Imogen
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Oh gosh, I was unsure where to put this, so just hit me if it's not supposed to be here. I'm super nervous about posting a thread. D: I just need a little advice maybe? Or someone who knows what I'm talking about?
As my lame thread title suggests...does anyone else get this when it comes to a partner or significant other? Like sometimes, they don't mind being around a partner and other times they just NEED to be alone. And I don't mean for a few hours, I mean a few days or weeks?
Like for example, I have a boyfriend, my very first actually, and he is very very VERY clingy. (Like to the point of texting me over 70 times a day and constantly having a need to touch or, and my god I hate this word, grope me when we're together.)And at times I do not mind him being around me, but then other times I just can't handle being touched at all? Not even an arm around the shoulders, or a pat on the arm or a hug. Like I just do not want touching at ALL and I need to shut myself away from him for weeks at a time. Does anyone else get like this with a partner? Like they just don't want to be touched? I find that sometimes it's so bad that being touched actually hurts. Like my skin becomes hypersensitive, and the more my boyfriend touches, the more it hurts and stresses me out. He could be stroking my arm, but to me it's like running sand paper over my skin.
Am I totally alone in this? Or does anyone kind of get what I mean? I know it's not exactly well described.
Perhaps I'm just being odd. But like right now? I've severed contact with my boyfriend for two weeks, because I just can't handle him being around me and constantly touching. I get panicky and upset and hyper aware and sensitive of things and people around me and the more he touches me when I'm in this state, the more it makes my thoughts jumble into panicky mush and the more it hurts.
It makes me terribly unhappy and kind of makes me wonder if I need to break it off with him due to needing so much space. As I say, he is very clingy(and he openly admits that he very clingy and likes to be) and perhaps this feeds my anxiety, as I do need personal space and a lot of alone time. I'm the type of person where, if left alone for two weeks, not a soul to talk to, I'd be perfectly fine. I'd not miss people. Or talking to them.
I hope people don't mind me asking this, I know it's personal to ask. I just feel like I'm alone in feeling this. I mean, I am having doubts about my relationship with this guy, as he's pushing me into situations which I do not like or want to do, so perhaps this is making me so...twitchy.
So yes, anyone get this at times? Mayhaps if you do not have a partner right now, then with friends? Or family?
As my lame thread title suggests...does anyone else get this when it comes to a partner or significant other? Like sometimes, they don't mind being around a partner and other times they just NEED to be alone. And I don't mean for a few hours, I mean a few days or weeks?
Like for example, I have a boyfriend, my very first actually, and he is very very VERY clingy. (Like to the point of texting me over 70 times a day and constantly having a need to touch or, and my god I hate this word, grope me when we're together.)And at times I do not mind him being around me, but then other times I just can't handle being touched at all? Not even an arm around the shoulders, or a pat on the arm or a hug. Like I just do not want touching at ALL and I need to shut myself away from him for weeks at a time. Does anyone else get like this with a partner? Like they just don't want to be touched? I find that sometimes it's so bad that being touched actually hurts. Like my skin becomes hypersensitive, and the more my boyfriend touches, the more it hurts and stresses me out. He could be stroking my arm, but to me it's like running sand paper over my skin.
Am I totally alone in this? Or does anyone kind of get what I mean? I know it's not exactly well described.
Perhaps I'm just being odd. But like right now? I've severed contact with my boyfriend for two weeks, because I just can't handle him being around me and constantly touching. I get panicky and upset and hyper aware and sensitive of things and people around me and the more he touches me when I'm in this state, the more it makes my thoughts jumble into panicky mush and the more it hurts.
It makes me terribly unhappy and kind of makes me wonder if I need to break it off with him due to needing so much space. As I say, he is very clingy(and he openly admits that he very clingy and likes to be) and perhaps this feeds my anxiety, as I do need personal space and a lot of alone time. I'm the type of person where, if left alone for two weeks, not a soul to talk to, I'd be perfectly fine. I'd not miss people. Or talking to them.
I hope people don't mind me asking this, I know it's personal to ask. I just feel like I'm alone in feeling this. I mean, I am having doubts about my relationship with this guy, as he's pushing me into situations which I do not like or want to do, so perhaps this is making me so...twitchy.
So yes, anyone get this at times? Mayhaps if you do not have a partner right now, then with friends? Or family?
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