It's obvious that I'll never have a relationship b/c I'm not getting any younger...

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It's confusing really... People who have jobs, hate their jobs. People who don't have a job, wants a job. Same goes with relationships... People who have relationships don't want them, people who don't, wants them... I guess its true what the say, "People want what they don't have..."

The idea of having someone; smooching, cuddling, holding hands, etc. Its nothing but a stupid fantasy... Truth is, it hurts like **** if the other person isn't on the same page as you.

I'm just saying don't let it cloud your judgement, you might end up with someone that treats you bad and you will regret even getting involve...

Sorry for being negative, I'm just a tad bit bitter right now... =_=
 
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Nack said:
It's confusing really... People who have jobs, hate their jobs. People who don't have a job, wants a job. Same goes with relationships... People who have relationships don't want them, people who don't, wants them... I guess its true what the say, "People want what they don't have..."

The idea of having someone; smooching, cuddling, holding hands, etc. Its nothing but a stupid fantasy... Truth is, it hurts like **** if the other person isn't on the same page as you.

I'm just saying don't let it cloud your judgement, you might end up with someone that treats you bad and you will regret even getting involve...

Sorry for being negative, I'm just a tad bit bitter right now... =_=
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Rejection hurts much more than break-ups. Just my two cents...
 
Felgen

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Nack said:
Betrayal hurts more... =_=;
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Betrayal and contiuous rejection will trigger the same emotions; both will make you feel that you're not "good enough".

Love is more than just pain (even though the media of 2010 tries to convince women that mind-games, screwing with men's feelings and cheating on their spouses is "romantic"). My maternal grandparents have been married for more than 50 years and they're incredibly different from each other.
 
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I'm just saying don't let it cloud your judgement, you might end up with someone that treats you bad and you will regret even getting involve...
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I am really glad you said that , because for those amongst us who don't have these issues with relationships , probably have a whole host of horror stories that would maybe put this into perspective :)
 
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Felgen said:
Betrayal and contiuous rejection will trigger the same emotions; both will make you feel that you're not "good enough".

Love is more than just pain (even though the media of 2010 tries to convince women that mind-games, screwing with men's feelings and cheating on their spouses is "romantic"). My maternal grandparents have been married for more than 50 years and they're incredibly different from each other.
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Well back then love was about wanting to be each other, I guess. These days love is just a stupid word for lust. And back then men weren't all grouped into the asshat category. These days all I hear from women is, "men are jerks, blah blah blah."

"Ladies, if you don't want to be hurt, you gotta do the hurtin' instead!" - Angry Feminist :cool:

Hahhh
 
Ritta

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I'm in my thirties and I've only had 2 long distance relationships, which are hard enough for normal people. I can tell you that even though they didn't last long, I did learn alot from both experiences. Like someone said already, you got to love yourself first. If you don't and you try to be with someone, it'll only end in disaster. Some people don't show their trueselves till much, much, much later and only if you're strong enough, you can defend yourself and not let them take advantage of you or abuse you. I learned the hard way. I know it's going to take me a long time, but I'm willing to wait till I get my confidence back before I consider dating again.
 
Scars

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Felgen said:
This may seem like a stock answer, but you're still young. The reason why it seems like nobody just wants to get you to bed, is because you're too young to go to a bar.

I didn't have a serious relationship before the age of 21.
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I don't know what to think about this... but thanks for the thought

Nack said:
"Ladies, if you don't want to be hurt, you gotta do the hurtin' instead!" - Angry Feminist :cool:

Hahhh
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That's so cruel... I hate everything about this world but I would never in my wildest dreams hurt someone like that...
 
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Scars said:
I'm so jealous of you people! How can you live your life for so long without love!?.
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I'm surprised you would say something like that. I tried to look @ it as being gratefull not experience a relationship after hearing about people going through really bad relationships or marriage. I've been in love several times but never received it back, which explains Y I'm so miserable. It's really hard b/c I get so lonely. I don't know what hurts the most, getting hurt in a marriage or relationship or being rejected. I guess either way we suffer so much pain from it. Sometimes I wish I never had fallin in love..
 
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Um, yeah.
40 is still pretty damn young.

My mom's friend had a kid at 54.
My great grandfather was remarried at age 70!

It really is never too late.
 
DanFC

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Winter Dreams said:
Um, yeah.
40 is still pretty damn young.

My mom's friend had a kid at 54.
My great grandfather was remarried at age 70!

It really is never too late.
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Which means he probably didn't have some of the outstanding social problems that plague many of the individuals in this forum.
 
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da_illest101

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well i rather be your age and never had any relationship then reliving the one i had. I was so stressed and petrified that i lost 15 pounds ( i was 160 drop to 145, not good for a 6 feet tall guy) and the relationship lasted a week but the stress lasted months
 
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Winter Dreams said:
Um, yeah.
40 is still pretty damn young.

My mom's friend had a kid at 54.
My great grandfather was remarried at age 70!

It really is never too late.
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I suppose itz never 2late, I think my prob is I've tended 2worry 2much boutit in the past & have tended 2 pu**** 2 1 side all the time in finding sum1::(:
 
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I have the same fears as you-- that I'll never find someone who understands me enough & I'll never find a good relationship. I'm not in my 40's (28), but I may very well end up dying without ever having even be in in a relationship because it just doesn't seem plausible in my condition.
 
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Pookah said:
Everyone keeps saying love yourself. I have a love-hate relationship with myself, should I just be content to stay alone? Lols.

I wonder if that saying is based in any real psychology because if people waited for that I think there would be less relationships and less people because some wouldn't have gotten around to procreation. Probably for the best then.


You Don't Need to Love Yourself First | Psychology Today
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Wow we think allot alike! On allot of topics too.... Sorry Pookah, just an observation.:D
 
CosmicNeurotica

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Oh I know the feeling. When I watch a good romance movie, or really just any feel good movie, it makes me cry. I want that. I want their happiness. I want to be in their shoes.
 
mrb

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well people im 46 this year , im divorced years ago , iv not had to much luck in that department but i met my current gf on a yahoo chat room 6 years ago , were still together but living in diff contrys at mo , my point is its easy just to give up but then when you least expect it bang you find someone .... funny thing was i wasnt really looking for a partner its just happened we clicked online , so if i can do it you can you, im not the best looking bloke nor am i that social , but it happend , and im pretty sure im a lot older than most people on here , and if this old fart meaning me can do it so can you ;)
 
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