Is uni/college possible with s.a??
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vj288
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It depends on what you expect to get out of it I think. It's defiantly possible, no doubt about that, but it may not always be easy or meet expectation. I'm only part way through my first semester, but I'll tell you what I've found to be true so far. Classes aren't as bad as you would think, at first it not great because they play all those icebreaker games and try to get everyone to know everybody, but once you settle in it's not to bad. People will try to talk to you, and are usually very friendly. I've found most teachers don't require participation, and if they do it's a little hard but only a few times and something you can get through. It's just about finding your groove, and it'll be fine.
The school part of it isn't much more difficult than High school SA wise if you ask me, except you have less friends presumably which can be a little difficult. I think you'd do fine, I doubt it's as bad as you think. Might even be a good thing
The school part of it isn't much more difficult than High school SA wise if you ask me, except you have less friends presumably which can be a little difficult. I think you'd do fine, I doubt it's as bad as you think. Might even be a good thing
Silentknight
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I currently go to a community college and can say that it's been a bit easier then high school but that just might be because their are so few students in my classes. Really though their is only one way to find out if college/uni is right for you and that's to go for it start out slow maybe two or three classes at most and if you begin to feel comfortable then keep going. I wholeheartedly (not sure if that's a word) recommend going back to school though I think studying and learning can really help keep your mind off other things and college can really be a great place to meet new people without you having to make a first move.
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well thank you that makes me feel a little better about it ... I hated high school as I used to get picked on and I ended up dropping out of tafe coz I cudnt deal with some students aswel so I guess thats what is kind of putting me off I get more anxious around girls :-( and the course I want to do is beauty therapy hmmmm
slowmotiondaydream
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it depends on your perception of it, if you genuinely try .. you'll get there. i for one tried to make friends, but i got to the point where i couldnt be ****ed anymore. every time i try to talk to someone, they wouldnt make conversation back. so ive given up and closed myself off anything social related. so i figured now im only there to get my degree and be gone. i hate it so much though, i resorted to listening to recorded lectures online because im always sitting alone in lecture rooms and about to throw up because of how s.a i feel
DanFC
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Well, I'm just one year shy of finishing as an undergrad, and I can say that college is definitely possible as a person with SA!
But, it also depends on what you are expecting, as vj said. For most people, the "college experience" includes a lot of social contact. If that's what you want out of your college experience, you'll have to work harder than most at it.
I myself have stuck to the classes, which aren't that bad. I'm at a large university and classes are usually 100+, so I don't get the same sense that I'm under a magnifying glass that I got consistently during high school. However, there are plenty of cases I've had to work in small groups regardless of class size. These times have been the most hectic for me, but I worked through it.
And how daydream insinuated, many classes can now be taken online, or at least large portions of them are available online.
But, it also depends on what you are expecting, as vj said. For most people, the "college experience" includes a lot of social contact. If that's what you want out of your college experience, you'll have to work harder than most at it.
I myself have stuck to the classes, which aren't that bad. I'm at a large university and classes are usually 100+, so I don't get the same sense that I'm under a magnifying glass that I got consistently during high school. However, there are plenty of cases I've had to work in small groups regardless of class size. These times have been the most hectic for me, but I worked through it.
And how daydream insinuated, many classes can now be taken online, or at least large portions of them are available online.
Lexus199
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I'm sorry you're feeling that way today. Hope you feel better.
I've dealt/deal with SA and going to college. I live in the US so I don't know if it's different in Australia but generally the social environment differs than the one in high school. It also depends on the specific school. Perhaps you should go around and visit a couple different ones so you can get feel for each one? I'd encourage you to go since it sounds like something you really want to do. What if you went part-time? That could be less stressful. However, if you're feeling particularly anxious lately I would wait and work that out first. Regardless don't give up!
zav943
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I'm almost done uni...ALMOST. Within a few months, I get my degree and then....I don't know what to do with it!
But yeah, I pulled through it with SA. Maybe I have no friends, but I managed to get through three and a half years of one of the toughest engineering programs in the country.
Go for it!
But yeah, I pulled through it with SA. Maybe I have no friends, but I managed to get through three and a half years of one of the toughest engineering programs in the country.
Go for it!
It really depends on how you react to the situations that uni will put you in - nobody can predict how that will go. Some people with SA find a way of getting through it that works for them, but I dropped out three quarters of the way through, which is frustrating. On the one hand I feel so close to having finished it, but the last part of uni is always hardest, and sadly, when the going gets tough, I get going.
Kristina223
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I hope it is, because I'm attending next year. I'll still be living with my parents though, which means life won't change much. I'll still run back home to my safe, isolated room after every mandatory class and skip all the non-mandatory ones. That is, if things don't change soon ...
emerald_star733
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I found that college was more social than uni. In college i felt pressure to be at all the parties etc. but in university i felt that most take it more seriously(could be cause it is way more expensive in Canada than college)so i found it to be much more comfy and everyone was kind of in their own little world instead of worrying about parties and such. It helps that i lived on my own than in a dorm too. Good luck and go for it!
da_illest101
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What i like about college and uni, it's way less sociable then high school. You can spend your whole time alone and do your work and no one will care.
UnOccupied
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Yes! I did it for three years. I am in year 4 now, and it is finally getting under control. But, if i hadn't let my SA get so bad, by ignoring it and pretending it wasn't there, i am sure my SA wouldn't have gotten so bad in the first place Anyway, now that i am handling it through therapy, and CBT, it is way more maneagable. I actually look forward to school most days now. EXCEPT for today, i have a huge pimple on my lip that won't go away I am scared to go to class, it is so embarrassing. But, this is a rational reason to be scared, IMO, whereas SA is not a rational reason to be scared.
Anyway, now that i am handling it through therapy, and CBT, it is way more maneagable. I actually look forward to school most days now. EXCEPT for today, i have a huge pimple on my lip that won't go away I am scared to go to class, it is so embarrassing. But, this is a rational reason to be scared, IMO, whereas SA is not a rational reason to be scared.
bsebring
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It really depends on how you react to the situations that uni will put you in - nobody can predict how that will go. Some people with SA find a way of getting through it that works for them, but I dropped out three quarters of the way through, which is frustrating. On the one hand I feel so close to having finished it, but the last part of uni is always hardest, and sadly, when the going gets tough, I get going.
blah, same is happening to me. but not because of sa. It's because I still don't like anything offered as a major and i don't have anymore basic classes to take. I think trade school is better for me.
Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
I agree with that. Don't say it's not possible without even trying.