No Friends At All?
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planemo
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RaphialLee
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one thing dont beat yourself up. there reason why they bother you is because you let them. and about those people who tell other you dont have no friend. one advise to tell you is you need to break free from those people who likes shackling you and tell you who you are. You need to define yourself if you can't mingle with others that allright just don't and you want to practice say a few words like how are you. you know small talk. I talk about the NBA because im an huge fan. don't let them bring you down. what I found out about those people the reason why they bring you down is there, theres 3 reasons I would say.
1# there are those who seek the talking through fear of being alone so they use you as the center of there jokes for attention so they talk without knowledge or forethought reveal a truth which they themselves do not understand. so basically there not the smart and there scare.
2# they really don't care i mean there are those people who jokes on everyone they don't mean to hurt you its just a joke to them and they probably do it 1 time or so but if they understand your situation they would stop messing with you.
3# there are those who are threatened by you in some way you can even call it jealousy. I remember when I was the top of my class in trade school there were always a couple of people who tried to find something negative to say about me. you know trying to bring me down.
Ignore them or fight them off that's all you can do not every thing work with the same people . some people when you ignore them they would stop and other would do it even more because they think they can get away with it. if you threaten them or fight them same thing some would do it more because you rouse them to anger and other would back off because they notice you would put up an fight.
lol I been through it and I notice these thing study them. know when to fight and when not to.
some stuff don't make sense I notice. I kind of typed it fast. I get writers blacks allot so if there something I went on track on don't mind it.
1# there are those who seek the talking through fear of being alone so they use you as the center of there jokes for attention so they talk without knowledge or forethought reveal a truth which they themselves do not understand. so basically there not the smart and there scare.
2# they really don't care i mean there are those people who jokes on everyone they don't mean to hurt you its just a joke to them and they probably do it 1 time or so but if they understand your situation they would stop messing with you.
3# there are those who are threatened by you in some way you can even call it jealousy. I remember when I was the top of my class in trade school there were always a couple of people who tried to find something negative to say about me. you know trying to bring me down.
Ignore them or fight them off that's all you can do not every thing work with the same people . some people when you ignore them they would stop and other would do it even more because they think they can get away with it. if you threaten them or fight them same thing some would do it more because you rouse them to anger and other would back off because they notice you would put up an fight.
lol I been through it and I notice these thing study them. know when to fight and when not to.
some stuff don't make sense I notice. I kind of typed it fast. I get writers blacks allot so if there something I went on track on don't mind it.
MrJones
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Fr.... frii... frrrn... the what?
I only talk to college classmates for college stuff.
I don't talk much with my closest family.
I talk to no one else in real life.
So no, I have no friends, and I hate this loneliness...
Apart from that, I talk to some people in the Internet, but I'm not sure when you can start calling "a friend" to someone you met online. One of my best online "friends" turned out to be someone completely different from who I thought he/she was... But even with that, and though it's not the same as it would be irl, I still love to be here with you people, and I'm not sure if you understand how much I appreciate the good people I've met here.
I only talk to college classmates for college stuff.
I don't talk much with my closest family.
I talk to no one else in real life.
So no, I have no friends, and I hate this loneliness...
Apart from that, I talk to some people in the Internet, but I'm not sure when you can start calling "a friend" to someone you met online. One of my best online "friends" turned out to be someone completely different from who I thought he/she was... But even with that, and though it's not the same as it would be irl, I still love to be here with you people, and I'm not sure if you understand how much I appreciate the good people I've met here.
AsTimeBurns
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MrJones
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Damn now I'm curious...
Go on...
Meh, the past is the past, it doesn't matter now.
Deus_Ex_Lemur
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I take some of my friends for granted; and have grown a part and burned bridges but still have a best friend despite being grown apart recently; and a HS group still in contact with - definitely - I know a lot of us despite feeling segregated from them or grown apart still have friends and others really literally have none or not great ones - so -
I have been trying not to take what I have for granted; it's easy to do.
I have been trying not to take what I have for granted; it's easy to do.
Invisibleman
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I will say ive been one to throw around that I have zero friends. But I guess I kinda have friends,theres two people that I hang out with at school but ive never hung out with them.I sit there with them and they sit with like 30 other friends that I dont know so I dont really talk I just sit and read or pretend im doing homework.
Ive only ever had 2 friends that ive ever hung out with but theyre long gone and they both went the same way.They found new friends and just forgot about me completely.
Ive gotten used to being lonely,so much so that im scared to interact with other people because being alone is my comfort zone. It does take a toll though,sometimes I actually feel like im going insane and I just wish I had somebody.
Ive only ever had 2 friends that ive ever hung out with but theyre long gone and they both went the same way.They found new friends and just forgot about me completely.
Ive gotten used to being lonely,so much so that im scared to interact with other people because being alone is my comfort zone. It does take a toll though,sometimes I actually feel like im going insane and I just wish I had somebody.
Seri
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Currently I have no one that I can hang out with regularly, talk to or contact when I want. So I'd say I probably fall into the 'no friends' category.
There are two people who were friends to me:
One has since got her own life and I'm obviously not a part of it. There is little to no effort on her part to stay in contact with me. I met up with her once several months ago which was niceish, but when I tried to arrange another meeting she completely forgot about it and I've had no word since (this isn't anything new).
The other is an online friend (I've known both of these people for years and years now), this one started to move on with his life and again I'm not a part of his life now. I still send birthday presents every year, haven't received one in... maybe 4 years now? Communication has petered down to saying he should be expecting a birthday present in a week or two, or once in a blue moon I might just send an email asking how he is. Last time I sent an email saying his present was going to be a little late it took him just under 2 months to reply to it. No excuse of 'whoops I was busy doing this'. I think that pretty much shows me the level of importance (or rather, unimportance) that I have in his life now.
Soyeah, I'd say that although I still feel attached to these people they can't really be considered my friends, especially not close friends. I have a strong dislike of inequality in friendships, and by that I mean when it starts to feel like I'm putting all the effort in and the other person just doesn't care.
And yes, sometimes I do wish that I could have someone to talk about things I enjoy with and spend time around. But with my social skills I doubt that will happen anytime soon.
There are two people who were friends to me:
One has since got her own life and I'm obviously not a part of it. There is little to no effort on her part to stay in contact with me. I met up with her once several months ago which was niceish, but when I tried to arrange another meeting she completely forgot about it and I've had no word since (this isn't anything new).
The other is an online friend (I've known both of these people for years and years now), this one started to move on with his life and again I'm not a part of his life now. I still send birthday presents every year, haven't received one in... maybe 4 years now? Communication has petered down to saying he should be expecting a birthday present in a week or two, or once in a blue moon I might just send an email asking how he is. Last time I sent an email saying his present was going to be a little late it took him just under 2 months to reply to it. No excuse of 'whoops I was busy doing this'. I think that pretty much shows me the level of importance (or rather, unimportance) that I have in his life now.
Soyeah, I'd say that although I still feel attached to these people they can't really be considered my friends, especially not close friends. I have a strong dislike of inequality in friendships, and by that I mean when it starts to feel like I'm putting all the effort in and the other person just doesn't care.
And yes, sometimes I do wish that I could have someone to talk about things I enjoy with and spend time around. But with my social skills I doubt that will happen anytime soon.
planemo
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Yeah the loneliness can get to you. I think it's also the lack of having any fun or social stimulation. It's very hard to do things outdoors without others. I suppose when all is said and done, us humans are still social beings.
Lowlight
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I had a table of 4 or 5 people I would sit with in high school. I never communicated with them outside of school, except for one. When we graduated from high school I went over to his house once, and I mean once. The one time I was there It was so awkward that I never went back. He moved to college out of state, and so I went to community college on my own.
After a year of sitting by myself a person who I knew about in high school found me and invited me to sit with him and his friends. There was 7 or 8 people at any one time who would sit at this table, but I just bonded with 2 of them. I never did anything outside of sitting with them in the cafeteria, but we were friends none the less. Half way through the semester the one guy dropped out of school and the one girl moved to Canada. I was again sitting on my own until I graduated.
I have no online friends and don't communicate with anyone from my past through email or anything. I don't really leave my house much so now the only people I see are my mom and occasionally my grandmother. I can't imagine having friends now.
After a year of sitting by myself a person who I knew about in high school found me and invited me to sit with him and his friends. There was 7 or 8 people at any one time who would sit at this table, but I just bonded with 2 of them. I never did anything outside of sitting with them in the cafeteria, but we were friends none the less. Half way through the semester the one guy dropped out of school and the one girl moved to Canada. I was again sitting on my own until I graduated.
I have no online friends and don't communicate with anyone from my past through email or anything. I don't really leave my house much so now the only people I see are my mom and occasionally my grandmother. I can't imagine having friends now.
JamesSmith
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I don't have any friends that I hang out with.
This may sound crazy, but I don't know how to get myself out into the friend circle again? I have the desire to, but I keep realizing in my head how much I failed in the past, and then how much I didn't like hanging out with people.
This may sound crazy, but I don't know how to get myself out into the friend circle again? I have the desire to, but I keep realizing in my head how much I failed in the past, and then how much I didn't like hanging out with people.
Endless
I actually literally have no friends at all, and it's not something I just tell people. I really don't.
I actually literally have no friends at all, and it's not something I just tell people. I really don't.
shybutsexy
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I have no friends at all either, yay! im not alone! no one to hang out with or talk to or nothing. Last time i had one was at age 13, now im 21 ::
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dazedgal
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i have no friends that i hang out with. though i do have acquaintances in every class in college (yes it is the person who sits next to me). otherwise, that's it.
my phonebook is as follows:
Mum
Dad
Bank
College
No jokes that is my phonebook. how lonely can a person get???
But I don't make any effort to make friends, maybe it's due to my SA or my misanthropist beliefs, either way people have effed me too much in the past I can't be bothered if I'm alone or not.
my phonebook is as follows:
Mum
Dad
Bank
College
No jokes that is my phonebook. how lonely can a person get???
But I don't make any effort to make friends, maybe it's due to my SA or my misanthropist beliefs, either way people have effed me too much in the past I can't be bothered if I'm alone or not.
IF ONLY xx
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Sometimes friends are more stress then their worth.
IF ONLY xx
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Quiet Angel
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I have 7 friends I still keep in contact with. I met them from high school. Although I've been friends with them for several years, I have this intense fear of seeing them. *eep* I experience social phobia around my OWN friends but I still try my best...
In college, however, it's a completely different story. I'm very far away from my friends. I've been attending this college for a year and no friendships whatsoever. No acquaintences either. It's incredibly lonely. *SIGH* It's challenging for me to establish a friendship here. It's a combination of phobia, possessing a boring personality, low self-confidence, and just being plain different. It's almost like I have some kind of disability that prevents me from connecting with others. So, in a way, I don't have any friends.
In college, however, it's a completely different story. I'm very far away from my friends. I've been attending this college for a year and no friendships whatsoever. No acquaintences either. It's incredibly lonely. *SIGH* It's challenging for me to establish a friendship here. It's a combination of phobia, possessing a boring personality, low self-confidence, and just being plain different. It's almost like I have some kind of disability that prevents me from connecting with others. So, in a way, I don't have any friends.