Hi Falkor!
First off, you're not ugly! I'm totally not saying that to make you feel better, it's just a fact.
Second - everyone has their own beauty, no one is "ugly". (Don't let THAT take away from the fact that you're aesthetically above-average, either)
Third, BDD IS hard to get over. It takes time. I'm getting over it as I type this, and have been only getting past it for the past few years. An ex of mine told me I was "beautiful" (and this was after we broke up) when I complained of my "ugliness". It felt like she was just saying it to cheer me up.
I can tell you that everyone sees 'beauty' in different ways. Thousands of models I have seen don't do a thing for me. Women I think are "beautiful" are "ugly" by people I've mentioned them to. It's all subjective!
BEAUTY is an opinion. So is ugliness (which doesn't exist).
I can tell you all of that, but to a person with BDD, it doesn't really make sense, or sounds like it doesn't apply to them.
Please take take the time and energy to realize that you're comparing yourself to a social acceptance of what typical beauty is (the "perfect" people on TV and movie screens and runways and magazine covers, all of whom have Photoshop, special effects and expert makeup artists behind them) and the stress will melt, you will start to love yourself, and the happiness you deserve will break over you
