Ladies, would you date a man who was bisexual?

[Nathália]

Perhaps - some women dont like bisexuality or any kind of homosexuality - just as equally (no doubt) as those who would accept it.
I dont think there are any rules or generalizations - it just comes down to the individual.

I wouldnt worry about it man.

I admire your courage to disclose such information.

I disagree with you. I think the reality is in America there are so many people who don't agree with it because it goes against their beliefs, but there is a large support community if someone of the LBGT community feel excluded. I rather not go into it, but I am sure that is far from half and half or it goes that way. Sorry if I am being a downer and putting a huge damper on things.

There is a tremendous amount of support out there for you and many people who would have no issue with it. I say don't really study it and let anything throw you back.

 

[KiaKaha]

^ I am not really seeing where the disagreement is? I think its good that the LGBT community has a large support group - and that some people do disagree wtih bisexuality/homosexuality because it goes against their beliefs.
Not sure of the numbers etc - I am simply saying that it does exist (as discrimination against certain kinds of sexual orientation always has) - and that some women would not be comfortable with it.

 

[Nathália]

^ I am not really seeing where the disagreement is? I think its good that the LGBT community has a large support group - and that some people do disagree wtih bisexuality/homosexuality because it goes against their beliefs.
Not sure of the numbers etc - I am simply saying that it does exist (as discrimination against certain kinds of sexual orientation always has) - and that some women would not be comfortable with it.

I am just saying. (I think most people are not accepting, not some or half. I think many people treat gays with respect, but a majority of society is not approving of it.) That's all.

Then I directed some of my statement to the OP and not towards you personally. People do have a right to believe what they want to believe in, I agree and that we should not force our beliefs down each others throat. I can see how you got confused though because A. I misread and B. My statement was jumbled up.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I have heard some disgusting stories about girls who have flat out dumped a guy after finding out he's also attracted to the same sex.
If you're confident enough in yourself and your relationship, there's absolutely no reason why you would feel threatened by the fact that your man also likes some men.
Then again... many people are not confident in either.

My ex was bisexual but he didn't figure it out until we had been together for a few years and I was the only person he told, ever.
There was a mutual agreement that there would be no cheating- a cheat is a cheat whether it's male on male or female on female in any relationship.
I wasn't threatened by it, though... don't see why I should be.
You can't help who you're attracted to so why get mad about it?

 

[sai]

here i am f******g scared to talk to the women i like and u dude... want both !!
i think no one on earth are really gay its just a matter of time to realise.....

 

[Kat]

No, I don’t think it would sway me too much if your compatible then that sort of thing can become a minor detail. I think it’s best to be upfront it all comes down to chance anyway.

 

[Incognito10]

here i am f******g scared to talk to the women i like and u dude... want both !!
i think no one on earth are really gay its just a matter of time to realise.....

I don't want both. I just want one. Relationships are monogamous to me. The purpose of the thread was to get opinions about how people would feel about dating someone who has a history of a relationship with someone of the same sex; like is it a deal-breaker?

I want to be upfront with people on dating sites in the beginning about things like this as well as the fact that I have social anxiety. I may not come out and say, "I have social anxiety," but I might mention in the beginning that I am introverted etc. I don't think first dates or first encounters online need to be a "tell all" session. But I do think that people should be generally upfront. I wouldn't want to spend time talking to someone or go on dates with someone and "fall" for them only for them to find out about my social anxiety or something and then cut me off. That would not do much for my self confidence.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

One of the questions on okcupid is "Would you consider being in a relationship with someone who has had homosexual sex?"

The vast majority of women who's profiles I've seen answer "No" to this.

I answered "Yes" because, like most guys, it doesn't bother me if a girl has slept with another girl.

 

[OceanMist]

One of the questions on okcupid is "Would you consider being in a relationship with someone who has had homosexual sex?"

The vast majority of women who's profiles I've seen answer "No" to this.

I answered "Yes" because, like most guys, it doesn't bother me if a girl has slept with another girl.

^Actually, this is the type of poll I was looking for.^ You basically did my work for me.

It seems obvious that many women, in fact most women according to your research, are not into bisexual men.

I believe this is proof that it's much harder being a bisexual guy than being a bisexual woman. I know people will disagree with that statement just to defend genders or whatever, but I'm looking at things from a realistic standpoint here.

I think it also has something to do with men being way more lenient than women in the dating world. A guy often has to live up to more standards than a woman does.

I was just looking at men's (I know that may seem weird because i'm heterosexual, it was just research) and women's profiles on Okcupid last night, and I am serious, about 48 out of 50 men reply often as opposed to only 18 out of 50 women who reply often. When I saw that I was like what the heck. No wonder it's so hard to get responses from women.

 

[Hellhound]

One of the questions on okcupid is "Would you consider being in a relationship with someone who has had homosexual sex?"

The vast majority of women who's profiles I've seen answer "No" to this.

Homophobia much?

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

Homophobia much?

It would seem so.

 

[Opaline]

Homophobia much?

Wait, so that makes me homophobic? Can't that just be a preference? I am accepting of homosexuals and my former best friend is gay and we would discuss his love life all the time. But I just wouldn't want to date someone who has been with another man sexually. If that makes me homophobic in some way, so be it I guess. Just as you can't help who you are attracted to, you can't help what you are unattracted to or what you are turned off by.

 

[OceanMist]

Wait, so that makes me homophobic? Can't that just be a preference? I am accepting of homosexuals and my former best friend is gay and we would discuss his love life all the time. But I just wouldn't want to date someone who has been with another man sexually. If that makes me homophobic in some way, so be it I guess. Just as you can't help who you are attracted to, you can't help what you are unattracted to or what you are turned off by.

Haha, of course it doesn't make you homophobic.

Homophobia is fear of homosexuals, and I'm willing to bet that you aren't scared of the homosexual men. You just aren't attracted to them. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

 

[Silatuyok]

Homophobia much?

Whoawhoawhoa! Not wanting to have sex with a homosexual does NOT make you homophobic!

 

[Hellhound]

Whoawhoawhoa! Not wanting to have sex with a homosexual does NOT make you homophobic!

What?! I didn't mean that

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

Whoawhoawhoa! Not wanting to have sex with a homosexual does NOT make you homophobic!

Why would so many women answer no to that question? I really don't understand. Guess it's a chick thing.

 

[Hellhound]

Wait, so that makes me homophobic? Can't that just be a preference? I am accepting of homosexuals and my former best friend is gay and we would discuss his love life all the time. But I just wouldn't want to date someone who has been with another man sexually. If that makes me homophobic in some way, so be it I guess. Just as you can't help who you are attracted to, you can't help what you are unattracted to or what you are turned off by.

Hmm... I guess you're right Sorry about that statement. I didn't mean to say everyone's homophobic for that.

 

[KiaKaha]

I wouldnt have thought that a woman not wanting to get down to business with a homosexual man was homophobic - more of a preference - albeit one that I dont really understand the reasoning behind.

Isn't homophobia more of a hatred and fear toward people who are gay?

Meh who knows. If only there was someone here who knew everything about everything to provide us with some answers. Hmmm...

 

[Opaline]

Hmm... I guess you're right Sorry about that statement. I didn't mean to say everyone's homophobic for that.

Haha that's okay. I do feel kind of bad about it, like I'm being snooty or something, and I can't explain exactly why it bothers me, but... yeah.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Yes i think bi guys are the best. It usually means you will try more things At the same time i would get jealous thinking you're flirting with lots of ppl. If you're loyal then yes