How do you think people percieve you

[Danfalc]

I'm with Coyote and Nathaniel.

I think I have placed too much importance on what others think of me, and it's been the biggest hurdle in regards to my anxiety.

It's very easy to type that, it's a different thing to implement it into your mind set, but I can't mind read either...so I'm only going to be torturing myself my worrying what people "might" be thinking.

I do care what other people think, I do want to get on with people and for them to like me, but I'm slowly learning that I have to like myself first, and have confidence in the qualities I believe I have and the person I am,.

 

[miss_amy]

It's much easier to hang on the bad things people think about us or what we perceive them to think about us but the nice things or positive comments are so easy to just let slip by.

I try really hard to remember and value the good things.

 

[ilovenoodles]

People see me as a cute and shy girl, childish too sometimes.
Some people told me this.
Luckely this is not how i really am.

 

[JamesSmith]

As the boring shy guy that doesn't matter.

 

[girliegoth_360]

i think people percieve me as a quiet little 12 year old that doesnt know a whole lot of anything. The real truth is i am 20 years old and dont really care about how i look or dress in public and i easily forget things. I have had some customers at work think i was 12 or that i just got out of high school

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

I think because I am so quiet and awkward around people, they often see me as being unfriendly/creepy and just plain unlikeable. Which I dont think I am at all. Of course I dont know if this is really true or not because I cant come right out and ask them..

Me in a nutshell.

 

[Invisibleman]

same as you shykiwi,im really quiet and im awkward.and im the sweetest guy ever but my appearance well....i look like a convict at times when I dont shave and whatnot and people think im really mean and unfriendly.I once overheard a conversation taking place between a bunch of really pretty girls and they were saying that im probably a serial killer and that il probably bring a gun to school.

I live in Canada so god knows where im going to get a gun but it really hurt.Ive cleaned up a bit now,trading in skate shoes for 200$ lacostes etc.so its probably not as bad but still this is how people perceived me for the longest time.they still see me as awkward and stuff though...

 

[KiaKaha]

You guys break my heart. I wish I could give you all a big hug.

 

[KiaKaha]

one of my greatest goals in life

is to let go of trying to answer this question

dwelling on the (assumed) perceptions of others only leads to misery

and there's no way to really know, anyway

it does lead to misery... but the question is.. HOW do you let go of trying to answer that question... and WHY do I care so much..

I wish I could be blissfully unaware.. I am trying to be perfect to everybody.. always.... and by doing that I am being perfect to nobody..

 

[Beatrice]

one of my greatest goals in life

is to let go of trying to answer this question

dwelling on the (assumed) perceptions of others only leads to misery

and there's no way to really know, anyway

^^This

And this......vv

it does lead to misery... but the question is.. HOW do you let go of trying to answer that question... and WHY do I care so much..

I wish I could be blissfully unaware.. I am trying to be perfect to everybody.. always.... and by doing that I am being perfect to nobody..

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

HOW do you let go of trying to answer that question... and WHY do I care so much..

It's not so much a matter of letting go of the need to answer the question as it is a matter of simply acknowledging that you can't answer it. If you really examine your thinking process, you will know that you are biased and irrational. We all are--that's why we're on this site.

We all care what others think. I do too. Knowing that you are irrational (especially much so when it comes to stuff like what others think of you) you must acknowledge that whatever picture your head comes up with cannot be the correct one.

You do recognize that your thinking when it comes to other people is irrational, don't you?

 

[Beatrice]

It's not so much a matter of letting go of the need to answer the question as it is a matter of simply acknowledging that you can't answer it. If you really examine your thinking process, you will know that you are biased and irrational. We all are--that's why we're on this site.

We all care what others think. I do too. Knowing that you are irrational (especially much so when it comes to stuff like what others think of you) you must acknowledge that whatever picture your head comes up with cannot be the correct one.

You do recognize that your thinking when it comes to other people is irrational, don't you?

Interesting...... For some reason this really struck something in me. I guess I never fully realized this. Lately I've been struggling with other people's perception of me... or, rather, struggling with the idea of it and how I think others perceive me, and why I care. Hmmmm......

Wish I knew how to explain more...

 

[Nl54]

"How do you think people percieve you?" Probably not nearly as bad as we percieve ourselves in our minds. If we see ourselves as bad or unworthy, we assume others are thinking the same thing, and often times it's not true.

 

[Helmaninquiel]

I don't care what people think about me and I'm not changing either for anyone.. I'm going to be who I want to be and I have control over myself and anyone who doesn't like it can bite me.

 

[ridicule]

Don't care what they think of me, as long as they leave me alone. And it's been working so far

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

From Social Phobia/Social Anxiety Fact Sheet

"Definition: Social anxiety is the fear of social situations that involve interaction with other people. Put another way, social anxiety is the fear and anxiety of being judged and evaluated by other people. If a person usually becomes anxious in social situations, but seems fine when they are alone, then "social anxiety" may be the problem."



If you truly do not care what people think of you, then you do not have social anxiety.

 

[Helmaninquiel]

From Social Phobia/Social Anxiety Fact Sheet

"Definition: Social anxiety is the fear of social situations that involve interaction with other people. Put another way, social anxiety is the fear and anxiety of being judged and evaluated by other people. If a person usually becomes anxious in social situations, but seems fine when they are alone, then "social anxiety" may be the problem."



If you truly do not care what people think of you, then you do not have social anxiety.

Well Ok maybe I do somewhat, but really I was talking about my family. I hate them and I'm not a hateful person so that is saying something.
My Uncle is a narrow minded control freak and my cousin is even worse.. I mean the kid has gotten picked on so he knows how it feels to be a "Loser" (stupid word) but he conforms to society anyway, he's worse then all of those dumb ass pricks cause he is a hypocrite, He knows how it feels yet once he gets friends and becomes a little more popular he turns around and does the thing that he hated.. He's becoming exactly like the people who picked on him. It's gross. God, I hate people. Love you guys but honestly think people are just fake and desperate.

 

[Mokkat]

weird an unreliable I think. On some days or some occasions, I might be really outgoing and joking and such, very friendly and intelligent to talk with - other times I am dead silent and awkward most of the time. Also I never initiate stuff or commit very much.

The only time when I appear as somewhat normal, is when I have a set in stone agenda that doesnt require too much from myself, and dealing with strangers

 

[Steppen-Wolf]

From Social Phobia/Social Anxiety Fact Sheet

"Definition: Social anxiety is the fear of social situations that involve interaction with other people. Put another way, social anxiety is the fear and anxiety of being judged and evaluated by other people. If a person usually becomes anxious in social situations, but seems fine when they are alone, then "social anxiety" may be the problem."



If you truly do not care what people think of you, then you do not have social anxiety.

Yeah, I have to agree with this.

How could you be uncomfortable around others enough to systematically avoid social contact while not caring about what they think about you?

 

[dead24]

awkward,weird,shy,boring,quiet,arrogant,uncomfortable,loser
i just feel hated by people