InDeepshit
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Do you like people?
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social_introvert
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I personally like people, I enjoy social interactions as much as I enjoy being alone but my problem is that my introverted or shy nature takes over alot and controls my life to the point where I don't initiate contact, sometimes avoid people at work (even people I enjoy the company of!?) and feel anxious, nervous and lost for words around people. To really answer your question, I want relationships because I genuinely enjoy the company of others, for the stimulation but then as I said before sometimes my shy side manipulates my mind to "think" I only want friends when it pleases me, or that they don't like me any more.
ljwwriter
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I guess honestly I don't like people too much. I mean I'm always willing to give them another shot, but after a couple hours amongst the general public I'm reminded of precisely why I'm such an introvert. People can just be absolutely exhausting, and these days forming a connection with someone is much harder than it should be. And I'm not just talking about for us social phobics.
Infected_Malignity
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I love hanging out with people, forming friendships and such. But the thing about APD, SP, SA, and just general shyness is the fact that weather you like people or not, your problems tend to interfere with any kind of social life you've had.
I personally value just about everybody above me... lol. It might sound corny, but instead of seeing myself as an equal, I always tend to think of myself as a failure or something. I'm learning to see myself as just a regular, equal individual, but it's so hard. I still have friends and whatnot, but I really close myself off. Even though i know I'm not actually a failure, I can't help but see myself as one - so therefore I think other people see me the same way.
I personally value just about everybody above me... lol. It might sound corny, but instead of seeing myself as an equal, I always tend to think of myself as a failure or something. I'm learning to see myself as just a regular, equal individual, but it's so hard. I still have friends and whatnot, but I really close myself off. Even though i know I'm not actually a failure, I can't help but see myself as one - so therefore I think other people see me the same way.
Skog
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InDeepshit said:
I like people. From what I've read, people with AvPD like people. They want to socialize, but are inhibited by fears, such as of rejection, and misreading other people's intentions. If you don't like people, I think you fit in another category. For instance, antisocial people don't want to be with other people. I think a schizoid personality may also fit. Read up on it; I'm no authority.
Foxglove
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ljwwriter said:
I couldn't have said that better myself
. And what always makes me wonder is the fact that most people seem to find themselves so marvelous and cute. I don't feel like I'm missing anything by avoiding the company of others. Animals make much better companions, in my opinion.
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recluse
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Foxglove said:ljwwriter said:
I couldn't have said that better myself
Agree!
rado31
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Once you got to know a real human nature - you realize that you could like just few people. I m pretty much surprised that human specie invented something useful like wheel on axis ,for example.
I like all people who (try to) entertain all kids, they
seem like a real good people - completely out of these world messed
by human activities.
I like all people who (try to) entertain all kids, they
seem like a real good people - completely out of these world messed
by human activities.
TravisBickle87
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This may sound a little extreme, but I don't really trust people and as a general matter, I think people are innately self-interested. I lean more towards anti-humanism as time goes by, and it's driving me mad.
Doomed2Die
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Heh kinda sucks since we are all humans though doesnt it? I know that path well.
I can relate to what Skog said, I absolutely love to socialise and enjoy the company of others by far more than just solitude, when I feel comfortable. Avpd ect. holds me back (in life *cough*).
Its conflicting though something would happen that generally makes me angry at humankind and at times I would feel I'm just selfish in friendship but I think its due to the fact im always thinking about myself and the issues that control me.
Which really, I cant do nothing to change this. On the same note, I fear to become ego brained (already am somewhat) but then simply look into the generic human crowd that makes up this society and laugh in the sheer pointlessness of trying not to.
I can relate to what Skog said, I absolutely love to socialise and enjoy the company of others by far more than just solitude, when I feel comfortable. Avpd ect. holds me back (in life *cough*).
Its conflicting though something would happen that generally makes me angry at humankind and at times I would feel I'm just selfish in friendship but I think its due to the fact im always thinking about myself and the issues that control me.
Which really, I cant do nothing to change this. On the same note, I fear to become ego brained (already am somewhat) but then simply look into the generic human crowd that makes up this society and laugh in the sheer pointlessness of trying not to.
mesc000
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It's a day to day thing... sometimes I can't stand being around in public or social situations because I have absolutely no interest in what the other person has to say? Sounds selfish? But I can intellectualize that people are not always "out to get me" and are genuine and nice and should be given a chance... but when my emotions take over .. I just seem to cut and run..
I wanna be alone when I'm in social situations and I wanna be in social situations when I'm alone... hows that for ya 8O
I wanna be alone when I'm in social situations and I wanna be in social situations when I'm alone... hows that for ya 8O
hartbrokenvirgo
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I love people and care about others very much.I just have a fear of rejection and think people are out to hurt me sometimes,so i protect myself by not letting others in at all,only my closest friend.
coriander1992
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I don't like people as a general rule, but whenever I do like somebody I tend to become slightly obsessive about them.
I hate people, people in general. There are some specific people I like, but that's it. People are selfish, I can't trust them, most of them only want what's best for themselves. And often times those people who we think are good will only turn out even worse in the end. Who are all these people? I hate people!
Psychedelicious said:
Yeah me too, I hate people. I like certain individuals, but that's it. People are mean, they are bullies, greedy, ignorant, you can't trust them, they'll turn on you when you least expect it. I've just had way too many bad experiences to like or trust people anymore.