Lonely_Writer
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I mean, I don't have a job, a car, a boyfriend... Nothing.
I'm a LOSER
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Ignace
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Since when is not having a car part of being a loser. :
: All of those things don't mean you're a loser. Lots of people are in that situation, jobs don't grow on trees and boyfriends either. Don't give up on getting a job, don't be picky, get anything you can get and then you can look for something you might like better or what you studied for. In the meantime you got an income and can meet people, might not sound nice, but it's necessary. Can't give you any advice about finding a partner, sorry. :: I just know they don't come knocking your door ... damn. :sad:
: All of those things don't mean you're a loser. Lots of people are in that situation, jobs don't grow on trees and boyfriends either. Don't give up on getting a job, don't be picky, get anything you can get and then you can look for something you might like better or what you studied for. In the meantime you got an income and can meet people, might not sound nice, but it's necessary. Can't give you any advice about finding a partner, sorry. :: I just know they don't come knocking your door ... damn. :sad:
Xervello
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But at least you still have your cute monkey looks.
It sucks, I know. I have none of those things either. I don't exactly consider myself a winner, but as long as I have my health and an able mind, I try the best I can to stay positive. Focus on the good things, however few or slim those might be. You're still the same awesome person you were back When you had a car, a job, a boyfriend. Only maybe now this whole experience will make you even awesomer.
It sucks, I know. I have none of those things either. I don't exactly consider myself a winner, but as long as I have my health and an able mind, I try the best I can to stay positive. Focus on the good things, however few or slim those might be. You're still the same awesome person you were back When you had a car, a job, a boyfriend. Only maybe now this whole experience will make you even awesomer.
MikeyC
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So? Not having these things doesn't automatically make you a loser. Getting any of these things is not easy, so you will do it when you're ready.
Everyone on Earth with a job, a car, and a boyfriend/girlfriend started out with neither of those things, so I wouldn't stress too much about it.
Which one do you want most of all? Have a think about how you can attain that, then go for it. You never know what could happen.
Lonely_Writer
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Wow, thanks for the encouraging words. It means a lot. I was at a low point when I made this thread, and probably wasn't being realistic with myself at all. No, none of those things make me a loser. Getting off of my own back is the only way I'm going to attain any of those things.
Thanks again, you made my day a little brighter.
Thanks again, you made my day a little brighter.
cowboyup
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No, you are not a loser. not having a car, job or bf/gf does NOT make you a loser.
For what it's worth, I didn't get my driver license and car til I was 35
I have never had a boyfriend.
and I lost my job partly due to my stupidity (plus it was 2008 so they were letting people go)
And I live with family members.
I could get down about it all, but I try not to and just make progressive baby steps towards the future.
YOU ARE NOT a LOSER
For what it's worth, I didn't get my driver license and car til I was 35
I have never had a boyfriend.
and I lost my job partly due to my stupidity (plus it was 2008 so they were letting people go)
And I live with family members.
I could get down about it all, but I try not to and just make progressive baby steps towards the future.
YOU ARE NOT a LOSER
ImNotMyIllness
Well-known member
I read the title and was thinking, ME TOO!
Satine
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It looks like you've managed to cheer up since starting this thread, but I totally get where you've coming from in feeling this way.
May I make a suggestion for if and when the feeling comes back? Make a contract with yourself to get whichever thing feels most pressing. Set yourself safe, attainable, non-contradictory goals. I know I'm probably saying something that seems a bit obvious but it can work wonders, making an explicit decision over one thing you want.
Take care.
May I make a suggestion for if and when the feeling comes back? Make a contract with yourself to get whichever thing feels most pressing. Set yourself safe, attainable, non-contradictory goals. I know I'm probably saying something that seems a bit obvious but it can work wonders, making an explicit decision over one thing you want.
Take care.
I've been there. You have to just take it one at a time. Though if you're anything like me you'll always find a new reason to be depressed.
If you consider yourself to be a loser then you are a loser to yourself.
If you consider yourself to be a winner then you are a winner to yourself.
If you consider yourself to be a frog, with enough motivation and drugs, you will be a frog to yourself.
It's all in your head. You are not a loser. This world can be tough sometimes, don't get sucked into thinking lowly about yourself. YOU are the person who has to judge yourself and YOU are the person who has to stand up for yourself.
If you consider yourself to be a winner then you are a winner to yourself.
If you consider yourself to be a frog, with enough motivation and drugs, you will be a frog to yourself.
It's all in your head. You are not a loser. This world can be tough sometimes, don't get sucked into thinking lowly about yourself. YOU are the person who has to judge yourself and YOU are the person who has to stand up for yourself.
MikeyC
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Glad to hear you're feeling a bit better now.
theslowesthand
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I believe the shallow, materialistic ego-mind is responsible for feeling like a "loser". Most people in the world have this, and "society" definately has it. If one can get past the ego, then they can see the TRUE value of things.
KiaKaha
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Even those in jail are not necessarily losers.
Does that mean that you are looser?
You're right. I must have posted that without much thinking. There are scholars and innocent people who have been wrongly imprisoned especially in dictator countries.
mikebird
Banned
How much effort, time or money does it take to make friends?
All these things do just come absolutely free. Everyone has them, all the time.
I don't. I was thinking this, just before I saw the thread.
I will and have made such vast amounts of effort and time to gain all these things that all people have. Students (age 17?) who come to park on campus with cars bigger (4x4) and newer than I have ever seen, even more that the remaining older or younger people in may family have. I managed to buy a mountain bike after graduation, and do feel lazy and bored having the privilege of driving in a luxurious protective shell rather than being active.
The weights I can lift, push or pull or how far or the distance I can run makes no difference. Everyone has friends naturally. Nothing we can do. We have things, or we don't. It just falls into your lap. Smiling harder doesn't seem to work as I expected. This seems to put people off. Trying to frown or be angry doesn't seem to work. I can laugh and act gleeful during handshakes. Effort required, especially with family.
I really did think of having '666' tattooed into my forehead when I was eight. Family strongly advised me not to do that. Even doing as told and pleasing such people doesn't work. :::bowing::reading:
I really have the ability to act differently to what I want to. It's not good enough.
All these things do just come absolutely free. Everyone has them, all the time.
I don't. I was thinking this, just before I saw the thread.
I will and have made such vast amounts of effort and time to gain all these things that all people have. Students (age 17?) who come to park on campus with cars bigger (4x4) and newer than I have ever seen, even more that the remaining older or younger people in may family have. I managed to buy a mountain bike after graduation, and do feel lazy and bored having the privilege of driving in a luxurious protective shell rather than being active.
The weights I can lift, push or pull or how far or the distance I can run makes no difference. Everyone has friends naturally. Nothing we can do. We have things, or we don't. It just falls into your lap. Smiling harder doesn't seem to work as I expected. This seems to put people off. Trying to frown or be angry doesn't seem to work. I can laugh and act gleeful during handshakes. Effort required, especially with family.
I really did think of having '666' tattooed into my forehead when I was eight. Family strongly advised me not to do that. Even doing as told and pleasing such people doesn't work. :
::bowing::reading:I really have the ability to act differently to what I want to. It's not good enough.
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