How are you feeling?

[theslowesthand]

Pretty one of these days I’m going just lose my temper badly enough to the point where I punch someone. :bat:

Maybe studying about anger may help? I'm studying pages i find on the web about anger. I'm working on a system for myself. Mind you i never hit anyone growing up, so i have that as an ingrained habit to fall back on. I'll probably start a thread on it sometime in the near future.

In the meantime, how about using:
STOP
Count breaths to 10
:question:

 

[Graeme1988]

Maybe studying about anger may help? I'm studying pages i find on the web about anger. I'm working on a system for myself. Mind you i never hit anyone growing up, so i have that as an ingrained habit to fall back on. I'll probably start a thread on it sometime in the near future.

Unfortunately, I have hit a few folk growing up.
Mind you, they were lads who bullied me mercilessly. So, y’know... :shyness:

In the meantime, how about using:
STOP
Count breaths to 10
:question:

Aye, I’ll give that a go... :bigsmile: Though a long vacation might be better? If ah could afford it, but cannae. h:
As ah really need tae git tha f*ck away from my family and ma hometown for like... 3 to 6 months.

 

[theslowesthand]

Why i never travel (within or without my cuntry), is partly due to the stress of preparation, and also due to fear of coming across bad/rude people (but i am studying anger psychology on the web, so maybe that fear can be diminished - but i'm not sure if i'll EVER be immune to humiliation by nasty people in public places, it's something that i think will ALWAYS ruin any travels abroad .. but we'll see).
I can't stop bad/evil/nasty people from being out there in the world, but i CAN control (or at least moderate) my REACTIONS to them.

 

[theslowesthand]

Well at least today LOOKED like a perfect day (it just didn't FEEL like so - coldest day of year so far). :sarcastic:

 

[theslowesthand]

Is "waste of a day" in there? Yep. GOOD. :thumbup: :sarcastic:

 

[theslowesthand]

I've gone out and feel better. i wonder why you don't. :thinking:

:lol:

.....

 

[theslowesthand]

Sorry you didn't do anything today but could you ask your therapist if there are things you can join?

My therapist "dumped" me (she left the building in my local town & is now in another town). How do i FEEL? I feel ABANDONED, therapist lady. Doing things abroad stresses me out :sad:

 

[theslowesthand]

what's so funny?

What u wrote, before the first "." (before u added more).
It's funny!

 

[theslowesthand]

how about your health care provider?

Well they're in another town also. It's a hassle to get to. More hassle than it's worth imo.

 

[theslowesthand]

i know but what's funny?!

It's subtle humour & i don't have the energy to write a long-winded explanation of why it's funny. Sorry ... you either get it or you don't.

 

[theslowesthand]

really... could it be that funny that you would have to write a long-winded explanation?

Yes.

......

 

[cappatown420]

Because not everything that works for one, works for another.

People are different.

 

[FountainandFairfax]

I slept alllllllllllllllll Memorial Day Weekend.

I feel stiff and sleep-logged but I haven't seen another soul in three days, so that's great.

 

[Graeme1988]

Yay! Mental breakdown here ah come! Bring on the padded cell and the funny jacket! :numberone:
Cun ah no git yin day of peace n’ tranquility... FOR F*CK SAKE!! :kickingmyself: Should’ve ticked off that I was fleeing domestic abuse on my housing forum, since that the only time authorities seem to actually gee a f*ck about someone’s well-being. :sad:

 

[FountainandFairfax]

They're working on the condo next door, I have this irrational fear that they're gonna accidentally break down the wall between our units and laugh at the hermit.

but :crying:

 

[Graeme1988]

I've gone out and feel better. i wonder why you don't. :thinking: do you think you'd be able to tune out the things that bother you and get into doing things that you feel good and healthy?

Cuz I used to get grief for going out when I was younger from my middle sister, that would start an argument.

The ”Where’s he gan? How come he’s allowed oot during the week?”.
That was how it was every time I’d go to my guitar lessons. mg:​

As for lately, ah think because I’ve not had much time to myself. That factoring into why I’m not feeling any better when going out. And getting out of the house is only respite I get from the family drama and dysfunction. Also, it doesnae exactly help that that’s what I’m coming home to after going, which is enough to suck the joy outta any music concert, comedy, or theatre show for me. :sad:

 

[cappatown420]

Just had my mother and brother scream at me about how I don't do shit and how "I run" the house all because I asked my mom if she really NEEDED to use that hairdryer. She didn't have anywhere to go and I have had bad insomnia for the past month (sometimes only sleep 1-2 hours a night) so I didn't see what the big deal was.

Got the insults of how worthless of a job I have, how much of a dumbass I am, how my brother is better than me because he makes more money. How he will just call the cops to put me in the mental hospital so he can get rid of me. I don't have a phone but I stole my mother because I don't feel safe and I need it in case one of them hits me.

alright.

 

[Kiwong]

I make progress and then people drag me back down.

 

[Marc7]

Well, it depends what you want to overcome? Since you did mention a fair bit that you feel anxious about. And you won't really get over the anxiety if you don't expose yourself to what making you anxious, y'know?

But don't feel you need to overcome those in a one single All or nothing go. Take it one issue at a time.

I guess you could start by challenging those thoughts and feelings of inferiority? By which I mean stop putting yourself down as much, thinking negativity of yourself.

I want to overcome feeling anxious when I watch news, sports, YouTube videos, listen to music, and read comments of anything but mostly YouTube videos. Also not feel inferior while confronted with it. Like expose myself little by little? I would do that but my motivation is low. I do that everyday but I still get those feelings.

:thumbup: Yeah. I just mentioned it as more of technique for helping with anxiety, especially if it tends to overwhelm you. Not in the sense of going total Zen Buddhist, sitting cross-legged atop a mountain. :bigsmile:

I know. Practice meditation when I'm not in anxious situations? I know lol.

Kinda. Or more to point, don't allow your anxiety to keep you in that "Something bad is going to happen. This is going to be a failure" mindset. It is normal to feel anxious about new situations, or have that fear of the unknown. Especially if you're doing something you've never done before.

Thank you I will try to think positive more.

 

[Marc7]

Oh, believe you're not the only one struggling with anxiety and fear of the unknown. I've been trying to overcome those same issues from a young age.

Have you overcame them yet?

Yeah, because my oldest sister actually agrees with my point that I'd just be better moving out of the family home. Since our mother is refusing to allow things to go back to how they were before my older sister moved back in.

Because, despite recently get a house of her own and saying she'd get into a routine. My mother is insisting on having my older sister and her kids around to visit everyday. :thumbdown: It's like they never moved out. :kickingmyself:

That's good! The oldest sister of your sisters moved out right? She is the same sister who agrees with you?

Oh, my older sister - the middle sibling. Last summer, when I stormed half way the stairs after be awakened by the sound her shouting her head off over how much my mother bought when out shopping for food that day. And I had the nerve to straight-up ask her, in front of our mother and oldest sister, why she always feels the need to get overly aggressive and yell every time she starts an argument? Let just say, the response that accompanied my question proved that I was right about her tendency to get aggressive and shout for no reason during arguments.

Oh.

Same here. But, right now, I'm too down and depressed to even pick-up my own electric guitar, let alone teach someone else how to play a similar instrument. :sad: It's not a great feeling when yer own mother tells you, outright, that you and your well-being don't really matter to her. :crying:

Wow, your mother said that directly to you?