It's obvious that I'll never have a relationship b/c I'm not getting any younger...

[Misfortune]

I'm already in my forties and still never yet found a loving relationship.. :: Every time I see loving couples kissing I get frustrated and turn away b/c it reminds me of something I'll never have.. This is the point where I won't take it anymore and might do something desperate to myself I'll regret.. It's so embarrassing living a life never experiencing a loving relationship.. I hope I don't grow old that way, If I do I'm going to be a lot more bitter and hatefull to people.. Hopefully I'll RIP a lot sooner then to grow old a loner..

 

[BlackKids]

"Every time I see loving couples kissing I get frustrated"

Instead use that and turn it into a positive thing. You have to love yourself before anyone else will. Never stop trying dude, never!

 

[Misfortune]

"Every time I see loving couples kissing I get frustrated"

Instead use that and turn it into a positive thing. You have to love yourself before anyone else will. Never stop trying dude, never!

Hopefully I'll RIP a lot sooner then to grow old a loner..

Never stop trying dude, never!

 

[DeathMetal]

I'm going down the same path as you, and I am already in my 30's. I feel the same about everything you wrote in your post.

 

[Felgen]

I used to feel that way as well. I don't understand why some guys need to show the whole world that they have a girlfriend.

On another message board (for no apparent reason, the admin banned me), there was a guy who had his first girlfriend at the age of 44.

 

[Misfortune]

I used to feel that way as well. I don't understand why some guys need to show the whole world that they have a girlfriend.

On another message board (for no apparent reason, the admin banned me), there was a guy who had his first girlfriend at the age of 44.

Well I'm a lonely female with no male companion and it's just as bad for me. Whenever I hear another female brag about their boyfriends I felt like going over and bust their lip just to shut them up! One thing I can't stand is Btchs bragging about their bfs

 

[Felgen]

Well I'm a lonely female with no male companion and it's just as bad for me. Whenever I hear another female brag about their boyfriends I felt like going over and bust their lip just to shut them up! One thing I can't stand is Btchs bragging about their bfs

Nobody said that it was easy beeing a love-shy woman. Allthough women have a much more passive and easy role in dating than men, you still have to get yourself out there and make yourself available--which is hard when you have anxiety.

 

[iamthenra]

I will be 42 this year... I too am lonely and have never had a girl friend or romance. I have had a grand total of 3 dates my entire life, and all 3 occurred when I was 38 years old... One in Florida, one in Wisconsin, and one here in Minnesota. I also get very depressed when I see others kissing and hugging doing couple things together like holding hands and such.

 

[AgoraphobicAngel]

38 yr old woman here. Suffering with the same problems. As each year goes by, I can feel the desperation get a bit harder to deal with. No siblings, not many friends, & I'm obese. Not a lot of options in my neck of the woods & to be honest......... I figure once my mom leaves this world I won't be far behind. I don't want to be alone forever. Never thought my life would end up this way.

 

[recluse]

Well in about 11 years time i'll be joining you. I'm 29 and still never had a girlfriend, still a virgin too.

I just can't see any light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[emboki]

The first thing you have to do is stop thinking like that!

 

[planemo]

Well I'm kinda in the same boat. The problem is we are getting older but our way of thinking is remaining the same. I just wish some1 would fall from the sky, and not allow me the burden of having to change my already cast iron doubt and lack of confidence in finding some1. The truth is, I have to change. But I don't know if I can.::

 

[fudgy]

Well I'm a lonely female with no male companion and it's just as bad for me. Whenever I hear another female brag about their boyfriends I felt like going over and bust their lip just to shut them up! One thing I can't stand is Btchs bragging about their bfs

do you know how you sound ?

bitter , twisted , jealous , unreasonable and nasty ,

I am 100% sure your not any of those things , so please don't take to much offense , however if your going to deliver it then I hope you can accept it back.

It must be the most hopeless , frustrating , lonely , torturous life having love to give and no one to share the dream with . Its not all chocolate box romance by the way , incase your thinking we all skip off into the sunset holding hands ! However I do hear your plight.


This girls you talk about who are btchs ..why ? why are they ? It's the normal to talk about your b/friend , honestly , give yourself a break from resenting these women . their b/friends are maybe their future, their plans and dreams and its acceptable, normal and understandable for them to be prattling on about it !

But to give out so much bad feeling and anger means your feeling that way inside , and that's a really dark hole to be in , they are just girls getting on with it .... you have to not waste your own head space and feelings on so much resentment born out of hurt , anger and frustration on your part.

I hope you are ok

 

[Felgen]

I'm already in my forties and still never yet found a loving relationship.. :: Every time I see loving couples kissing I get frustrated and turn away b/c it reminds me of something I'll never have.. This is the point where I won't take it anymore and might do something desperate to myself I'll regret.. It's so embarrassing living a life never experiencing a loving relationship.. I hope I don't grow old that way, If I do I'm going to be a lot more bitter and hatefull to people.. Hopefully I'll RIP a lot sooner then to grow old a loner..

This may seem like a stupid question, but have you ever considered online dating?

 

[Littlewilly]

I am with u all on this & I think my probs could b alot more serious bcause Im 40's ish'n'so-on & never had a relationship.
Worse still I've never bin ona date "wooopsupsideurhed". I've bin shy but worse still have proberly suffered from general anxt all my life.
& a couple or more times (I THINK) have had missed opps, still I suppose itz comforting 2 kno (I THINK AGEN) that there have bin people (women) who have proberly shown an interest in me at 1 time or a-n-other.
Itz just me that have sat there with my thumb uppa my arris watching the world go by.

 

[SlanGodhand]

Im so painfully single ive never been on a date either, sometimes it is kind of depressing but...youve got to look on the bright side. Like me personally, i have tons of hobbies that keep my mind off of it. Im twenty three now and though i want things to change and want all of that intimacy partner sharing stuff...im just too dang shy too do anything about it.
I cant approach men,and if they approach me i freak...my face twitches...i have to get out of there, but i guess in the end i have only myself to blame. I admit it is my own fault.

 

[Misfortune]

I read about an 18yr old that has not yet had a relationship and some1 said to that person their still young and the worse thing is to be in the 40s and not yet have a relationship, which got very upset b/c I'm in my 40s and I wasted my entire youth being single and looking and still didn't find anyone.. My life is wasted... Totally wasted...

I know I'll never be 18 again.. If there is a recarnation (which I hope there is) I hope to come live in a better life then I'm living in right now..

 

[Emily_G]

My uncle didn't meet a girl and get married until his mid 40s Well he got married younger but that's a long story..in the end it didn't work out.

 

[Scars]

I'm so jealous of you people! How can you live your life for so long without love!? I'm 20 and I've never had a real relationship or romance... or even a guy that just wants to get in my pants for ***** sake! My parents don't even make me feel loved... every day is tormenting and I don't know how much longer I can stand it. I'm *this* close to hooking up just to give me the illusion of love, knowing that in the end it will only make me feel worse. I guess I'm just leagues behind you all, a weakling stuck in a pile of ****.

 

[Felgen]

I'm so jealous of you people! How can you live your life for so long without love!? I'm 20 and I've never had a real relationship or romance... or even a guy that just wants to get in my pants for ***** sake! My parents don't even make me feel loved... every day is tormenting and I don't know how much longer I can stand it. I'm *this* close to hooking up just to give me the illusion of love, knowing that in the end it will only make me feel worse. I guess I'm just leagues behind you all, a weakling stuck in a pile of ****.

This may seem like a stock answer, but you're still young. The reason why it seems like nobody just wants to get you to bed, is because you're too young to go to a bar.

I didn't have a serious relationship before the age of 21.