Re: How are you feeling
Have you tried very peaceful music to help you get to sleep when you are "overthinking", Graeme? Something with the sounds of water flowing and/or frogs/crickets chirping, so you can focus on the calming sounds of nature?
Used to, but haven’t so much lately.
Did your older sister actually "ask" you teach her bass guitar, or just "tell" you do it, without respecting your time and desires?
Given the past troubled history with your older sister, I fear that you spending extra time with her - while she may often be getting cranky because she is frustrated, and finding it extremely difficult to learn a new instrument - may be like putting gasoline on a fire.
Just remember Graeme that you would be doing her a favour, so don't allow her to bring down your mental health by using verbal abuse towards you when she gets frustrated, ok?
Maybe inform her from the very beginning that if you she fights with you, you will stop her guitar lessons, until she promises not to abuse you.
You need to look after/protect your mental health Graeme, because she doesn't seem to care about it.
No worries, it’s my
oldest sister. The one who actually likes me, not the youngest of my 2 older sisters who, I feel, resents me. And my oldest sibling was the one who asked me to give her bass guitar, shortly after we’d been to a concert together. So she didn’t tell me to do it. That said she had been pestering me to teach her since I’d quit playing briefly for 2 years, aged 16.
If anything, I was telling her. Because I made it clear that the lessons aren’t going to be as easy as she used to think when she’d listen to me playing. As she tends to overestimate what she can do until put on the spot. Oh, and not to waste my time with the lessons. As the last person I attempted to teach guitar to quit on me after 2 weeks saying it was too difficult.
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So if she doesn’t persevere beyond one lesson, I’ve advised her to quit even before we begin. Because I’m not setting aside time that I could spend writing and recording music to waste it on lessons that were for nothing. As for arguments, I’ve been playing guitar for 16 years... D’ye think she’d be that arrogant to tell me I’m wrong when it comes to how to play the bass guitar? That said, she gonna get quite the surprise when she see how much my guitar playing has improved since she watched me playing the guitar. So, that’ll defuse any potential fights.
Had it actually been my older sister - good one, btw :bigsmile: - then aye, we wouldnae get beyond the first lesson. Cuz she’d be constantly questioning me, and telling me I’m wrong when I’m right. But, thankfully it’s not her... She doesn’t share my taste in music enough to want to learn either the electric or bass guitar anyway. Thinks most of what I listen to is
“shite” anyway. And she can’t quite comprehend how or why I’d listen to or be a fan if stuff that she likes as well which is
”outside” the rock/metal genre.
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