How are you feeling?

[bsebring]

****ty and overworked for the past month.

 

[MikeyC]

The one friend I had has now got a boyfriend - we used to spend time with each other but now I dont hear from her at all - Sometimes I dont really feel like she particularly appreciated me and that I was merely a friend of convenience.. rather than of any real value. I could be wrong. But the fact that I havent heard from her since she started seeing someone... hurts my feelings and makes me feel a little annoyed.

Oh well. I guess it doesnt really matter.

That sucks, Kiwi. The same happened to me in the past and they get so infatuated with their partners that they forget you exist. It's not just you, mate...it happens to everybody.

Feeling really lonely, unwanted and bored at the same time. No stimulation. All my friends are or seem busy.

Meh, I guess it's moments like these that I come to this forum..

Sorry to hear that. :: I can understand the lack of stimulation, for sure.

 

[Nouveau]

Lonely, scared and frustrated.
I hate wanting to do something new, but being too afraid to do it.

 

[BlueDays]

Lonely, scared and frustrated.
I hate wanting to do something new, but being too afraid to do it.

I think so many in here can relate to that, including me :s I hope you find some way to overcome the fear that is holding you back from starting something new Nouveau




I am feeling many things mixed into a strange mess in my mind why can't feelings take a turn, and not all scramble for the centre of attention at the same time.

 

[MikeyC]

Lonely, scared and frustrated.
I hate wanting to do something new, but being too afraid to do it.

I am having this same feeling right now. I know how tough it can be.

I am feeling many things mixed into a strange mess in my mind why can't feelings take a turn, and not all scramble for the centre of attention at the same time.

"Fear, take a number. Boredom, you're up!"

Okay, for reasons I can't even comprehend myself, over the last two hours or so I've been falling back into depression. I don't know why and it really annoys me. I can never fight it and I hate myself for it.

So now what I'm going to do is go to a local burger joint and get a massive burger with some fries and a big chocolate milkshake. I can't really afford it but at this point who really cares? I will hate myself post-meal but at least I'll be full.

 

[Nouveau]

I think so many in here can relate to that, including me :s I hope you find some way to overcome the fear that is holding you back from starting something new Nouveau

Thank you, BlueDays. I hope all of us can find ways to overcome everything and anything that holds us back.

I am having this same feeling right now. I know how tough it can be.

MikeyC, yeah, it's definitely tough. Also, I hope you feel better. Depression is so... depressing. You'll come out of it soon, I hope.

 

[MollyBeGood]

I am streaming episode one of season one of "Lilyhammer" and they just shot a wolf.

*pissed*

 

[coyote]

I am streaming episode one of season one of "Lilyhammer" and they just shot a wolf.

*pissed*

have you seen the movie The Grey yet?

i'd skip if it if i were you

 

[MollyBeGood]

have you seen the movie The Grey yet?

i'd skip if it if i were you

ha I am totally NOT buying into Liam Neissan as an action star so no way for that too. Thanks for the warning though

 

[Shyangel]

Okay, for reasons I can't even comprehend myself, over the last two hours or so I've been falling back into depression. I don't know why and it really annoys me. I can never fight it and I hate myself for it.

So now what I'm going to do is go to a local burger joint and get a massive burger with some fries and a big chocolate milkshake. I can't really afford it but at this point who really cares? I will hate myself post-meal but at least I'll be full.

Depression is a mysterious thing. I wish I knew why it does what it does, Mikey, so I could help you out, because feeling like that sucks.

You should totally do that. It's worth the money if it can help get your mind off of things and make you feel better. Have a good time.

 

[KiaKaha]

Insecure

I have a nagging underlying feeling that people just dont like me - Its weak... and its irritating that I think this way....because I dont know if its true or not.

But would it matter...? would it really matter if the majority of people I came into contact with didnt like me? Why is this thought so terrifying? Why is such a big deal? I wish I could be strong enough to believe that I am OK without the reassurance of other people.

I mean... most people desire acceptance right? Its not something that is unreasonable is it? or is it off putting and 'needy' to feel this way...?

I dont understand anything.

 

[DeadmanWalking]

Insecure

I have a nagging underlying feeling that people just dont like me - Its weak... and its irritating that I think this way....because I dont know if its true or not.

But would it matter...? would it really matter if the majority of people I came into contact with didnt like me?

Well, most, if not all, humans do have a desire to be liked and accepted by our peers. That's why some of us do the most idiotic things to get friends and be liked. But, don't worry about what everyone thinks, okay? We like you and that's what's important.

 

[Pyrophosphate]

I've been staring at this...

... for about an hour now. It makes only a little bit more sense to me than it does to most people, so I guess I feel like my brain exploded.

 

[KiaKaha]

Well, most, if not all, humans do have a desire to be liked and accepted by our peers. That's why some of us do the most idiotic things to get friends and be liked. But, don't worry about what everyone thinks, okay? We like you and that's what's important.

So it *is* reasonable to want to be liked and be accepted... I am so unsure of things like this.... I feel I need to bury these kinds of thoughts because it might be nonsense.

The day I dont worry about what everyone thinks... is the day that I will finally be free. Its difficult.

 

[KiaKaha]

We like you and that's what's important.

Oh...and thanks

 

[DeadmanWalking]

So it *is* reasonable to want to be liked and be accepted... I am so unsure of things like this.... I feel I need to bury these kinds of thoughts because it might be nonsense.

The day I dont worry about what everyone thinks... is the day that I will finally be free. Its difficult.

Don't submit to this instinct, but don't fight it either. Move in tandem with it. Be who you are and act in the manner you feel is best. Aim to make as many friends as possible, but don't break your back trying to make one. If they don't accept you for you, then you don't need them in your life.

It's not going to be easy. But, just remind yourself that the opinions of those that you care about are important and that you shouldn't have to go out of your way to make a friend and you should be fine. Of course, I'm no therapist or psychologist, so I have no idea what I'm talking about.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Some people would credit 3 years of work but right now, I just feel so very spoiled. :3

Oh... and sick- but for different reasons.

 

[KiaKaha]

Don't submit to this instinct, but don't fight it either. Move in tandem with it. Be who you are and act in the manner you feel is best. Aim to make as many friends as possible, but don't break your back trying to make one. If they don't accept you for you, then you don't need them in your life.

It's not going to be easy. But, just remind yourself that the opinions of those that you care about are important and that you shouldn't have to go out of your way to make a friend and you should be fine. Of course, I'm no therapist or psychologist, so I have no idea what I'm talking about.

No its fine, but what you say makes sense - at least to the extent to ease my suffering. I just try to be a decent guy I guess, but I always wonder why people fail to warm up to me....I maybe trying to hard...expecting too much... misinterpreting behaviour... a number of things. Its times like this that certain tenets of buddhism and taoism sound appealing.

But I think the worst part of all this is that if I am rejected, percieved or otherwise - then its like that it is confirming to myself to what I already believe deep down.... that I am worthless.

Anyway... sorry to get all heavy and negative. Just wanted to express myself. I dont like this feeling I get sometimes.

 

[Aletheia]

external locus of identity

I have a nagging underlying feeling that people just dont like me.

I like you.

 

[MikeyC]

Re: external locus of identity

MikeyC, yeah, it's definitely tough. Also, I hope you feel better. Depression is so... depressing. You'll come out of it soon, I hope.

It's such a loooooooong and slow process that I wonder if I'll ever get out of it. But thanks, I hope I'm wrong.

Depression is a mysterious thing. I wish I knew why it does what it does, Mikey, so I could help you out, because feeling like that sucks.

You should totally do that. It's worth the money if it can help get your mind off of things and make you feel better. Have a good time.

I sat in the restaurant alone like a loser but the food was delicious so that's all that mattered!

I just feel so very spoiled. :3

It's about time!!

I like you.

I second this.