I'm a LOSER

[mikebird]

You're not a loser. You're not in jail.

Being in jail was one of the most abundant periods of my life! I found the most interesting and akin minded people on earth. I didn't realise it as I walked out of the gates to return to normal life, but a few minutes later, I really missed all those people!

Jobs don't grow on trees. But they are advertised / published / marketed in bulk, every day by the employer or in pseudo by brainless recruiters, whose ultimate goal is to prevent anyone from meeting the employer.
I jump onto the things I CAN DO. I'd never pretend that I can do something, to get my foot in the door; I offer myself and my skills & experience required by the description. Phone calls by recruiters are bullying. They use smart tools of asking my name more than once, when I've already answered and they keep asking 'hello?' more than once, after I keep answering. This war leads to meeting an employer once in a million. One in Dec and one in Jan, since Nov.

Phone calls AND personal interview meetings end up in 'head in hands' response. This is a phrase I've used for years, metaphorically, to describe my acceptance within minutes. This happened on Friday for the first real time. The big old boss and the young Team Leader kept looking directly to each other, laughing about what I said, which reinforced my analysis of all reactions, which has previously only been what I've seen in their eyes, not verbally, detecting their negativity. The Team Leader did cover his head with his head, looking downwards.

 

[PGT]

I have no girlfriend but have a good job and a nice car. I am fit and healthy i exercise 5 times a week but still feel like a loser 90% of the time.
Just cant seem to stop feeling this way even though i look normal and act normal, i just feel down inside. So your are not alone i bet there is a lot of people that feel the way we do.

 

[mikebird]

Not everyone's born equal

There must be tolerance :bowing:

 

[Fobic]

I don't have a car, I don't have girlfriend, I don't have a job, I don't have friends ... :kickingmyself::kickingmyself:


but I try to think in the positive things in my life , mi family , I have a degree , I'm healthy ... etc

 

[Nanita]

I mean, I don't have a job, a car, a boyfriend... Nothing.

People who have a job, a car and a partner, are not necessarily "winners" or happy people, for that matter.

 

[awkwardamanda]

I read the title and was thinking, ME TOO!

ME THREE!!! I don't have a job. I can't buy a car until I get one. (I'm also waiting until my brother moves out, so that I have a place to park it.) I don't even want to think about finding a boyfriend until I at least have a job, and probably not until I have a car and have moved out of my parents house. Not that I expect any opportunities to come up, but I'm certainly not gonna go looking right now.

Jobs don't grow on trees. But they are advertised / published / marketed in bulk, every day by the employer or in pseudo by brainless recruiters, whose ultimate goal is to prevent anyone from meeting the employer.
I jump onto the things I CAN DO. I'd never pretend that I can do something, to get my foot in the door; I offer myself and my skills & experience required by the description. Phone calls by recruiters are bullying. They use smart tools of asking my name more than once, when I've already answered and they keep asking 'hello?' more than once, after I keep answering. This war leads to meeting an employer once in a million. One in Dec and one in Jan, since Nov.

This is one thing that's really pissing me off right now. So many postings are listed through staffing agencies and I have a few problems with this. For one thing, many of these are term positions. Ok, I get the need for temp agencies when companies need some extra help, or when they need someone to fill in, just for a few days or weeks. But I don't even want to bother applying for a job that I know is only gonna be like nine months or whatever, and then I'm looking all over again. Once I find a job, I'd like to be confident that as long as I get through my three-month probation, there will be some sense of job security. But what is the point of these agencies, otherwise? Why can't some of these companies do their own damn hiring? You can't even research the company ahead of time then. I would like to be able to browse the company's website before I make the decision to apply. And if they don't have a website, that's a red flag that it's a dinky little company with only a few staff and not many opportunities for advancement. But, at the very least, I would like to know where the building is. Location is a deal breaker for me. I have to be able to take a bus and if I don't even know where the place is, I'm not going to want to apply.

 

[Flanscho]

Job, car, boyfriend? I think you have strange ways to determine that you are a loser. I guess that in the end, it depends on what you are striving for. If it's one of the most important goals in your life to get a car, and you don't seem to have one, then of course things don't go as planned. Though I personally don't see why someone put so much emphasis on a moving piece of metal.

I have no car either. I don't need a car anyway. Actually, a car would be bad for me. It would cost a buttload of money, to purchase and to maintain, while I am doing perfectly fine by biking.

A job? The question is then why you don't have a job. Do you live in such a remote village, that only five jobs are available there? Do you try to get into jobs you ain't qualified for? I don't know.

A boyfriend? That also depends what for a person you are looking for. Young, beautiful, millionaire, living in a remote village? Might be hard to find. Not saying that you should lower your standards, but it's always a question on whom you are looking for and what steps you are taking to find that person.

 

[miserablecow]

I can't stop feeling the same, actually. No matter what people say, its just hard not to feel that you are a loser. Due to this it has increased my depression, which isn't great.

 

[emre43]

You are not a loser. You are allowing how you feel to tell you how to think. I don't have a job a car or a girlfriend but I don't consider myself a loser.

 

[Bexi]

You're not a loser. Try to think of the good things you have, I know it can be hard

 

[coldhart]

well im a loser too! and this keeps me not getting to talk to people and causing me a irreversible consequences that degrades my self esteem.. :crying: