How do you think people percieve you

[KiaKaha]

Just wondering how you think other people see you. I think because I am so quiet and awkward around people, they often see me as being unfriendly/creepy and just plain unlikeable. Which I dont think I am at all. Of course I dont know if this is really true or not because I cant come right out and ask them..

But anyway, I wanted to know how do you think people see you, and is there a difference between the way they see you and how you really are?

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I suppose there is a difference... I'd like to hope that not everyone sees me the way I see myself.
Everyone else is so awesome.

since I hate myself and think I am a horribly disgusting, disfigured monster with no personality, I assume everyone hates me.
haha

 

[MollyBeGood]

I suppose there is a difference... I'd like to hope that not everyone sees me the way I see myself.
Everyone else is so awesome.

since I hate myself and think I am a horribly disgusting, disfigured monster with no personality, I assume everyone hates me.
haha

Awe-You are really a sweet person!! I think everyone here likes you a lot, Miss McGee. A disfigured monster? I think Not!!!

 

[MollyBeGood]

sometimes I am a raving biotch, sometimes I am sweet as a pussy cat. LOL depends on the time of the month tbh but seriously
most of the time if I am not hungry and I get enough sleep (lack of both make me a bit cranky ha) I am really fun-loving and genuinely kind to everyone. Just a bit on the quiet side, and keep to myself mostly though. I get along with everyone I meet usually unless they are really opinionated about religion or politics, or are prejudice- I cannot stand any of those people and have trouble being around them much at all. Those types might say I was too introverted or shy, but their opinion mean nothing to me.

 

[Steppen-Wolf]

Arrogant, weird, awkward, boring.

People at least respect me for being "smart", but it's clear for me that almost everybody just sees me as a weird child, even though I'm 21 years old.

 

[Srijita52]

I think everyone percieves me as unfriendly,cold,boring & lame.Maybe that's why ppl ignore me a lot.

 

[MrJones]

People don't perceive me.

But I think that when they do, which is not usual, they see a weird, cold, weird, boring and, for some reason, smart guy. Oh, and weird.

Awe-You are really a sweet person!! I think everyone here likes you a lot, Miss McGee. A disfigured monster? I think Not!!!

I totally agree

 

[*Amy*]

I guess some people perceive me as unfriendly and antisocial, but I think there are many who can see that I am shy, only that those also think that I am naive, obedient and quite stupid. Well, they are partly right... but only partly

 

[recluse]

Arrogant, weird, awkward, boring.

People at least respect me for being "smart", but it's clear for me that almost everybody just sees me as a weird child, even though I'm 21 years old.

This is how i imagine people to percieve me!

 

[Vampayah88]

I think people percieve me as hardcore, bitchy, arrogant, cold, unfriendly, quiet. No wonder I dont make friends easily.

 

[Gerdje]

weird, arrogant, selfish, boring, kinda smart, lazy & egocentric.

 

[TommyB]

I guess some people perceive me as unfriendly and antisocial, but I think there are many who can see that I am shy, only that those also think that I am naive, obedient and quite stupid. Well, they are partly right... but only partly

Yea I never understood how people jump straight to assuming were stupid,simply based on being quiet.I remember a guy actually asking me "are you stupid or something?"...all because I wasnt talking in a group situation.I was young and took it pretty personally.Lashed out at him pretty good.Called him a punk that sees in one dimension.A prick that doesnt understand why everyone isnt giggling and kissing his ass....in otherwords,the exact type of person I wont talk around.

I have a very hard time acting like I like someone.My social situation has to be so perfect,that for me to talk in it freely,requires me to trust all the people involved.So thats usually just one other immediate family member or close friend.For there to be more than one,I really have to like that next person.I almost never like all three or more,so never talk in larger situations at all.

Ever since that one guy asked if I was stupid,I always think thats what most people must think.Hes either stupid or just a prick.Yet ive learned to be fine with it,as those who jump to such a conclusion without even introducing themselves,are too narrow minded to ever walk through my front gate.Which eases me,and brings me back to why I am not comfortable around them in the first place.They look down on you,and they dont know why.So im cool with them not existing in my world.

 

[Phoenixx]

I think because I'm so quiet people perceive me as ignorant, snobbish, cold, distant. Also, because I'm sometimes expressionless, people perceive me as boring, or just plain weird.

Sometimes I can be pretty blunt when talking to people, only because I'm too nervous to say much of anything and even carry on with conversation. And because of that, I assume people must think I'm either rude or stupid.. or possibly both.

 

[coyote]

one of my greatest goals in life

is to let go of trying to answer this question

dwelling on the (assumed) perceptions of others only leads to misery

and there's no way to really know, anyway

 

[Vampayah88]

one of my greatest goals in life

is to let go of trying to answer this question

dwelling on the (assumed) perceptions of others only leads to misery

and there's no way to really know, anyway

Very well said. I wish I didnt care what others think of me, it would be so good for my well being and Im pretty sure i would be a much happier person.

 

[Prestonator]

People probably percieve me as being boring and quiet, but i'm actually the opposite of those once you get to know me! It just often takes me a while to get used to and feel comfortable enough around someone to be my full self. Though tbh there are only a few people who see me as me really. But the point is, I don't care what others think of me. I think it is unfair to judge until you completely know me!!

 

[findingmyself]

I'm with ShyKiwi on this one, people totally think I'm creepy and weird, which I'm not in anyway. I try to socialize and be nice to others, but as soon as I start a conversation, people makes excuses to end the talk. I've had 4 jobs in one month because of my social anxiety. It really suck

 

[EscapeArtist]

This is such a difficult question, I really have no idea. I think my co-workers perceive me as... very unconfident person. They always give me way extra guidance because I say "I think I can do that" or "I'll figure it out", and when they check on my progress I tell them the negatives of the job i'm doing because I want to say it before they do. I am sure that many people see me this way, I was told that my depression shows when I was in the employment program and more when I am quiet. I want to change that

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

one of my greatest goals in life

is to let go of trying to answer this question

dwelling on the (assumed) perceptions of others only leads to misery

and there's no way to really know, anyway

It's been a very long time since I thought I knew what anyone thought of me. Since then I learned that I was far too biased to construct any realistic model of how others perceive me.

So now, I really have very little clue what anyone thinks of me at all, online or off. I do wonder sometimes, but...eh.

 

[da_illest101]

before they know me: slow, quiet, shy, sad, reserved

after they know me: slow but super intelligent, funny but still quiet and shy