davidsoprano
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I met this girl about 4 years ago at my party. She begged me to drive her back to her house in her own car because she was too drunk to drive. She seemed nice and down to earth at the time but then 2 days later, she started getting a bit verbally abusive, the insults seem like jokes but some other times, it feels like she's degrading me and testing my nerves. The second time I met her, she told me she was going through a separation with her current boyfriend and that she wasn't looking for anything other than friendship with me and I agreed. But sometimes it appears like she's not so sure what she wants and she makes little moves on me from time to time (she even kisses me sometimes saying that she loves me); but this only happens when she's drunk. When she's drunk, she's playful and down to earth, but when she's sober, she's like somewhat bossy and constantly calling me names like idiot or dumbass when I make a simple mistake. Though, like I said, she appears to insult me jokingly (especially with this really annoying smile that she has). Around the time that I first met her, she called me an idiot in front of her lady friend and then smiled so annoyingly after she said it, like she knew it would piss me off.
She really got to me one night on October of 2009. We were planning on seeing a movie that night and she called me names throughout the whole day (this time I wasn't even sure if some of the insults were jokes or just simply her trying to provoke me). She even talked down to me that day like telling me to use my brain. She seemed to be in a jolly mood during and after the movie but then when we got back to my car and I wouldn’t start the car on time, she got really belligerent and was telling me to start the car now. We were driving to the bar and she nagged me throughout the whole night and because of it, I got a little distracted in between and almost didn’t notice an ambulance turning my way. She then lectured me like I was a kid and said “rule of thumb, when you see an ambulance, you’re supposed to stop”. Then she said I was driving too slowly and that I should hurry up, she even told me to honk my horn at some people who were driving a bit recklessly. When we got to the bar, she apologized for the verbal harassment (as she so delicately put it) and I just told her it was okay.
2 weeks after that movie night, she called me up asking if I wanted to hang out and then I warned her never to call me names again on a regular basis. She apologized again and said she gets carried away sometimes. But then she looked for another way to talk down to me like telling me to yell at her dog for bothering me and I was saying to myself like "It’s your dog, YOU yell at it?". And I even tried to yell at the dog (but only God knows why) and because I wasn’t aggressive enough about it, she asked if I was a woman or something. I warned her about that too and ever since I warned her twice, she’s toned down on her rude behavior so much.
The whole time I’ve known this girl, she’s been talking about her ex-boyfriend (or whatever he is to him these days) nonstop. She tells me every time that she’s broken up with him but then some time after that she’ll bring him up in conversation.
Last year we made love for the first time but then after a third time, she said we should just remain friends. Sometime after that, she wanted to make love again and I agreed, and we did this like 2 other times last year.
Throughout the first few months this year, we were hanging out nonstop and it was a lot of drunken nights but the good thing about it was, she wasn't really verbally abusive or nagging, she still jokingly called me names but clearly I could tell she was joking this time and I would also jokingly call her names and we would both be having a good time. We kissed a couple of times during these first few months but we didn't have sex.
She and I didn't talk for the whole month of May this year but then afterwards, I dialed her number but then stopped immediately. The following day after that, she texted me back and said she had been going through a lot and hasn't been dealing with her issues in the healthiest of ways. I visited her 4 days after the text message and well, unfortunately, she returned back to her verbally abusive ways but then she'll apologize so rapidly. We had sex later on that night.
Sometimes she'll text me and say "oops, the text was meant for someone else, not you" And she's done this like 4 times now I believe.
On Thursday August 18th, she called me but I was on the line with someone else. She then texted and asked where I was and I told her i was doing grocery shopping and there was no response from her after that. Since that Thursday, I didn't get another response from her until 3 days later which was Sunday. So on that Sunday, she sends me a text, I don't respond, she then sends another text saying "when someone sends you a text, you're supposed to respond" lol and guess what, that did the trick because it made me feel guilty about being rude and so I texted back and guess what, she didn't reply after that and didn't reply for the remainder of that Sunday.
The next day which was Monday the 22nd, she sent me 2 texts, I didn't respond, she then sent me a third text later on that Monday night saying "what are you so busy with that you won't respond to any of my texts" but I still didn't respond. 2 days after, she sent me a text saying "omg, I'm not gonna be your friend again, but I still didn't respond. She then calls me later on in the evening and I texted back saying I would call her back, she then said "thank God, I thought you had abandoned me". And the whole time I ignored her, I felt so down like I was going through withdrawal symptoms and that's why I finally gave up and texted her back.
We went out to a bar thursday night August 31st and she lashed out again a little bit at my driving, but this time, it was HER fault for misdirecting me and I yelled at her for having the nerve to flip out when it was her fault. She realized she was at fault and just jokingly said "omg, I feel like i'm married to you". We had fun the remainder of that night.
Ever since I started hanging with this girl, I haven't really been with any other women. All the times we’ve had sex, she was drunk.
So what do you guys make of this? Is this kind of person even worth having as a friend, let alone a lover (despite the things I claim to enjoy about her)?
She really got to me one night on October of 2009. We were planning on seeing a movie that night and she called me names throughout the whole day (this time I wasn't even sure if some of the insults were jokes or just simply her trying to provoke me). She even talked down to me that day like telling me to use my brain. She seemed to be in a jolly mood during and after the movie but then when we got back to my car and I wouldn’t start the car on time, she got really belligerent and was telling me to start the car now. We were driving to the bar and she nagged me throughout the whole night and because of it, I got a little distracted in between and almost didn’t notice an ambulance turning my way. She then lectured me like I was a kid and said “rule of thumb, when you see an ambulance, you’re supposed to stop”. Then she said I was driving too slowly and that I should hurry up, she even told me to honk my horn at some people who were driving a bit recklessly. When we got to the bar, she apologized for the verbal harassment (as she so delicately put it) and I just told her it was okay.
2 weeks after that movie night, she called me up asking if I wanted to hang out and then I warned her never to call me names again on a regular basis. She apologized again and said she gets carried away sometimes. But then she looked for another way to talk down to me like telling me to yell at her dog for bothering me and I was saying to myself like "It’s your dog, YOU yell at it?". And I even tried to yell at the dog (but only God knows why) and because I wasn’t aggressive enough about it, she asked if I was a woman or something. I warned her about that too and ever since I warned her twice, she’s toned down on her rude behavior so much.
The whole time I’ve known this girl, she’s been talking about her ex-boyfriend (or whatever he is to him these days) nonstop. She tells me every time that she’s broken up with him but then some time after that she’ll bring him up in conversation.
Last year we made love for the first time but then after a third time, she said we should just remain friends. Sometime after that, she wanted to make love again and I agreed, and we did this like 2 other times last year.
Throughout the first few months this year, we were hanging out nonstop and it was a lot of drunken nights but the good thing about it was, she wasn't really verbally abusive or nagging, she still jokingly called me names but clearly I could tell she was joking this time and I would also jokingly call her names and we would both be having a good time. We kissed a couple of times during these first few months but we didn't have sex.
She and I didn't talk for the whole month of May this year but then afterwards, I dialed her number but then stopped immediately. The following day after that, she texted me back and said she had been going through a lot and hasn't been dealing with her issues in the healthiest of ways. I visited her 4 days after the text message and well, unfortunately, she returned back to her verbally abusive ways but then she'll apologize so rapidly. We had sex later on that night.
Sometimes she'll text me and say "oops, the text was meant for someone else, not you" And she's done this like 4 times now I believe.
On Thursday August 18th, she called me but I was on the line with someone else. She then texted and asked where I was and I told her i was doing grocery shopping and there was no response from her after that. Since that Thursday, I didn't get another response from her until 3 days later which was Sunday. So on that Sunday, she sends me a text, I don't respond, she then sends another text saying "when someone sends you a text, you're supposed to respond" lol and guess what, that did the trick because it made me feel guilty about being rude and so I texted back and guess what, she didn't reply after that and didn't reply for the remainder of that Sunday.
The next day which was Monday the 22nd, she sent me 2 texts, I didn't respond, she then sent me a third text later on that Monday night saying "what are you so busy with that you won't respond to any of my texts" but I still didn't respond. 2 days after, she sent me a text saying "omg, I'm not gonna be your friend again, but I still didn't respond. She then calls me later on in the evening and I texted back saying I would call her back, she then said "thank God, I thought you had abandoned me". And the whole time I ignored her, I felt so down like I was going through withdrawal symptoms and that's why I finally gave up and texted her back.
We went out to a bar thursday night August 31st and she lashed out again a little bit at my driving, but this time, it was HER fault for misdirecting me and I yelled at her for having the nerve to flip out when it was her fault. She realized she was at fault and just jokingly said "omg, I feel like i'm married to you". We had fun the remainder of that night.
Ever since I started hanging with this girl, I haven't really been with any other women. All the times we’ve had sex, she was drunk.
So what do you guys make of this? Is this kind of person even worth having as a friend, let alone a lover (despite the things I claim to enjoy about her)?
