I'm starting to wonder if there's more truth to that quip I made about my older sister only huvin time for self-reflection when she's lookin' in the mirror
Was intending to do that, but my mother's resorted to emotionally blackmailing me. Sayin' she'll take her own life if I move out. :omg: :sad: :crying:
That is such a horrible thing to do to her own child! :sad:
So very selfish of her.
Feeling like a failure.
I have tried so many times over so many years to give up using sugary foods for comfort in stressful times.
It's like my mind is a separate entity from "me" - with its own ideas about what it wants to do - with me having no control over it regarding what foods it craves and ends up consuming.
That is such a horrible thing to do to her own child! :sad:
So very selfish of her.
She doesn't see it like that. Neither does my oldest sister, who keeps telling me that she - our Mum - needs me. Apparently, the responsibility of caring for her is on me. Yet, lately, I've just felt like she burdens me with her problems - forgetting I have my own issues to deal with.
Feeling like a failure.
I have tried so many times over so many years to give up using sugary foods for comfort in stressful times.
It's like my mind is a separate entity from "me" - with its own ideas about what it wants to do - with me having no control over it regarding what foods it craves and ends up consuming.
I can kinda relate to that. I think I might've put all the weight that I lost 2 years ago back on due to the stress I've endure for the last 6 months. :🙁: Haven't really been keeping in shape lately.
i haven't read everything Graeme1988 has written as it's hard to read a lot but i thought of it like her mom really doesn't want her to move out and it's important to her but that she could probably get used to it like the slowesthand has mentioned so it's a really hard situation, sorry for your situation Graeme. With God all things are possible to sort out, God bless you
Thanks, jinxed. :thumbup:
But, as sad as it is to admit, I'm used to how things are now. :sad: Realised 2 years ago that I'm not the co-dependent. And believe me, I've tried to get my mother used to the idea of not having me around, living on my own. But every time it's comes back to how will she cope. Cuz y'know... f*ck the fact I could more than manage with a little support since my operation back at the start of 2016.
While it might be important to her, I'm just sick of the constantly negativity, feeling for herself and playing the victim. I mean my oldest sister burdens me with the responsibility of caring for our mother, but what she doesn't realise is that our Mum's too lazy to change. She "promises" she will, but never does. And I've gave her plenty of chances, but she just betrays me every time.
I've told her to start treating my sisters as she has done me over the years, but she's huvin none of it. Even though being threatened with an inconvenient stabbing as yer wide-eyed mother angrily welds a kitchen knife, spitting expletives in their general direction might keep them in line? :question: It'd definitely make them consider their conduct before call Mum stupid or telling her to f*ck off! Cuz we never had an argument go to that level since, my sisters haven't seen that side of our mother. 😮
But I doubt she'd ever get used to not having me around, cuz she always sounded resentful when I'd prove to her that I don't need nor want her to do everything for me.
Overwhelmed. I just... Ah rarely get a break. Also, fed-up with being the computer tech in my family. Not that I hate fixing computers or laptops, it's just everyone dumps them with me and expects it to be fixed by a certain withoot me even what's actually wrong with it myself. Cuz they huv'nae got a clue. :kickingmyself:
On a positive my mother and I are having a quiet, relaxing day. The first in a long time. No older sister and her kids coming and stay for most of the day. I've never been so happy to wake up to a snow blizzard... It's like Christmas here in the Scottish Borders. 😀
So much so I near did this: when my Mum woke me up this morning and told me there's been heavy snowfall overnight.
Oh, what a Make a Wish month February's been fur me... Aw, man !
Got concert tickets for The Proclaimers... Da lat da (Da lat da), da lat da (Da lat da)
Da-da-da dun-diddle un-diddle un-diddle uh da-da!
And yesterday, my older sister accepted a house up the scheme where we used live afore moving back in the early 90s. She's no too happy about the location like, but she says there's nay way she'd even contemplate moving back in with me and our mother again.
Should've went easy on that bottle o' booze ah bought near the end o' last year, could've done with it about now.
That's not what you said in your post when you were bored before, only giving you some self-reflection there! You could be trying to help but comforting words are better
My post was meant to help & comfort! Going to bed helps me, when everything seems boring; it comforts me.
Oh, what a Make a Wish month February's been fur me... Aw, man !
Got concert tickets for The Proclaimers... Da lat da (Da lat da), da lat da (Da lat da)
Da-da-da dun-diddle un-diddle un-diddle uh da-da!
And yesterday, my older sister accepted a house up the scheme where we used live afore moving back in the early 90s. She's no too happy about the location like, but she says there's nay way she'd even contemplate moving back in with me and our mother again.
Should've went easy on that bottle o' booze ah bought near the end o' last year, could've done with it about now.
Are you still moving out to your own place Graeme?
Are you still moving out to your own place Graeme?
:thinking: That's kinda up in the air now. We'll see how things go in the next couple o' months. I've not been offered a place yet. And with it being 2 bedroom, my Mum could choose to give the tenancy of the house and move in with me. 😮 Something my oldest sister only recently told me.
But I've made it clear to my mother that she can play the victim and resort to blackmail aw she wants, but if she doesn't make an effort to change her way, I'll pack my stuff n' leave.
And that's despite my mother admitting recently that she's feels she gets on better with me cuz I'm no flying into a rage and demanding a justification for why ah should do what my mother's asked of me. Unlike a certain middle sibling... :thumbdown:
Plus, with exception of my room, I try to keep the rest of the house tidy. More than my mother, who's compulsive habit of buying food that she then packs away and forgets about is really oot o' control. :omg: Oh, and it's kinda sh!%ty when my observations are now being agreed with rather than treated as joke punchlines. That might seem weird, but it's odd to huv yer own mother and oldest sibling actually agreeing with you, instead of laughing at ya when you give yer opinion on something or someone.
i don't think so. she said her mother emotionally black-mailed her into not moving out or else she'd commit suicide
Eh, I'm guy, jinxed. 🤭 You are referring to me in that post, right? Don't worry, I'm not pissed off at ya for mis-gendered me. :bigsmile:
Just sayin'... 🙄
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