Flowers-Of-Bloom
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Just thought I'd add that I've known plenty of girls who are into guy on guy action. It's definitely not uncommon... At least where I come from.
Ladies, would you date a man who was bisexual?
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PersonaChaotica
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I wouldn't mind if a girl was bisexual. It would be a + 
Incognito10
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No, I do not think that makes you homophobic at all. Everyone has their preferences about who and what type of people they are attracted to. For example, two people can be absolute best of friends, but they would never date or be romantically invovled simply because the attraction does not exist in that way. This is also evidenced by the fact that you said you had a gay friend; if you were homophobic, I am sure you wouldn't have a gay friend. Also, I've seen plenty of people on dating sites who say they are only interested in their own race (it's just their preference). I wouldn't go as far to say that person is a racist, it's just their preference in terms of who they are physically attracted to.
lol that's true
I agree 100%
Satine
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I've only read the first page of replies here, but my answer would be absolutely, yes! I don't care about sexuality of my partner. In fact, the pair of us went to a nightclub years ago and ended up chatting to a very clearly gay man. We struck up a good rapport with the guy but he had ants in his pants and wanted to get back to dancing. So he stood up and gave me a peck on the cheek. Then he gave the same to my boyfriend before leaving.
It was a hell of a brave move on the gay guy's part, but my other half just accepted the peck and that was that. I had so much respect for my other half for the non-homophobic way he accepted that.
A person I was friends with but have since, sadly, moved on from, signed up to a dating site. He was bisexual and told me of a profile he found where a girl had gone out of her way to state that she didn't like gay marriage. There wasn't really any need for her to do that on her dating profile, it just seems it was that important to her. He wasn't pleased, needless to say.
There's more possibility, I'd guess, that a potential date would be put off by the mention of social anxiety than the bisexuality - people do seem to have a funny reaction to it. I admire your intention to give what you feel to be relevant information up front but do they need to know about the SA? Personally, I tend to find that I'm more anxious with some people than with others, and the ones I'm not anxious with I tend to be fine with from the start, and they never have any inkling of my anxiety, which means it's never a focal point for us.
Either way, I wish you the best, Incognito.
It was a hell of a brave move on the gay guy's part, but my other half just accepted the peck and that was that. I had so much respect for my other half for the non-homophobic way he accepted that.
A person I was friends with but have since, sadly, moved on from, signed up to a dating site. He was bisexual and told me of a profile he found where a girl had gone out of her way to state that she didn't like gay marriage. There wasn't really any need for her to do that on her dating profile, it just seems it was that important to her. He wasn't pleased, needless to say.
There's more possibility, I'd guess, that a potential date would be put off by the mention of social anxiety than the bisexuality - people do seem to have a funny reaction to it. I admire your intention to give what you feel to be relevant information up front but do they need to know about the SA? Personally, I tend to find that I'm more anxious with some people than with others, and the ones I'm not anxious with I tend to be fine with from the start, and they never have any inkling of my anxiety, which means it's never a focal point for us.
Either way, I wish you the best, Incognito.
Hellhound
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I don't see why not. It's better to mention it from the beginning than having the other person wondering why you get so nervous around them. If they're truly nice and caring they'll understand. It's good to be honest. And I believe it would drive the ignorant people away, sparing you the pain of dealing with someone ignorant rejecting you over that.
Although, if you don't like to say you have social anxiety, you could just say you're very shy around people. That would work too.
chibiXphantom
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yeah ive dated a few bisexual guys.
most of my "crushes" in the past have been on bisexual or gay guys (unfortunately for me). idk, i've never been into super masculine guys. prefer guys that are a little more feminine. not sure why. just what im into i guess
most of my "crushes" in the past have been on bisexual or gay guys (unfortunately for me). idk, i've never been into super masculine guys. prefer guys that are a little more feminine. not sure why. just what im into i guess
Pookah
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I'm territorial/jealous so one issue would be that I would be all grr @ attractive men AND women coming near.
The other is wondering if maybe at some point the guy would feel deprived of what he could get with a male partner and would leave me for someone else. But that can happen with a girl as well. Just extra insecurity tacked on.
These things should be able to be overcome when you are with someone you are really into, but I am guessing they concern people especially if they are insecure.
Ultimately I think a lot of women wouldn't care or could deal with it. Those who can't wouldn't be good for you anyway.
The other is wondering if maybe at some point the guy would feel deprived of what he could get with a male partner and would leave me for someone else. But that can happen with a girl as well. Just extra insecurity tacked on.
These things should be able to be overcome when you are with someone you are really into, but I am guessing they concern people especially if they are insecure.
Ultimately I think a lot of women wouldn't care or could deal with it. Those who can't wouldn't be good for you anyway.
Bustn Justin
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After reading the replies I do feel more comfortable with being a bi male.
For a long time I have kept it a secret and by doing that I become ashamed of it.
I have been open with a couple of straight buddies and they are cool about it since we can still talk about women.
For a long time I have kept it a secret and by doing that I become ashamed of it.
I have been open with a couple of straight buddies and they are cool about it since we can still talk about women.
