How would you describe this girl's personality?

[Agent_Violet]

How old is this girl? She sounds very young and immature, to say the very least.

lol these were my exact words to her one time and she told me I was mean for saying that. I jokingly told her I was being mean and that I was just being honest.

She's 27 going on 28 and she's actually a month older than I am.

She sure acts her age doesn't she?

wait...what?! she's almost 28??? i'm sorry i find that hard to believe...i mean i know you're telling the truth but I find it hard to believe someone can get through 28 years of life and still act the way she does. she's lucky she hasn't messed over the wrong guy yet and found herself hurting or worse...

 

[davidsoprano]

wait...what?! she's almost 28??? i'm sorry i find that hard to believe...i mean i know you're telling the truth but I find it hard to believe someone can get through 28 years of life and still act the way she does. she's lucky she hasn't messed over the wrong guy yet and found herself hurting or worse...

lol you'd be surprised how many people don't act their age and regress, then again this is America.

Her ex boyfriend (or whatever) is actually verbally abusive towards her according to her and her mother brings her down as well. She'll tell me stories about how her mom would point out all the things that were wrong with her as she was growing up and she would burst into tears sometimes while telling me this.

 

[dzerklis]

I find it hard to believe someone can get through 28 years of life and still act the way she does.

You have no idea lol

 

[Agent_Violet]

*sigh* girls like her make me all twitchy and violent...I'm glad I have restraint

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

Well I can describe your personality in a heartbeat. You're very patient to have been able to put up with her all this time. I don't even know how you managed to not strangle her at this point. I sure as hell would have by now.

She just sounds like a total b****. I mean really? All that name calling could not have been a joke. Take this from an extremely sarcastic person like myself who always bags on her friends but knows the limit at which you can joke with someone like that. I'd stay away from her if I were you. Something's just not quite right about her and she sounds like the type of person who likes to poison others with her own s***.

 

[N0D]

do yourself a favor and run as fast as you can away from her in hopes that she hasn't already stained your view of women forever.

 

[R3K]

Yup, she pulls this with me too when I don't respond to her calls and text messages. Like when I was really cross with her one time, she begged for forgiveness and told me she wouldn't want to lose me as a friend.

Her ex boyfriend (or whatever) is actually verbally abusive towards her according to her and her mother brings her down as well. She'll tell me stories about how her mom would point out all the things that were wrong with her as she was growing up and she would burst into tears sometimes while telling me this.

ok, you gotta be diligent here... if this is true about her mom and ex verbally abusing her then she may need you as a friend or, as Feathers put is so colorfully, an F-buddy. and it may be the case that you want to continue providing her what she wants to help herself deal with the pain in her life.

however, i've known some very shady women, and they're very good at creating drama and using it to get what they ultimately want (usually drugs, alcohol or "no strings attached sex".) i've had women use me to break up with their bf's who're abusing the snot out of them, and then left me out to dry immediately after with quick cut-off lines like "oh i don't think it would have worked out for us." be careful about about believing the things she tells you, she might be more confused and caught up in the lies she's creating than you are.

As for the insults; I'm guessing you have some social phobia being on here and all, and they will slowly chip away at all of your confidence. I was in a relationship with someone for a few years and for the last two or so I suddenly realised that I had absolutely no confidence left. Then I realised that it was because the person I hung around with most had stripped all of it away through constant day to day condescension and insults. I was there for when her friend's couldn't be bothered with her, and then when her social situation got good enough she broke up with me. A month or so after the breakup however her friends ditched her and without me as her standby friend and reciever of insults she fell apart. I imagine you're being used for the same purpose I was. We broke up a year or so ago and I feel better than I have in years. As others have said it's a really toxic situation to be in. You know that it's her behaviour that is unreasonable, but with four years of this it's going to get to you.

i got to this point also in my "toxic" relationship years ago... i had no confidence, and i'd sit up all night a nervous wreck. and four years, wow, you must have stone-hard skin man.

 

[davidsoprano]

Take this from an extremely sarcastic person like myself who always bags on her friends but knows the limit at which you can joke with someone like that.

thanks for pointing out the difference between jokes and insults.

 

[davidsoprano]

you should definately cut all ties with this girl.. people who harass other people with name calling and what not are def not the type of person you want for a relationship.. i had gf who'd talk **** and harass me a lil bit and everytime she'd set me off and get me to stoop to her level and talk **** back to her! it turned into a circle of **** talkin and anger and an unhealthy relationship.. no good could come from bein around this girl..

Yep and spending time with this girl, I've learned that most of the times when women like this lash out at you, they're not actually upset, it's all just an act to manipulate you into going out of your way to keep them happy, or they act that way just for the sake of getting you upset and causing drama, they love that ****. It's very stupid and childish

 

[YellowBird]

I've had a friend like that but he was a lot worse.The thing about our disorder is that we can be really passive allowing others to take advantage of it,I'm afraid that this is not a healthy relationship at all,if you are going to be with someone they will have to respect you and you'll have to respect them,that girl sounds..weird(I don't want to comment any further),but it is ourselves that allow this behavior and stimulate it.You don't deserve to be treated like this,so walk away.

 

[davidsoprano]

The thing about our disorder is that we can be really passive allowing others to take advantage of it.

Very true and I wonder why because when I was a kid, I was extremely assertive to people who deserved it. It seems the older I got, the more passive I got.

I'm afraid that this is not a healthy relationship at all,if you are going to be with someone they will have to respect you and you'll have to respect them

Couldn't agree more. I guess I'm either too lazy to look for another girl or I feel I don't have enough game or flair to pick up any lady I want. I'm not exactly a playboy, I can be quite shy.

that girl sounds..weird(I don't want to comment any further)

Oh please, do comment further, I insist!

 

[Illusions]

This girl is poison! She sounds like she's got serious issues (BPD tendencies) and insecurities. I say stop seeing her/contacting her altogether.

 

[davidsoprano]

This girl is poison! She sounds like she's got serious issues (BPD tendencies) and insecurities. I say stop seeing her/contacting her altogether.

I hear ya. Believe me I'm still trying

 

[davidsoprano]

because she's after your attention it may not be a good thing. It sounds like she's taking out her bad days on you which may be why sometimes she's obsessively trying to get your attention and other times doesn't really care. It sounds a bit like you're her security blanket to make herself feel better.

Yep you nailed it. In other words, she's a ****ing drama queen. Though I've ignored her for almost 3 weeks now, she just sent me a text this morning about the usual stupid bull**** with her ex. And I was wondering if she even noticed that I've ignored her for almost 3 weeks now. I guess 3 weeks is not enough time to ignore someone