is being a male virgin unnattractive?

SickJoke

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hippiechild said:
good goodness! Sickjoke, please continue to post regularly on this forum. Everything you've said has been a breath of fresh air. Thank you =)

Although his comments lack the sugary sweetness of most on SPW, I think his will be far more beneficial in the long run. Eating sweets rots your teeth and makes you weak
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Hey thanks for the kind words, that means a lot. :)

no1 said:
**** you hippiechild. and anyone that agrees with sickjoke. may you rot in hell with your foolishness.

If I could I would kill you all, whoever believe in this crap, support it and keep supporting it, spreading this disease. Then you'll see who the hell is an "alpha male".
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You've gone off the deep end man...:confused:
 
theslowesthand

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Danfalc said:
Not in my experience...i had sex quite young,but i was still very sexualy inexperienced for a long time,and actualy scared to have sex because of a bad experience.But it didnt seem to affect me...I still got plenty of girls when i was at school college and even offers of sex on a plate Without soudning like bragging,I didnt take them up on it cos i was to unconfident and of course this was before i had social anxiety
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thor01 said:
How did you get these offers? I feel jealous when i read of that happening to people. I know ive never had an offer like that myself so its impossible to say 100% surley what i would do, but if i got those offers i would definatley take them regardless of the fact i am completley inexperienced. The whole reason why i'm experienced is because ive never had the chance, so if i was given the chance i would. I wouldnt be bothered by the fact im never done it before because at least id be getting the chance to actualy do it
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But how would yu feel if, like me, you DID have channces, but flunkd them all?? I thnk that i probbly, if i had NONE chances, be equally as pissed/etc, as: 1) the frstraiton of almost-but-not-quite (fcks with my head)
2) since my "chances" (=what i could have TURNED into chancves) have happend over abut 20 yrs (ie spread out), i tend not to recall this partial sucess for most of time (ie it FEELS as if ive had ZERO chnces!)

So weare probbaly ~equally as pissed/etc, but about 2 different frustrations
your = frustrtion at not having CHANCES at CREATING CHANCES for sex/etc
mine = frustrtion at not having ACTED upon my CHANCES ...

2nd try .. i will now use the word "opprtunity"
your = frustrtion at not having OPP'Y at CREATING real OPP'YS for sex/etc
mine = frustrtion at not having ACTED upon my "OPP'YS for creating real OPP'YS for sex/etc" NOR upon my "OPP'YS for having sex/etc" (of coarse, very very few of the latter!)


Am i right abut all ths?
Is there a better way to pu all this??
 
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Danfalc

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thesmallestloser said:
Am i right abut all ths?
Is there a better way to pu all this??
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I understood what you ment and thats what i was trying to say myself,I did have chances,but i either chickend out of them or the few chances i took up i messed up or wasnt nice experiences.So yeah its just as frustrating.

The only reason i got the offers i think was because of the social enviroment i was in at the time...people were quite sexualy liberated to put it in a polite way,rather than anything special about me.
 
JA2007

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I'm a chick and I don't think its unattractive for a guy to be a virgin. It is unattractive for him to make fun of himself about it or act like he's desperate. If the subject comes up, just say that you have never done it because you are waiting for the right time and it is your choice. If the girl thinks you are desperate to get laid, she will be turned off.
 
Lea

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Sorry I had to take it down, anyway hope it was a bit helpful.
 
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Chrysalis

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I'm still a virgin - granted, it's probably more accepted by social standards for a woman to be so, but please know you're not alone - and it doesn't have to be a religious choice either

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I'd like it to happen for me, but would only ever be with someone I trust - could never do the one-night stand thing, so saying that, I'm in no real rush.

I'd rather wait and be treated respectfully and share that experience with someone special.
 
SickJoke

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mrb said:
interesting reading ........ passes the time of day doesnt it
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Yes indeed. Thanks for reviving this thread, there's one point I didn't address :D

Remus said:
Yes I agree, the difference between us and animals is that everyone of us is unique, we share certain similarities of course, our tastes vary considerably, we are not clones
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You say "the difference between us and animals" as if we're not animals:confused: Human beings are apes:eek: Are you saying that all dogs are clones; they're all exactly the same? Every animal is unique, with varied tastes, not just humans.
 
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JA2007 said:
I'm a chick and I don't think its unattractive for a guy to be a virgin. It is unattractive for him to make fun of himself about it or act like he's desperate. If the subject comes up, just say that you have never done it because you are waiting for the right time and it is your choice. If the girl thinks you are desperate to get laid, she will be turned off.
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I know they might be, but i dont get why. Because if a girl came to me who was desperate to get laid i'd think it was the best and luckiest thing thats happened haha.
 
SickJoke

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thor01 said:
I know they might be, but i dont get why. Because if a girl came to me who was desperate to get laid i'd think it was the best and luckiest thing thats happened haha.
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What if it was the ugliest girl you've ever seen in your life, would you still feel lucky :D because that's the way you're perceived when you come across as desperate to women. Attraction is different for men and women. We want physical beauty, they want certain personality characteristics.
 
Psychedelicious

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God damn it sickjoke, you don't think very highly of unattractive people do you? you seem to think of them like they're trash? I have one important question I've been wondering.... have you ever had a girlfriend? or a date? since you seem to be the expert. Just curious.
 
Remus

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SickJoke said:
You say "the difference between us and animals" as if we're not animals:confused: Human beings are apes:eek: Are you saying that all dogs are clones; they're all exactly the same? Every animal is unique, with varied tastes, not just humans.
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Speaking for myself, I'm higher up the food chain :cool:

I'll have to drag myself to an art gallery sometime, see what the sheep and cows have been doing, I gather they are going through thier bovine renaissance period

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Argamemnon

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I don't why, but I no longer feel sad about being a virgin despite being almost 33. I have felt sad for two years but that's over now. I really wouldn't want to be in a relationship or marriage. It would suffocate me. Imagine being an extreme introvert like me and coming home from work. You will need to spend hours alone to recharge, every single day. Will your partner be ok with this? I doubt it. And having children must be a real nightmare.

I don't know if I will regret my decision when I get old, but I can't deny the way I feel today. The last thing I would want is a relationship. Just the thought of sleeping together in the same room/bed drives me nuts. I could never fall asleep with another human being next to me :)
 
Psychedelicious

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Where'd you get that idea?

What if it was the ugliest girl you've ever seen in your life, would you still feel lucky
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What if the girl is completely ugly but she's wearing fashionable clothes? I think you meant attractive girls, which would make a lot more sense.
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By things like that :p.
 
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