus a dumb wee pleb during ma secondary school days. No that smart, just bluffing ma way through on account of ma quiet nature an desire tae learn - even if ah could remember stuff half the time.
Sorry, ah digressed there a wee bit, ma point is ma family aren't ones for thinkin' too much or thinking things through withoot gettin' panic, if ye ken whit ah mean? A prime example of this involves ma mum, her jacket and the house she went to unconventional means to retrive fae her coat pocket.
Anyway, gettin' back on topic, ah cun be a right f**kin' blether at time.
Ah huv read a couple of books by the late English philsopher Alan Watts and listen to a few of his talks on Zen Buddhism. Though, I find some aspects of Sikhism and Hinduism quite interesting as well. I'd say I'm more spiritual than religious, though.
Despite huvin Christian beliefs forced upon me by ma school and ma muther, with her staunchly Protestant, fenian b@$t@rd, Christan logic. Even though she openly denies that's the case, in much the same she defines being a feminist.
Hope this long-winded post answers yer question?
Graeme1988
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Just realised that ah've got some many recent stories about things that huv happened to me, lately. Since January up until now. Ah just don't which story to share first? :thinking: :idontknow: Cuz they've all got some humour to them, as well as being memorable. That, and the story of ma hospital stay is gonnae take up a fair few thread post here - even though ah wus just there for 6 days.
Graeme1988
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I'm at ma f**kin' wits end here... Honest tae Christ ah um. :kickingmyself:
Just got accuse of startin' an argument for merely going:
This wus regarding 3 shows we want to book tickets for at the Edinburgh Fringe this year. Then the argument really started when ma mum asks me...
And ah calmly explained that the shows all taking place at the same venue, the times of the shows aren't going to matter, we'll get to see all them, so there was no need to worry about it. Well this reply f**kin' triggered ma mum intae a hissy-fit. She throws doon the pen an yells at me:
Well folks ma reaction tae wus neither as kind or calm, as it should've been. Cuz ah went intae full-on aggressive-shite-Scottish-person mode. As she turn tae leave ma bedroom, ah goes...
"Hi! Whit da f**k wus that fur...?! Don't you dare walk doon them stairs. Well... Whit yer excuse this time, eh? An dinnae even try an pit the blame on me, either. You're the one in the wrong here, not me - and you know that. So... C'mon, then. Oot wae it - huv'nae got aw day"
She turns roon and goes... "Sorry"
^ Now, you'd be right that ah didnae handle the situation in the manner that it called for. But ma point about the shows being all in the same venue and show start times is a fair yin, no? Or is me who's being an arse here?
Just got accuse of startin' an argument for merely going:
"Awrite, calm down ah just want tae make sure ah've gave ye right information"
This wus regarding 3 shows we want to book tickets for at the Edinburgh Fringe this year. Then the argument really started when ma mum asks me...
"Whit time are they on at?"
And ah calmly explained that the shows all taking place at the same venue, the times of the shows aren't going to matter, we'll get to see all them, so there was no need to worry about it. Well this reply f**kin' triggered ma mum intae a hissy-fit. She throws doon the pen an yells at me:
"It's doesnae f**kin' matter...!!"
And attempts to storm off. Well folks ma reaction tae wus neither as kind or calm, as it should've been. Cuz ah went intae full-on aggressive-shite-Scottish-person mode. As she turn tae leave ma bedroom, ah goes...
"Hi! Whit da f**k wus that fur...?! Don't you dare walk doon them stairs. Well... Whit yer excuse this time, eh? An dinnae even try an pit the blame on me, either. You're the one in the wrong here, not me - and you know that. So... C'mon, then. Oot wae it - huv'nae got aw day"
She turns roon and goes... "Sorry"
"Aye, ah should f**kin' well think so, anaw! In case ye cannae tell, am gettin' really f**kin' seek o' yer childish overeactions. Yer how old again, exactly...? Don't answer that, ah already know. Old enough tae f**kin' know better. And while we're on the topic, if it's no too much tae ask, could you please stop makin' snap judgements and false assumptions aboot me. Ah dinnae do it tae you, despite you always claiming otherwise, by making me oot tae huv said summit ah never said in the first place. And, here's summit else you'll probably no huv noticed, am actually being nice here - believe it or not. Or this no guid enough for ya? It's no ma fault oor broadband connection's slow as f**k.
Oh, and just to be clear on whit just a moment ago. You're the yin who made a big fuss over a detail that doesnae make a single bit of difference, nor does it matter - not me
Oh, and just to be clear on whit just a moment ago. You're the yin who made a big fuss over a detail that doesnae make a single bit of difference, nor does it matter - not me
Be warn though, you'd better stop acting like this or else we will fall out big time. And ah don't an argument where we baith say sorry to each other hours after it. Am no bluffin' when ah say that, either... Cuz you're constantly like this with me, and ah've hud enough o' it. Right, now where were we again? Oh aye..."
^ Now, you'd be right that ah didnae handle the situation in the manner that it called for. But ma point about the shows being all in the same venue and show start times is a fair yin, no? Or is me who's being an arse here?
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Graeme1988
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Any recommendations? Learning a new language might prove trick, as ah wus'nae particularly great at learning French during ma first 2 years of secondary school.
And it kinda difficult to make improvements in most areas of life when ma oldest sister an ma mum insist on huvin their opinion be the final say on anything that affects me, even though ah never expressed an interest in hearing their opinion. And ah feel they're pretty determined to me keep locked in a state of co-dependency, and refuse to treat me like an adult.
Or maybe read stuff on the web. Might be easier to "hide" then, as no book cover eg "HOW TO DEAL WITH MANIPULATIVE C*UNTS"
That's true. :bigsmile: But what if, say, ma mum or one of ma sisters asks me what I'm lookin' at online? Ah cannae lie as convincingly as the rest of ma family...
Graeme1988
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D'ye think so? Ah dinnae think am as awesome as folk gie me credit fur, tae be honest. Ah mean, am just quiet, shy, extremely introverted guy who grow up in the lowlands of southern Scotland and wus raised in an infamous wee toon, where no a lot happens.
With exception o' the swearin' - particularly the c-word. As well as the drinkin', cynicism and dark sense o' humour, ah huv'nae got much in common with ma fellow Scotsmen. Other than that fierce temper and a low tolerate smug, patronising c**ts.
Ah dinnae ken why we've huv'nae talked afore. :idontknow: But, aye let's make a change tae that. Why no, eh? :thumbup:
Graeme1988
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Anybuddy else, like, socially retarded when it comes tae interacting with women an older member o' yer ain family? And being social in general for that matter? Or is it just me? :idontknow: Startin' tae hate how different ah um fae everybuddy elsel. Well, the intelligent, sensible, shy, ill-at-ease part of me, anyway. :kickingmyself:
Graeme1988
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Keepin' ma mooth shut an no speakin' would do me a wealth o' good fae now on. Cuz am aware now that ah jist talk shite 99.9% of the time. Better stickin' with gie folk the impression that I'm smarter than ah actually um...
defiance
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This reminds me of something someone told me when I was working. He said "throughout my years on this planet I have learned one thing that is always going to be true, the less you talk the smarter you are perceived to be."
Graeme1988
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Well, that's certainly been the case with me.
Despite constantly being telt that ah should be more confident, and not to underestimate masel'. And not being all that smart, in all honestly. I'm quite naive actually.
Graeme1988
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Just been thinkin' aboot summit that only dawned upon me the day...
Why the f**k would ah lie aboot ma recovery fae ma orthopedic surgery takin' a year? Whit do ah gain fae that, exactly? But then, ma older sister doesnae believe a wird ah say anyway. So... Ah just dinnae bother arguin' with her anymore.
Also, am gittin' seek fed-up with feelin' as though ah need tae be in some rush tae get back tae health in a short period o' time. Only because ma family dinnae particularly like doin' stuff for me, never huv, really.
Why the f**k would ah lie aboot ma recovery fae ma orthopedic surgery takin' a year? Whit do ah gain fae that, exactly? But then, ma older sister doesnae believe a wird ah say anyway. So... Ah just dinnae bother arguin' with her anymore.
Also, am gittin' seek fed-up with feelin' as though ah need tae be in some rush tae get back tae health in a short period o' time. Only because ma family dinnae particularly like doin' stuff for me, never huv, really.
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