Getting your hair cut

[PugofCrydee]

How do you get your hair cut?
I go to a barber and I have to say, I hate sitting in that chair..lol. People walking past gawking at you, the barber/hairdresser trying to make small talk.. My anxiety does get worse in that situation. I used to do my own buzz cut but for the past couple of years I need someone to do it for me because of a different style I have.

How about you?

 

[Miserum]

I just deal with it and make small talk.

I used to get tinglies all over my body when the barber put the buzzer to my neck when I was a kid. The forced social interaction nowadays just totally ruins it, even if we're not talking.

 

[LoyalXenite]

I used to get my hair cut by friends or my ex or various people I knew who could do a decent hack job

Now its been a couple years since I went and I really need it cut again but havent managed to drag myself in to a proper hairdresser coz I hate the forced interaction and being touched by strangers

 

[SoScared]

I used to go in with pre-prepared small talk. That worked

 

[Cyrax]

I do it myself. I've honestly never been to a barber. It's far too awkward for me.

 

[vj288]

I haven't been in around 5 or 6 years I think. When I did go I usually I didn't make small talk, I'd just sit and not say much, the barbers I went to never seemed to force conversation onto me. What I did hate was telling them what I wanted for a haircut. Early on I solved this by just getting it buzzed every time - it was quick and painless to say, and by getting it cut short it meant I could let it grow for a year without going back. One time I went and they didn't know what a buzz cut was though, boy did I feel awkward. I think that was like, 5 or 6 years ago?

 

[Miserum]

Now its been a couple years since I went and I really need it cut again but havent managed to drag myself in to a proper hairdresser coz I hate the forced interaction and being touched by strangers

The upside of getting your hair cut (assuming you have long hair cause I know you're a LADY) is that you only have to do it once in a blue moon.

 

[PugofCrydee]

The upside of getting your hair cut (assuming you have long hair cause I know you're a LADY) is that you only have to do it once in a blue moon.

IKR. I get mine cut every two weeks.

 

[LoyalXenite]

The upside of getting your hair cut (assuming you have long hair cause I know you're a LADY) is that you only have to do it once in a blue moon.

Good point, add to that that my hair is both very fine and sparse and slow growing and the only reason I really ever get it cut is split ends making it annoying when I brush it or making me look more and more deranged

IKR. I get mine cut every two weeks.

I got mine cut two years ago or so, and only because I had a cheap voucher for the uni hairdresser. Before that I dont even remember my last haircut

 

[hidwell]

I will be going next week for a tidy up, I hate it when other people come into the shop whilst I'm having my hair cut and you can see them in the mirror. I always feel self conscious.

 

[Phoenixx]

For me, the anxiety of getting my hair cut comes from whether or not the person can actually cut my hair without making my hair look like a frizzy pyramid. I have fine, curly hair. So many hairdressers have not a single clue how to properly cut curly hair.

I haven't gone to get my hair cut in 7 months. The last person to do it gave me the dreaded blunt cut after I asked twice for a long layered cut and showed pictures. Ugh.... Sounds vain I know, but I'm a self conscious person as far as appearance goes.

 

[PugofCrydee]

For me, the anxiety of getting my hair cut comes from whether or not the person can actually cut my hair without making my hair look like a frizzy pyramid. I have fine, curly hair. So many hairdressers have not a single clue how to properly cut curly hair.

I haven't gone to get my hair cut in 7 months. The last person to do it gave me the dreaded blunt cut after I asked twice for a long layered cut and showed pictures. Ugh.... Sounds vain I know, but I'm a self conscious person as far as appearance goes.

I totally understand about feeling a biit vain with our hair. I think most people would be upset if the hairdresser doesnt listen or has no clue and stuff's it up.

 

[SoScared]

I'm amazed at how poor most hairdressers are. I've had some many car crashes. If a find a good hairdresser i make a point of keeping them for a long as possible. Giving a tip always helps. I've got an OKish one now. Its not that she's great, its just that she is far superior to anybody else in town. She gets a tip.

 

[FriendlyShadow]

The only thing I like about going to the hair salon is getting my hair washed. It feels nice at least for a few minutes.

Some of the women who cut my hair end up cutting way too much than I wanted. In fact. I make it specifically clear how much hair I want taken off, the exact length I want, but for some reason they keep cutting it way too short. My hair doesn't grow fast.

 

[Kiwong]

I really hate the mirrors, I don't like seeing myself, or the barber. One of the barbers is a red neck, they made fun of me when my anxiety was worse. Lost my business.

Worst part is when they get the razor out. I fear my head will shake and they will cut me. Other thing is handing cash over and taking change.

 

[MollyBeGood]

I hate paying people to cut my hair. I learned how to do it myself. I also have been letting it grow so now it’s almost to my butt. I am so happy about this bc it’s the longest it’s ever been. Hair Goals!

 

[Jungle]

Thankfully, and when I was a kid, the barber would always be busy chatting with his colleagues as to not engage in any conversation since it had always been the same barber knowing what sort of haircut I fancied. I'd hardly be spoken to about anything other than my haircut or some skin condition I had on my head.

Still as a kid, I remember my father always drawing closer to the barber to ensure he switched the razor blades before using it on my neck; that was rather embarrassing to me.

Then came university, I bought some hair clipper; I would just let my hair grow for 3 months then shave it all off for a year, so I had to jog my classmates' memory about who I was, once in a while.

In the past 7 years, I've just gone 3 times to the barber's, the first time was a success, then after 2 failed attempts, I decided to go back to my old money-saving business...because the guy would end up cutting it too short to my taste anyway /:

That's a good piece of advice Phoenixx is giving, just show a picture of yourself to the barber with the desired hairstyle — a photo is better than words.

I guess it's acceptable to be on your phone or read something when you're having your hair cut, to avoid conversation, but I've never tried it myself.

 

[Sacrament]

I remember back when my anxiety got really bad and I couldn't even get out of the house (when I was about 18). I wouldn't even look in mirrors and I would avoid any reflections as much as I possibly could. One day I tried going to the barbers to get a haircut, and I remember the day being really gloomy and I was anxious as hell hoping there were no other customers, but there were. I went in and got my haircut but I had a really bad anxiety crisis during the whole thing, and my face got really red and the other customers were staring, and I remember when I left it was raining tremendously and I just walked home soaking wet and wrote the angriest poem I've ever written. Not good.

Nowadays I still get anxious getting a haircut, but I try to focus on the positive aspects (looking better, the back of my neck getting all tingly when they shave those last few hairs before you leave, etc).

 

[PugofCrydee]

Whoops, sorry about your ear...

 

[SoScared]

Just had a trim. I think that she got it right this time. Normally she undercuts it but this time following my frequent requests to leave it a bit shorter she has.