Is uni/college possible with s.a??
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3lefts
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Impossibility doesn't matter, all that matters is what you want.
I watched a bee come into my bakery yesterday and felt kind of sad because they ended up killing him. But he came in because everything smelt so sweet and much better than what he'd find outside. So, that's what life is, either you risk it for something amazing, regardless of probabilities, or you die scared of dying and never experiencing something that great. Did that metaphor work?
I want to go to university, so I am going.
I watched a bee come into my bakery yesterday and felt kind of sad because they ended up killing him. But he came in because everything smelt so sweet and much better than what he'd find outside. So, that's what life is, either you risk it for something amazing, regardless of probabilities, or you die scared of dying and never experiencing something that great. Did that metaphor work?
I want to go to university, so I am going.
It sure is possible. And if you want it you definitly should do it. Regardless your level of SA.
For me the hardest part was motivation. I never really wanted to study. It was just the logical follow up after highschool. So in my case there wasn't an intrinsic motivation. I think the fact that you started this thread means that you do have the motivation. Motivation is the key. In my final year i was motivated to finish and it got so much easier for me then.
Also for me it was hard to concentrate during the classes. Often i was distracted by anxious thoughts. But that was manageble, because eventually the actual studying takes place at home.
Working on projects in teams was no problem for me. I feel relatively comfortable in groups of 3/4/5 people. And its actually an easy way to meet some people in your class because youre forced to work together. It's always harder to approach classmates when you dont have to.
I had to do a few presentations and other communicative skills training during my education. That could really stress me, especially before it even took place. But i improved allot and somehow i feel more comfortable now giving a presentation than being in some other social situations. So sometimes you will be forced to come out of your comfortzone but that's important if you want to improve.
If you choose to go for it, i strongly suggest to talk about your situation with school. Often they are very understanding and help you to make it easier. I never did say anything but i know people who did (didn't have SA though, but other problems).
I hope you make the right decision
For me the hardest part was motivation. I never really wanted to study. It was just the logical follow up after highschool. So in my case there wasn't an intrinsic motivation. I think the fact that you started this thread means that you do have the motivation. Motivation is the key. In my final year i was motivated to finish and it got so much easier for me then.
Also for me it was hard to concentrate during the classes. Often i was distracted by anxious thoughts. But that was manageble, because eventually the actual studying takes place at home.
Working on projects in teams was no problem for me. I feel relatively comfortable in groups of 3/4/5 people. And its actually an easy way to meet some people in your class because youre forced to work together. It's always harder to approach classmates when you dont have to.
I had to do a few presentations and other communicative skills training during my education. That could really stress me, especially before it even took place. But i improved allot and somehow i feel more comfortable now giving a presentation than being in some other social situations. So sometimes you will be forced to come out of your comfortzone but that's important if you want to improve.
If you choose to go for it, i strongly suggest to talk about your situation with school. Often they are very understanding and help you to make it easier. I never did say anything but i know people who did (didn't have SA though, but other problems).
I hope you make the right decision
madmike
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Like other people have said, it depends on your expectations. I think you should definitely go for it if you have nothing else going on for you, university will keep your mind occupied and thought off worries and anxiety, will give you the opportunity and the incentive to meet new people since you'll be on your own and you'll become a lot more independent.
My only suggestion is, maybe choose a university which is not too far away from you actual home, my first year ended up being an absolute nightmare thanks to my anxiety (which is sad because i think my flatmates were really friendly and tried hard to integrate me, i'd have had problems dealing with myself my SA was so bad) so i ended up going home almost every weekend. I recommend trying to stay obviously to get the full university experience, but the opportunity would be there and you wouldn't have to ditch your course if you really couldn't cope.
I've learned so much from uni and i'm not even considering my subjects a part of that (although i really love them). But i mean important things which i could never have learned otherwise!
My only suggestion is, maybe choose a university which is not too far away from you actual home, my first year ended up being an absolute nightmare thanks to my anxiety (which is sad because i think my flatmates were really friendly and tried hard to integrate me, i'd have had problems dealing with myself my SA was so bad) so i ended up going home almost every weekend. I recommend trying to stay obviously to get the full university experience, but the opportunity would be there and you wouldn't have to ditch your course if you really couldn't cope.
I've learned so much from uni and i'm not even considering my subjects a part of that (although i really love them). But i mean important things which i could never have learned otherwise!
Asherah
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For me it didnt work out. Only the first year because i could study at home, but the second year they changed the schoolsystem and made some classes obligatory, that didnt work out for me at all and had to quit my study After two hours of college i was so tired, anxious and stressed out that i had to stay home for 3 days... I hope to finish my study once when im done with therapy
After two hours of college i was so tired, anxious and stressed out that i had to stay home for 3 days... I hope to finish my study once when im done with therapy I guess it depends on individual, for myself, I am unable to attend college as I am unable to sit in classrooms, lecture theaters filled with peers my age, etc, but am able to hold down a job. Similarly, there are some SA people who are able to attend school, but are unable to hold down a job, it would depend on how your SA affects you I guess. If you had prior problems with school because of SA, it is quite likely you would face it again when you go back, it would depend on how you can manage it I guess.
Snowdrop
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I have SA and I'm going to be going to uni next year too... it's hard isn't it? I'm so scared of what I'll have to face, there are so many issues not just having to meet new people/ settle in etc. But I don't think it ever occurred to me to really give up going because I've always been advised (by my family and people around me) and assumed that I would go, otherwise it felt like what else would I do with my life?
Besides, I think that if I DON'T go and then in the future get better (hopefully) I might regret never having gone :/
Besides, I think that if I DON'T go and then in the future get better (hopefully) I might regret never having gone :/
TheNewZero
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I've had a lot of problems going to university. Probably because I'm an education major, so lots of my classes revolve around group work and presentations. I've been to 4 different colleges in the past 3 years because I just haven't been happy in any and wanted to get a fresh start. I've finally decided to do an online programme because I just can't stand going to class. It's so draining.
It is possible, but I would look at the schools and find one that fits you the best. If you're more comfortable sitting in large lecture halls where you blend in, then find a big university and sign up for lots of big lecture classes. If you do better in small groups, find a smaller university. I got a lot better with going to university when I started to accept the fact that I wasn't going to make any friends, and that it was okay for me to be a recluse. I knew that that's how my fellow classmates thought of me as, but I didn't mind.
It is possible, but I would look at the schools and find one that fits you the best. If you're more comfortable sitting in large lecture halls where you blend in, then find a big university and sign up for lots of big lecture classes. If you do better in small groups, find a smaller university. I got a lot better with going to university when I started to accept the fact that I wasn't going to make any friends, and that it was okay for me to be a recluse. I knew that that's how my fellow classmates thought of me as, but I didn't mind.