Do you want to fall in love?

[Dronee]

That's what I don't understand. Why would you want more stress and difficulties just so you can have someone to have sex with on a regular basis? To me, that's all love is: Guaranteed sex for the rest of your life (unless divorce of course). The only thing besides sex in a marriage is having someone to talk to, but I don't get why you need that person to be the opposite sex. That's what friends are for, to talk to. You don't need to be married to have someone to converse with regularly. I just don't get the whole partners for life thing, I don't see why you need just one partner when you can have more than one friend there for you.

Well.. I can't say for other people's experience... But friends are there only for a while. Even the best of friends will part way very soon. I don't see marriage or just love as just regular sex. Sure.. I'm of the opinion that sex is a need amongst humans.. not as basic as food and water, but a need (as opposed to want) nonetheless.

But love is basically someone there to share your life with. If you've friends who have stayed with you your whole life and you can say that you've literally shared much of your adult life with them, then I can only envy you. But there's just something in love... a friend can make you feel good. Yet in real love, I think there's more to it than that. Where I live, I sometimes see a VERY old couple still holding hands and being affectionate.

That's love.

 

[JamesSmith]

Where I live, I sometimes see a VERY old couple still holding hands and being affectionate.

That's love.

Oh yeah, I've seen those old couples too. But what I'm saying is holding hands is showing affection, and sex is sex. Now, take away affection and sex from these couples and what do you have? Best friends. I think love is an excuse to have an affectionate life with the opposite sex that happens to be your best friend. That's not love, that's just a really good friend. Or at least that's what I think. I know, it probably sounds depressing.

 

[da_illest101]

and get my heart shattered into thousand of pieces ... no thanks

 

[JamesSmith]

Sure.. I'm of the opinion that sex is a need amongst humans.. not as basic as food and water, but a need (as opposed to want) nonetheless.

I disagree. Sex is definitely not a need. A need is something you need in order to survive. A lot of people who have lived on this planet have lived their whole life w/out being in love, and they survived as long as anyone else. There was actually this british lady that set the record for the oldest woman alive and she died a virgin. If anything, it seems like people who don't get into relationships live longer. The older I've gotten, the more I've realized how people believe love from a partner is something they need, but I think these people are putting themselves in pain and are actually living unhealthy lives because of exactly that: they think they need something that they don't. They worry about not having a partner, they get angry that they don't have a partner, and then a bunch of them throw themselves in a marriage because they are scared of being alone which explains the 50%+ divorce rate. If you ask me, the thought that humans need love is more unhealthy than not having love with a partner at all.

 

[Honda]

There's a theory i found out about that says different partners but 1 love... Basically we need to feel comfy and intimate with someone.. We just ruin it for each other with our standards and ideas of the dream girl or dream boy, future and marriage, standards and etc.. I mean my guess is its all animal attraction, might aswell drop all the crap and enjoy yourself with someone till you both get bored of each other..

Plus look at people, they all know love is a b#@$! but still want to go for it as its part of our nature to love but we just complicate it too much to the extent of sickness.. Even some people go for partners that are a headache just to go for this 'love'..
I hate society, religion, countries, governments, media, etc... Even though we need law and order to survive in a civilized world; still instead of improving humanity they are making it sicker..

I came up to the following conclusions:
- Couples will get bored of each other no matter what, yet they dont accept that continue living in denial..
- To love someone you also need to feel secure with them; for males and females have a different standard for that.
- Females want confident men and men want hot females. (general 1st layer of attraction)

 

[honeydippedxo]

I am very much in love and have been for nearly five years. It warms my heart and breaks it atvery same time. To know I have someone who truly loves me unconditionally is an amazing feeling. He expects nothing from me and gives me everything he has. My anxiety has caused so much trouble in our lives most people run the first chance they get. but not him. He's always there. He is so amazing I dont understand how he could love me so deeply. People adore him, they're just attracted to him for some reason men and women children and teens. But its very painful because even though he would never admit it, im a huge burden on him and hold him back from alot of things. as much as i wish i could keep him forever, i wish he would leave me, for his own sake. He doesnt deserve this life I've created. But i will spend the rest of my life trying to better myself for the both of us. and if he should stray, ill be happy for him and never ever take him back no matter how bad it kills me. love is a blessing and a curse i guess

 

[Honda]

- Females want confident men and men want hot females. (general 1st layer of attraction)

Or maybe thats just the egoistic nonsense were raised on as kids? I mean in the past people didnt think too much or made it too complicating..

 

[overcome.]

Cliche or not, I'd like to, and have somebody who I could also call my best friend at the same time. I could talk to them about anything. That'd be nice.

 

[Honda]

^ see something just clicked in my mind... Most guys including myself have this friend that is like their sister.. They talk to her without any hesitation about their problems but you cannot do this with the one you are dating or love cuz maybe you're scared that you are some bitchy guy they cannot complain their problems to? can somone shed light on this one please?

 

[Meowza]

I'm in love and it's fantastic... my girl is very understanding as she suffers from agoraphobia. I do my best to take care of her

 

[Oxygen]

When the time is right, I do Or if I meet someone that really makes me believe we have a chance. Right now I feel I should concentrate on myself and my life

 

[hippiechild]

She's going out to forget they were together...
all that time, he was taking her for granted...

I most definitely want to fall in love eventually, hopefully when I'm in a better position to follow up on it. I don't think any one person can meet their full potential alone and, as far as I know, love is the only way to fully share yourself with someone else. If people are able to struggle through illness, injury and thousands of miles of distance in order to keep their love alive, then it must be pretty damn worthwhile.. and I'd like to have a crack at it someday.

...back it up now
you got a reason to live
say I don't wanna be in love
I don't wanna be in love

 

[SilverRain]

Hypothetically, I probably would. I've always been fond of fairytales and the idea of having someone that I'm meant to be with, that 'one true love' kinda thing. I can be a bit of a romantic at heart (and a sap while we're at it), so on some level the idea does appeal to me. Sadly though, if I were to ever fall for someone, all it'd realistically achieve is making me feel more insecure/inadequate than I already do, which I'm sure is a sentiment shared by many people here.
I agree with the previous posters who mentioned that a person ideally should be comfortable in their own skin and able to live stable, independent lives, before they're ready for any kind of commitment. And I know for sure that I'm not at that point yet myself, so I guess that'd make my answer a no. Even moreso if we're talking an unrequited 'loving from a distance' type scenario, because I could definitely do without the angsting and brooding that would come hand in hand with that.

It...probably also doesn't help that I have a severely limited attraction/sex drive and I can't honestly tell whether that's disorder related or whether I may actually just be asexual. That'd certainly put a dent in my chances of falling for anyone, with or without the intimacy issues. x3

 

[springk]

yes, i would if love really existed.

i don't know if love really exist or not, or is it only in movies..a girl meeting her dream guy and then fall in love..

 

[planemo]

No, I never want to fall in love again. Nothing good could ever came out of it, and I really don't wanna feel like I'm capable of doing or feeling like everyone else.

 

[Honda]

yes, i would if love really existed.

i don't know if love really exist or not, or is it only in movies..a girl meeting her dream guy and then fall in love..

Well all these movies and disney appeal to people's fantasies.. None showed how relationships or being with a partner is difficult or challenging... Which is causing a misconception among people... TV really does make people stupid and naive..

When I look around me and see those couples getting attracted to each other at the first few moments and after some time they start seeing the flaws and slowly start thinking about it being not a brilliant idea... I think people are stupid and dont know how to love... In fact I dont dare to fall in love cuz im scared of being in a relationship and having my reality exposed and ruining the whole thing.. I turned down a girl cuz I didnt feel like I would dare to hang out with her..

 

[cola junky]

i guess everyone wants to fall in love and be loved in return.
problem is how can you love someone if you dont feel comfortable with him/her...?

 

[Honda]

^ you tell me... There should always be this tension around and this degree of both couples exercising some leverage or power on each other.. Its sick, hard and disgusting.. No wonder why many people divorce or end up saying he's an ******* or she's a whore, etc... Rarely i see a couple breaking up diplomatically..

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

This question doesn't seem as simple as it sounds. Of course falling in love is something I would want, but I do not think I would want it without the person falling in love back.

lol There's the catch. This should definitely be taken into account when answering the OP's question. I think it's sad when a person is in love with someone who is not in love with them.

 

[lunarla]

I want to loveeeeeeeeeee, but I don't want to be in it with someone at this time. There's plenty else to feel love for. Just not the same kind of intimitate partner love.