How are you feeling?

[Srijita52]

^That's no good portrait. Hope you feel better..

 

[Imogen]

I feel like crap right now. I got a call from the hospice my nanna was at about an hour ago and have been informed she's passed away, and since they were unable to reach my dad as he's at work right now, I'm the next contact they have down, and they need me to come to the hospice to go over things with them and arrange stuff and I just...I'm screaming inside. I just don't know what to do.

Okay, simple answer is to go to the hospice, but I have work in a few hours and my boss says that as a Christmas temp I can't take sick days, and if I do call in sick or anything similar to 'not bother coming back'. But I need this job so badly right now that I can't even risk losing it. But how the hell am I meant to go into the store and act all happy and joyful when I've just lost someone I hold so dear to me? I don't think I can stand there for eight hours, smiling at customers, knowing she's not here anymore, but I can't lose my job, the student loans company wont care that I've lost my job, they just want their money and if I don't keep up with payments, they say they'll take me to court and just...When did everything go to hell? What damn choice do I have? Don't go and lose my job and get taken to court for not keeping up with payments? Or go and try not to cry like a child all day in front of everyone and not go to the hospice and leave everything un-organized, because there is no one else to do it?

I don't know what to do at all. I feel so useless and totally confused and I have no one I can turn to for help. I'm such a failure at times and right now is one of those times. I wish I could call my mum up and ask for her help, but she's stuck in London and couldn't get down here.

I wish I could just hide somewhere forever.

 

[Srijita52]

^That's really awful. I'm sorry for your loss. Perhaps you could explain the situation to your boss, maybe he/she can consider it for one day.

 

[Kiwong]

Thinking of you Imogen. You shouldn't have to do this alone. I hope you can find someone to help you through this.

 

[Graeme1988]

I've been having a headache on the right side of my head off and on for the last few days now, and it's making it hard to sleep.

Hope you're feeling better, portrait. I've actually been getting similar headaches off and on as well, and finding it difficult to sleep as a result. It sucks.

 

[bsebring]

Sore, might have to take a break from the gym today.

 

[MikeyC]

I feel like crap right now. I got a call from the hospice my nanna was at about an hour ago and have been informed she's passed away, and since they were unable to reach my dad as he's at work right now, I'm the next contact they have down, and they need me to come to the hospice to go over things with them and arrange stuff and I just...I'm screaming inside. I just don't know what to do.

Okay, simple answer is to go to the hospice, but I have work in a few hours and my boss says that as a Christmas temp I can't take sick days, and if I do call in sick or anything similar to 'not bother coming back'. But I need this job so badly right now that I can't even risk losing it. But how the hell am I meant to go into the store and act all happy and joyful when I've just lost someone I hold so dear to me? I don't think I can stand there for eight hours, smiling at customers, knowing she's not here anymore, but I can't lose my job, the student loans company wont care that I've lost my job, they just want their money and if I don't keep up with payments, they say they'll take me to court and just...When did everything go to hell? What damn choice do I have? Don't go and lose my job and get taken to court for not keeping up with payments? Or go and try not to cry like a child all day in front of everyone and not go to the hospice and leave everything un-organized, because there is no one else to do it?

I don't know what to do at all. I feel so useless and totally confused and I have no one I can turn to for help. I'm such a failure at times and right now is one of those times. I wish I could call my mum up and ask for her help, but she's stuck in London and couldn't get down here.

I wish I could just hide somewhere forever.

Sorry to hear about your loss, Imogen.

Twiggle has already mentioned that there needs to be a case for exceptional circumstances, and I think this is one of them. Tell your boss that a family member has died and hopefully they will be compassionate enough to let you have the day off. If they don't then they have absolutely no heart.

I'm pretty sure that one of my friends is in a mood with me ::. I'm not sure why exactly. I've tried getting in contact but... no answer. Not really sure what else I can do.
Quite a few of my friends, throughout the past, seem to change once they get into a serious relationship. It's like they're not as bothered about having these petty little problems with their friends and do less to resolve it provided their other-half is making them happy.
People change, and it's sad.

Yes, people change once they get into a relationship. It's unfortunate but that's how it happens. It happened to me once, too, and I didn't like it.

Have you tried sending him/her a text or an email? Something that will get your side across but they don't have to answer immediately? I think that would help.

 

[Pyrophosphate]

I feel content. For now. It's about to become a pretty busy day for me, though.

 

[Aletheia]

Incredibly relieved.

Some total bastard had rung up $1000 on my credit card, and I've been stressing about it all week. But my bank has just told me that they're going to refund them.

Still, I won't be altogether comfortable until the money is back in my account.

 

[MrJones]

I'm pretty sure that one of my friends is in a mood with me ::. I'm not sure why exactly. I've tried getting in contact but... no answer. Not really sure what else I can do.
Quite a few of my friends, throughout the past, seem to change once they get into a serious relationship. It's like they're not as bothered about having these petty little problems with their friends and do less to resolve it provided their other-half is making them happy.
People change, and it's sad.

Yeah, sometimes things happen and we can't do anything about it. I think those things have to be solved, I hope your friend understands the problem and come to you so you can have a proper conversation. Communication is very important when such things happen. Good luck twiggle

Incredibly relieved.

Some total bastard had rung up $1000 on my credit card, and I've been stressing about it all week. But my bank has just told me that they're going to refund them.

Still, I won't be altogether comfortable until the money is back in my account.

^That's great news Aletheia! I hope you have your money back asap

 

[MikeyC]

I gave a couple of calls which were unanswered and then text her to ring me when she could and she only sent a reply about half an hour ago, and sounded more or less normal, just saying how she has been very busy today but will try and call me later... so I think things are okay, it's just that when I last spoke to her I was a bit anxious about something else and a little bit 'off' so I can see why maybe she might be in a mood with me. We normally speak or text every day so that made me feel a bit more paranoid that I didn't hear from her yesterday... and I still think I bothered her a little but hopefully we can speak on the phone soon and I can mention and sort it that way, I'm scared of saying such things through text.

It's good that it's back to normal, more or less, but it would still be nicer once you chat to her about what's bothering you, and then maybe the air will be cleared. I agree that texts eliminates just about every piece of body language, so you're better off calling, or, even better, meeting with her.

I had an awful friend once who used to get in moods with me at the drop of a hat, for no reason whatsoever (for example, I once said 'take care' at the end of a text and she had a massive go at me for it, saying how it was patronising. She didn't speak to me for a few days after) Nobody else liked her and often wondered why I was friends with her. I know I shouldn't let that experience still get to me today, but it always puts me on panic mode when somebody seems off with me.

Wow, that doesn't make any sense whatsoever. She was not a good friend and probably needs to loosen up.

Incredibly relieved.

Some total bastard had rung up $1000 on my credit card, and I've been stressing about it all week. But my bank has just told me that they're going to refund them.

Still, I won't be altogether comfortable until the money is back in my account.

Glad the money will be refunded to you. What a stressful time.

 

[this_portrait]

I feel exhausted from the flight earlier today. I'm a little conflicted on whether I should take a nap or eat something (though I'm leaning towards napping).

 

[Silatuyok]

I'm annoyed. I don't mean to be rude or ungrateful to my sister, but, she doesn't seem to understand that I don't like to change my daily routine, I don't like to do anything after work but go home and relax, I have a poop-ton of things to do before Saturday, and I don't like to drive, especially not all the way across town to see her because she is bored and hungry.
I'm just going to tell her she can come over here instead if she wants.

 

[coyote]

Incredibly relieved.

Some total bastard had rung up $1000 on my credit card, and I've been stressing about it all week. But my bank has just told me that they're going to refund them.

Still, I won't be altogether comfortable until the money is back in my account.

awesome news!

that's great

 

[MikeyC]

I feel exhausted from the flight earlier today. I'm a little conflicted on whether I should take a nap or eat something (though I'm leaning towards napping).

Ah, I remember you mentioning a flight. How was it?

I'm annoyed. I don't mean to be rude or ungrateful to my sister, but, she doesn't seem to understand that I don't like to change my daily routine, I don't like to do anything after work but go home and relax, I have a poop-ton of things to do before Saturday, and I don't like to drive, especially not all the way across town to see her because she is bored and hungry.
I'm just going to tell her she can come over here instead if she wants.

She's probably just keen to see you, although "bored and hungry" can sometimes mean "entertain me now." Sometimes I have to change my routine to please a friend, and I don't like that, either, but that's part of being a good friend, or, in your case, a good sister.

That doesn't mean you have to drop everything and be at her beck and call, though. Tell her you'll hang with her tomorrow or the next day if she wants.

 

[MikeyC]

She was a terrible friend. I've had two that have been like it and I place them both at the root of my anxiety ::

That's unfortunate. :: Having friends that keep you walking on eggshells isn't good - you're supposed to feel happy and comfortable around them. I had the same problem earlier in my life, so I can understand how that could cause anxiety in you.

As soon as I have a day in my pyjamas, back come the thoughts!

"An idle mind is the Devil's plaything."

 

[MikeyC]

I'm partially angry at myself for not forgetting about it and moving on - it's been several years now - but even so, I do sometimes wonder if it can happen again. I hate to judge or whatnot, but I find myself being extra selective now about who I really open up to.

It shows that these incidences with those two "friends" have stuck with you and are still affecting you today, because now you're more careful. Whether it's the cause of your anxiety, or the cause of you being more careful and selective about sharing personal traits with, it has definitely stuck with you.

It might happen again - not going to lie - but maybe now you'll be more aware of the signs or you'll be able to handle the situation with better knowledge.

Thanks for the helpful words MikeyC, you always have such great advice for somebody who steps on rakes repeatedly!

You're welcome. I will give advice to everyone except that dreaded Bart Simpson.

 

[this_portrait]

Ah, I remember you mentioning a flight. How was it?

It wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I mostly just read a magazine the entire time. The only uncomfortable part was that it was really cramped up in the plane.

 

[MikeyC]

It wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I mostly just read a magazine the entire time. The only uncomfortable part was that it was really cramped up in the plane.

Yeah, planes tend to be quite cramped, but it's good to know you got through it well.

 

[MikeyC]

I went to my therapist and shopping straight after that, and I feel a bit better now. It was good to unleash some things to her, even if I didn't get to say everything in our hour (people after her were late, so it gave me more time). She told me I was a nice guy and that "there are more things right with you than wrong with you."

I've also noticed that my therapist is the one I talk to the most out of everyone I know.