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Hoth said:Problem is I can't stand sorting through the rest to get to them.
Hoth, That's what I'm sayin'!!!!
Hoth said:Problem is I can't stand sorting through the rest to get to them.
coriander1992 said:I don't like people as a general rule, but whenever I do like somebody I tend to become slightly obsessive about them.
Anonymous-User said:Really?
What kind(s)?
dpr said:I guess I can't say I hate all people, but I like very few people. My main thing is that most people are judgmental. They talk about each other behind each other's backs and they just judge, judge, judge! I can't stand it! I think the reason I still like the few people I like is because they are not judgmental and I respect that of them.
dottie said:a certain poster above brought this to mind:
Eighty percent of Americans think rudeness is a serious national problem
Ninety-nine percent of same people say that they themselves are not rude
http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/11/11/o.are.you.rude.test/index.html
bleach said:Judgmental attitudes tend to be a sign of insecurity. Making negative judgments about other people gives us a feeling of superiority and assuages some of our fears and anxieties. I think on some level you understand this already, because you are indulging in the same behavior you criticize right here in this post, saying that you can't stand most people.
If most people are negative, perhaps it is because most people are insecure about themselves also. They don't judge because they want to be jerks, but because the only alternative they know is to judge themselves, which leads to rejecting themselves. And that is a painful way to go through life. I certainly know that SA leads to this mindset because I have lived in it for years.
There is a third alternative which is probably harder than the other two, but much better for you in the long run. That is to accept everyone without judgments, including yourself, and the people you dislike.
Why is that better? Well for one, anything that improves your attitude towards yourself (I'm speaking for everyone, here) can't be bad. Also, bear in mind that you are not the only one drawn to non-judgmental people. Everyone is drawn to them. Security and acceptance are attractive traits. And constant negativism is unattractive. To that you might think "So what, I am only negative towards other people who are negative, and I don't want them as friends anyway." But even the most accepting people do not want negativity in their lives. They will be drawn away from you, because they don't like to hear people judge, judge, judge any more than you do.
dottie said:a certain poster above brought this to mind:
Eighty percent of Americans think rudeness is a serious national problem
Ninety-nine percent of same people say that they themselves are not rude
http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/11/11/o.are.you.rude.test/index.html
light said:consider every social situation, as a learning experience.