If some one asked u out, would u say yes?

Darker Than Black

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Say, you like someone, and they like you back. If they asked u out on a date, would you say yes??

Or if it were me, I would probably just say I would like to be friends, and we should hang out more or something.
 

Anomaly

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I wouldn't go out with just anyone, even if they asked me. Going out with a stranger would freak me out. Also, it wouldn't be worth risking my first experience, it may very well go horribly wrong.
 
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Tiercel

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I sure would. I'd have nothing to lose. Even if the date went horribly wrong I'd still just end up alone, which is what I was before the date. Fortune favors the bold, so go for it, my friend!
 

Richey

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personally i probably wouldn't unless i knew them really well, i dont know what she'd be like around her friends, would i fit into the picture of her world or would it just not work at all, i really don't know. alot of people would act based on initial flirtation and it could work out to be a blessing. its a risk, always a risk that go one way or the other ...never an easy decision. there was a girl i really liked but she'd always lean towards the guys with a certain look. short spikey hair and he must live at a gym have a nice car, oh and he must like footy. but if you can have a decent conversation then that doesnt count for much ..

anyway the first girl i ever kissed and such it turned out she had a boyfriend and other boyfriends its just that she flirted with everyone who was a boy and kept secrets ... thats not the best introduction i could have asked for, in fact its possbily the reason why i'm sort of asexual now. i'm open to the possibility of meeting a girl that i click with but from experience i know that girls tend to go for particular sorts of guys. openly very confident (doesn't particularly matter what he says) and obviously quite muscular with a particular hairstyle(short, blonde tips) and at the least a little popular, must like cars and fishing?. again that is cliched but i see this alot with people where i live. i see alot of cliches even though i realise its not how everybody thinks or approaches meeting people at all.
 
u should go out with the guy alone, no other people, prepare a few things u would say to him... like at ;east five topics to talk about... know it's hard... as they said u have nothing to lose... u gotta try, I probably would.. do u have a therapist to consult with... r post just got me anxious and ripped me outta the dream world.... thx:)
 

ApRiLGeTsAngry77

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Say, you like someone, and they like you back. If they asked u out on a date, would you say yes??

Or if it were me, I would probably just say I would like to be friends, and we should hang out more or something.

Why would you do that if you like the person? If it is because of your SA, there are things you can do on a " date" that can help reduce some of the anxiety you may feel. Going to a movie? Doing an activity like bowling? I guess it all depends on what makes you anxious but I would certainly be creative and think of something I could do with this person to get to know them better. Maybe we can start a thread about good date ideas for social anxious people.
 

blue-roses

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Someone I actually like in return asking me out would be a first....so definitely yes!

Funny, the one time I actually went out with someone where the feeling was mutual (for a while...*groan*) was when I pursued him. Kind of by accident; I was just in a really good mood at that specific moment and, just to be friendly, suggested we catch up again soon, definitely not expecting him to jump at the chance. He kind of took it from there and wanted to see me all the time, and I him...




...then some b/s happened that I'll spare you all from, I got clingy and defensive, and then embarrassed, and stopped talking to him. Ha. Think I need to sort that neediness out before I even attempt another relationship.
 
I met a woman last week on POF - we talked everyday, she even gave me her number, and then she asked if I wanted to go out for a drink sometime. I kind of panicked and said no, I explained I wanted to take things slow, especially seeing as how we have only talked for a week.
 
Yes, I would, cuz why not? It's just an experience. You won't loose anything. Even the date went hardcore suck... at least you've tried it. And maybe the date will be awsome, which maybe makes you want another date or want to hang around more often with him/her. I was used to refuse, because I was afraid that people will make fun of me and will laugh at me. Also I'm still scared that people will think I'm boring, because I have not much to say, during conversations. Anyway, nowadays if someone askes me out for a date, I would definately say yes. A date is just a start of getting know each other. It won't be that worse.
 
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this_portrait

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If I secretly liked someone, and they all of a sudden came out and told me they liked me, and asked me out, I'd definitely say yes.

When it comes to just typical dating, though, I prefer to take things slow. Like lately. I've gone on two dates with this guy I met from a dating site, and I plan on going on a third one. He also has SA, and he seems to understand my ways of thinking and preference for taking things slow.
 

Avery

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Knowing me, I'd probably say, "Oh, uh, thanks, but I'm not in a position to date anyone right now."

More likely I'd just 'disengage' socially prior to any attempt. The closer I get to someone, the more uncomfortable I feel.

Sinopia said:
Yes, I would, cuz why not? It's just an experience. You won't loose anything.

I disagree -- failure can be devastating. Logically a failed date might leave you no worse than before, but emotionally it can leave a much larger psychological footprint than even a success.

Maybe it's just me, but I'm like this with any endeavor. I usually shrug off successes, but failures strike home. If I run psychological cost/benefit analysis on myself, the optimum course of action is usually 'nothing'.
 
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RedRibbons

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Yea - if the feeling was mutual. I would be really anxious feeling though. It's usually guys that I'm not very interested in dating that ask me out. And usually when I like a guy - there is something that makes a relationship unfeasible with them... Life is funny like that.
 

dooby-duck

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It depends how I was feeling at that moment and who was asking. I would probably say yes then panic later.
 
If I liked the women then yes.
Although I have never been asked out before.
So I am not sure I would be able to interpret it, if it ever did happen.
I have once been invited over, or so to say, the women said I should
drop by sometime and visit. When I tried to make plans with her she
told me she was "busy" :)

iamthenra: Keep up the fight man. You keep me going :)
 
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