Jealous of girlfriend being chatted up

[doubleM]

the behavior of some women today is unbelievable.

 

[SeniorRedrings]

My advice,the next time you see a guy chatting her up,go over and start chatting up the guy.
If your girlfriends asks you "what are you doing?",just tell her that you're acting like the gay BFF she obviously wants you to be....coz she's treating you like one.

Either that you gotta ask her to make little soul mate signs,like holding her nose as if she's about to try and stop a sneeze by making a finger peg (but she's really letting you know that SHE thinks the guy talking to her stinks like asstershave).
Or putting her arms behind her back in a sexy stance kind of way,while being chatted up,as a way to hide her making little wanker gestures behind her back about these guys,as a criticism,for your eyes only.

‪SHEENA EASTON "FOR YOUR EYES ONLY‬‏ - YouTube

 

[Remus]

Make an idol of her and stick pins into it

 

[drganon]

I'd just break up with her in the worst way possible you can think of,I'll leave that up to you, and then hit the guy that was flirting with her over the head with something made of glass. That'll teach em.
‪The Departed - Cranberry Juice‬‏ - YouTube

 

[Mr_Vabanque]

Hero: Not to play the advocate, but you should also consider that she might be testing you a little, that she might do those things - also considering how open she does them - to provoke a reaction, to test your character. You seem to be a pretty passive guy after all. I think you should address that whole issue, either in a playful or a more serious (but hopefully composed and graceful) way, helps her know who you are, helps you know who she is.

 

[panicsurvivor]

Unless you're not actually together. You said you've been out with her about 8 times now? Has there been any talk about a relationship or are you just assuming you're in a relationship? Does she view it as just friends with benefits? Need more info in that department.

I totally didn't think of that. This is important!!!!! If you are just dating, and not exclusive yet, a lot of people would find her behavior acceptable. Before you do anything, you should find out if you are on the same page here.

 

[A friend]

Hi. I feel really uncomfortable. I was at a party with my girlfriend and there was guy sat near us. He started talking to my girlfriend and I noticed how involved she was when talking with him, laughing at the things he said. I find it hard to make decent conversation and I wished she was more responsive with me.
He said he was an idiot, and she was like no, no you're not. He invited her out to a night out with his friends, she was really excited about it. I felt really insecure, that I had to 'man up' and try and impress her back but my conversational skills aren't as good. I felt really jealous and humiliated that she was being chatted up in front of me

I feel really insecure, that if I make a big deal out of it that she'll think I'm a jealous loser. We've only just go together but I feel sick that something could happen between them.

I didn't study this topic, but I can say this:

If she does leave you for that man that she was conversing with, then...

You obviously deserve better than this girl (if she were to leave you), because if she dumps you for him than that is proof that you are far more deserving than this individual that you feel infatuation for.

You are deserving of a good life, do not think otherwise.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Hm i think it's rude he would ask her to hang out with him unless they were friends for a long time already, something like that. I'm not saying not to trust the situation, but i wouldn't. Maybe because i'm paronoid but if i were her i would say only if my bf can come with me or he should have invited you to come along.... If you really trust her that's different but yeah just saying

 

[ripewithdecay]

This guy sounds harmless. Laugh off his sad attempt at stealing your girlfriend and just take pride in the fact that other guy's want your girl but she's yours. Confidence will win her over, not telling her you're jealous!

 

[Waybuloo]

It sounds as though your gf really disrespected you. Not only did she not include you into the conversation (you were there as a couple), she accepted an invitation from a guy to meet his friends (without suggesting to bring you), and acting excited about it infront of you. That is like adding insult after insult to injury.

Did she acknowledge your presence at all? Did she check your reaction or ask if you were ok with it? She is either mega ignorant as to social protocol/guys intentions, or does not care about your feelings at all.

If she is testing you to see if you would rise to the occassion as one person has suggested, then I think she would play games at every opportunity in the relationship as her heart desires.

 

[A friend]

(This is a little off-topic)

In my opinion, jealousy is a semi-dangerous emotion that can damage friendships/relationships, cause erratic behavior, and it can create negative effects on one's life.

Though it's understandable to fully dislike another guy chatting with your girlfriend, it's not good to be jealous.

With SA, it's very hard to avoid that kind of emotion, but I think you'll end up having a happy life. I can't guarantee that your girlfriend truly loves you, but I'm almost sure that this guy isn't stupid enough to try to get it on with your girlfriend if he realizes that she's already dating you.

 

[Remus]

I doubt she is testing him.

I wouldn't rule it out, I've had that experience

 

[Remus]

In my opinion, jealousy is a semi-dangerous emotion that can damage friendships/relationships, cause erratic behavior, and it can create negative effects on one's life.

Though it's understandable to fully dislike another guy chatting with your girlfriend, it's not good to be jealous.

I totally agree, I was in a relationship with a very VERY jealous person (the 'testing one' aforementioned^), it was hell on earth, she was even jealous of me looking at certain women on TV. She'd asked which stars I found cute early in the relationship, shoulda seen that one coming lol

 

[SM1010]

Jealousy isn't ALWAYS bad thing.

There are plenty of women out there that like to see a little (not a lot) jealousy from their significant others. It makes them feel wanted.

 

[Vampayah88]

Im one of those women lol. It does make me feel wanted.

 

[Illusions]

Sounds like she crossed a line to me. She gave a guy her #, agreed to go out with him, and is genuinely excited about it...

I'd definitely confront her about it. Imagine if it had happened the other way around.

Some hottie at a party approached you, got your number, and wanted you to go out with her. All right in front of her. Pretty sure almost any girl would be upset in that scenario.

Unless you're not actually together. You said you've been out with her about 8 times now? Has there been any talk about a relationship or are you just assuming you're in a relationship? Does she view it as just friends with benefits? Need more info in that department.

^ Agreed. If I were in this situation I'd feel uncomfortable too.

 

[panicsurvivor]

Im one of those women lol. It does make me feel wanted.

Yeah, I have met a couple, but for the most part you are an incredibly rare breed. Most girls, do not like jealousy. In fact nine times out of ten it is a dealbreaker. I have seen girls cheat on, or break up with their boyfriends a million times, because their boyfriends were acting jealous.::

 

[EnigmatiConduit]

You're in a relationship - communicate! If something bothers you or makes you uncomfortable - sit down and talk about it. Don't play any games, be straight forward. If you can't do that or she says you're a loser etc - you're not in the right relationship.. sounds more like you're jealous simply of how she's acting, not the fact that she is being chatted up.