if you were perfect..

[Falkor]

If you were perfect (from your own perspective, NOT others)

What would've you been like?

I'm not offending anyone here, it's just something that I wonder, if other's also have a LOW self esteem, and what would you think would make you more perfect (because I think everybody is perfect here...) But we never see it ourselves! We make it so hard for ourselves (i do it too) that we can't get compliments, we can't appreciate our own hard working and we basically are negative so much.

So, what is the negative point, about yourself, that you would like to see other way round?

please do not describe it negatively, say the perfect way of it, so you can say what you want, and then say why you think it's hard to reach and then others might help you out here, and hey, remember, you don't have to be perfect, all though everybody is in their own unique way....

don't critisise yourself, that's not the topic, but maybe it can help because it's a hard subject it should be chat-able.

so what would you been like, if you had no SA, no problems , what is your dream life ?

 

[Hellhound]

Being famous in the art world.

 

[Helmaninquiel]

If I was prefect, hmm guess I would be a whole lot happier. Guess I would do everything that I don't think I'll accomplish in life. Have really awesome friends that would be there for me, have a good job, good husband, nice house, car etc.. go to Japan, well actually I still think ill do that even if it takes me the rest of my life.

 

[OceanMist]

I would have achieved greatness at everything. Job, social life, personal life, etc.

 

[InvisaLady]

I'd be thin and pretty with big working eyes, a husband with a strong libido,a real job, my own house, a truck and a stable full of Icelandic and Friesian horses.

 

[Razzlecherry]

I'd be maybe half a foot taller. I'd have my own independent sketch comedy show. I'd have a career in film directing/acting.

 

[Steppen-Wolf]

For me being "perfect" means having many of the same flaws that I have, but without them being patological, while maxing all my virtues.

I would love to be centered, motivated and hard working, but I would be perfectly fine with still not being overly social or popular.

 

[coyote]

i am perfect the way i am

if i were any different, i wouldn't be me

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

I'd be a beautiful, charismatic and talented violinist/pianist/singer/composer/author (yes, all of them). I'd live in a semi-rural area in a nice house with lots of land, a beautiful black horse, a Border collie and a nice husband. And we'd all live happily ever after. The end.

 

[A Many Splendored Thing]

i am perfect the way i am

if i were any different, i wouldn't be me

That's exactly what I thought.

A little rough around the edges, but some polishing and a spit shine on my accord will get me to where I want to be.

 

[laure15]

If I were perfect, I will almost be the opposite of what I am right now. I won't have all those emotional baggage I'm carrying now. No one would dare bully me because I'm fearless, and I will be able to find happiness in almost any situation.

 

[BlackPuma]

As I am, but I'd like to be better able to augment humanity.

As in; not creep people out as much, and being capable of carrying conversations that don't end in the inevitable awkward ''..Okay'' or otherwise quick-close method.

 

[TheTemp]

Be a famous singer!

 

[Geo]

I would have an underwear-modelesque body and would find it easier to make small-talk. Overall that's really it.

 

[mikebird]

I'm happy with myself.

Various psychologists since my latest hospital episode have got me to see my failings - senses, balance, memory, problem-solving, conversational practice.... which is now all repaired and normal. I don't like criticism.

I do see myself as OK, and proud of it.

I landed here in 2010 merely due to a wreck of a life without employment or relationship with a partner. We're in a big world with too many people to deal with. Getting on with others is nigh impossible. Nobody's fault. We have our own way. Nothing wrong with being an individual. All we need is luck. Then we'll find a match.

 

[TheTemp]

I'm happy with myself.

Various psychologists since my latest hospital episode have got me to see my failings - senses, balance, memory, problem-solving, conversational practice.... which is now all repaired and normal. I don't like criticism.

I do see myself as OK, and proud of it.

I landed here in 2010 merely due to a wreck of a life without employment or relationship with a partner. We're in a big world with too many people to deal with. Getting on with others is nigh impossible. Nobody's fault. We have our own way. Nothing wrong with being an individual. All we need is luck. Then we'll find a match.

Very well put. I'm just beginning to accept myself and this is the direction I would like to be thinking in for the near future.

 

[vj288]

When I think about a "perfect" me the first thing that comes to mind is that I progressed normally, did things at a normal rate, thought normal things did things that were normal and am just at the stage at my life with the experiences I should have at this point of my life. The word "normal" came a lot you can see, I don't think that would make me perfect just "normal." Maybe I am tired of being different and weird, and having such an unorthodox adolescence. The idea of normal is a little silly though, there are norms but there is no real normal.

If I was perfect I would just be happy with who I am and how I got here.

 

[Duzmiu]

my own place by a lake surrounded by mountains(my dream place), a nice car, a job i wanted to do and enjoyed it, good friends, could play a few instuments, know a few languages and most importanly a girlfriend that i loved with all my heart and she loved me back

thats pretty much my dream "life"

 

[superfluouslyme]

When I think about a "perfect" me the first thing that comes to mind is that I progressed normally, did things at a normal rate, thought normal things did things that were normal and am just at the stage at my life with the experiences I should have at this point of my life. The word "normal" came a lot you can see, I don't think that would make me perfect just "normal." Maybe I am tired of being different and weird, and having such an unorthodox adolescence. The idea of normal is a little silly though, there are norms but there is no real normal.

If I was perfect I would just be happy with who I am and how I got here.

Nicely put.

I'm very much a hypocrite when it comes to "perfection." I say that "perfection" is not quantifiable and varies from person to person and is therefore unattainable (much like "normal.") But in my life, I do strive to do everything as "perfect" as I can (or well above par) that I make myself sick. One day I hope to accept that I am as "perfect" as I am ever going to be.

 

[BlueDays]

If I was perfect I would be in a position to become a doctor or scientist and be able to do something important with my life.