AsTimeBurns
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Yeah but if you're not someone who chooses not to have them, you just..don't have any, then it's going to be upsetting.
No Friends At All?
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YellowBird
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pretty much..one friend I have I feel really comfortable with(I know this sounds bad)she is a bit slow..and annoying,the more I want to be friends with someone,someone who looks interesting and fun the more I'm afraid of them.I have one more friend who lives in another city and we talk through the internet,he is amazing..but he has his own life and well..he lives in another city,this one girl I kind of knew from junior high,simply because I got used to seeing her through all those classes I feel confident around her and I had fun the last time we went out..but I'm afraid to ask her to go out again because I'm not sure if she wants to.That's my life,I fake smile,I act phony around my colleagues and for what?I never get closer to them,they are all busy living their college experience,imagine me going to a club trying to act like I'm completely cool with it,while I dying to run away and burst to tears.Sometimes I talk to myself(out loud)so I can hear a voice,pretending I have some company..(lame.lame.lame.)And all those people I try to get to know,I never seem to be able to enjoy myself around them,I'm literally living to please others,my personality disappears,some days I feel like I am disappearing.
KnuffleBunny
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Well I have my ex; I rarely see him and even then it's usually something to do with our son, so. . .I'm guessing I have none. <shrug>
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Piece_By_Piece
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I've got two people to hang out with outside school. We hang out about four times a month, it depends. So things are really not that bad for me, when it comes to the friend issue.
I was never really able to connect with anyone that well, apart from my big brother and my big sister. We used to have such a good time together, they were my best friends. Now they've moved away, and I barely get to see them anymore. It makes me sad. There's no bond stronger than sisterly bond. They are pretty much the only people I was comfortable around most of the time. I didn't have to worry about the way they saw me, because I knew they liked me for who I was and accepted me for who I was.
I was never really able to connect with anyone that well, apart from my big brother and my big sister. We used to have such a good time together, they were my best friends. Now they've moved away, and I barely get to see them anymore. It makes me sad. There's no bond stronger than sisterly bond. They are pretty much the only people I was comfortable around most of the time. I didn't have to worry about the way they saw me, because I knew they liked me for who I was and accepted me for who I was.
Joh
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as same a you ! i dont need to say any thing but it hurts when the peoples (whom i feel my friends) celebrates their party,picnics, hang out with out inviting me even nobody ask to me !!! i have tried too many way to be the part of friends group, i help at their needs by money etc, after a some time every friend forgets me and ignore even dont say "Hello"
i dont know what the F*** is wrong with them or me......... :-(
i dont know what the F*** is wrong with them or me......... :-(
LazyHermitCrab
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i don't really understand the difference between an aquantance and a friend... a friend you hang out/talk with more?
AsTimeBurns
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Well as I see it, an aquaintance would be someone you talk to at the place you know them from, so work or school, etc... But they're not a proper "friend" unless you see them outside of that place. So if you go places with them, or hang out at each others houses, etc...
pop-princess
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I have 4 real friends (I define real friends those who I call and meet outside job/school/parties and so on)
One of those 4 friends is my best friend who I absolutely love and have so much in common with. One other of those friends is one I honestly dislike for the most part. She uses me and takes me for granted. Biggest bull****ter of a friend. One problem is that I have known this person since I was a little child and our parents are good friends. I find it hard to get rid of her because she is my door to the world of parties and activities. She has many contacts. If I didn't have her most of my weekends would be very lonely. It really is a dilemma for me.
One of those 4 friends is my best friend who I absolutely love and have so much in common with. One other of those friends is one I honestly dislike for the most part. She uses me and takes me for granted. Biggest bull****ter of a friend. One problem is that I have known this person since I was a little child and our parents are good friends. I find it hard to get rid of her because she is my door to the world of parties and activities. She has many contacts. If I didn't have her most of my weekends would be very lonely. It really is a dilemma for me.
mm, i have 0 rl friends; maybe the same amount of people that would even just say 'hi' to me (that awkward moment when you see someone you know/knew, and give them eye contact, and they completely ignore you and walk by ><). i feel really lonely sometimes, but it's probably my fault for avoiding people too much and pushing away the few people that actually make an effort with me.
No real friends at all unfortunately. I have an online friend but as the name suggests we do not meet up in real life to do things since he lives in another country. Also, we seriously are running out of topics to talk about. Another one would be an this super jerk I got to know in real life who tries to take advantage of my friendless status. Hopefully I can drop him soon. Thats all the 'friends' I have.
Cruelcycle
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I literally have no friends. There is one guy that I am still in touch with but he forgets to text me back or text me. So, I basically have no friends.
Flowers-Of-Bloom
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I had friends, but now I don't. I avoided them, didn't answer their phone calls or reply to their emails for a while until eventually they just left me alone. It sounds terrible, I know. Then I tried going back to school this year and I (surprisingly) made some new friends. But after a while I started avoiding them too (and I think they noticed there was something strange about me) until eventually I stopped going so I didn't have to be with them anymore. AvPD ruins everything.
you're young and i'm assuming you deal with a social anxiety, or some form of anxiety since you're apart of this forum, so i can't say that i blame you for feeling the way you do.
however, trust me i've been there and done that regarding friends, and all i can say is to just give it time. believe it or not, there ARE people out there that are capable of being good friends to people like "us". i'm 31 and i didn't realize this until i was probably 25 or 26. so yeah "pop culture" sure has an effect on people in general, but there have always been good AND bad people in this world. having a constant negative outlook on society in general is a sure way to keep yourself free of friends.
you can try to convince yourself that you don't need anyone at all, but dont sell yourself short, because its possible for you to have friends. to make a friend, you have to be one.