do you have a 'life'?

bsammy · 2011-12-17T01:48:33+00:00

like is your day to day much different or do you do the same things everry day?do you have any sort of social life at all or are you a hermit basically?are you happy with the way you are living?

Started by bsammy · Dec 16, 2011 · 212 replies

Kiwong Dec 17, 2011 at 11:00 PM #41

I do have a life, it's a size ten life.

hangbi92 Dec 18, 2011 at 12:02 PM #42

Radiohead - No Surprises - YouTube

Luka Dec 18, 2011 at 12:32 PM #43

i only go out to go to school. rarely do i hang with friends or go out to enjoy myself~

MikeyC Dec 18, 2011 at 1:36 PM #44

Luka said: ↑
i only go out to go to school. rarely do i hang with friends or go out to enjoy myself~

You're missing out on some good socialising but, more importantly, you're denying yourself fun. Is there any reason why you only go out for school and nothing more?

tenuous~hold Dec 18, 2011 at 1:44 PM #45

one of the most depressing songs, hopefully to make you take a step back & realize that your life isn't as bad as what it's portraying ~

Death in June - Nothing Changes (Lyrics) - YouTube

Nothing changes
It only gets worse
Nothing changes
Waiting for a hearse
There is no hope
Escape is a hoax
The pressure's building
And I just can't cope

Now and forever

Nothing changes
It only gets worse
Nothing changes
Waiting for a hearse
There is no hope
Escape is a hoax
And we're the punchline
To a Splengler's joke

Now and forever

Predacon Dec 18, 2011 at 1:55 PM #46

I go out when I have to otherwise I'm pretty much a homebody, but even if I didn't have SP I don't think it would make a huge differance as I'm just not the sort of guy who wants to out all the time. At the end of the day I just want to relax, read a book or watch tv something like that.

planemo Dec 18, 2011 at 1:57 PM #47

I don't have a social of any kind, whatsoever.

MikeyC Dec 18, 2011 at 2:01 PM #48

Predacon said: ↑
even if I didn't have SP I don't think it would make a huge differance as I'm just not the sort of guy who wants to out all the time.

Are you sure? I mean, you're saying that with an SP brain and thought processes. If you were without the phobia, you might have the desire to go out a lot more often.

However, there's nothing wrong with staying inside with a book or watching TV. I like that, too. 🙂

MercySparx Dec 18, 2011 at 4:51 PM #49

I guess I'm just less accepting of obstacles that come up in life. If theres something about myself I don't like, I do everything I can to change it or atleast make it compromise with who/what I want to be.

BlueDays Dec 18, 2011 at 4:54 PM #50

MercySparx said: ↑
I guess I'm just less accepting of obstacles that come up in life. If theres something about myself I don't like, I do everything I can to change it or atleast make it compromise with who/what I want to be.

I really wish I could do that.🙂
If you don't mind me asking, how did you manage to learn how to "make it compromise with who/what I want to be"?

Kiwong Dec 18, 2011 at 5:19 PM #51

I'm trying on a size twelve life today. I hope my bum doesn't look too big in it.

MercySparx Dec 18, 2011 at 5:20 PM #52

BlueDays said: ↑
I really wish I could do that.🙂
If you don't mind me asking, how did you manage to learn how to "make it compromise with who/what I want to be"?

Well, when it came to the anxiety, I just refused to let it dictate what I could or couldn't do. I "faced my fear" in a matter of speaking. I was on anti-depressants for a few years, but I've been off medication for a while now.

It wasn't easy at first, but it got easier the more I socialized and as I learned and gained social skills. When I would get panic attacks, I learned to recognize them and calm down. Now I only get panic attacks because I think I'm dying, but that has to do with recent medical problems, not with social phobia.

BlueDays Dec 18, 2011 at 5:32 PM #53

MercySparx said: ↑
Well, when it came to the anxiety, I just refused to let it dictate what I could or couldn't do. I "faced my fear" in a matter of speaking. I was on anti-depressants for a few years, but I've been off medication for a while now.

It wasn't easy at first, but it got easier the more I socialized and as I learned and gained social skills. When I would get panic attacks, I learned to recognize them and calm down. Now I only get panic attacks because I think I'm dying, but that has to do with recent medical problems, not with social phobia.

ah i c.
Have you had to deal with any regression? I always make some achievements but then I can't stop regressing backwards.

MercySparx Dec 18, 2011 at 5:44 PM #54

BlueDays said: ↑
ah i c.
Have you had to deal with any regression? I always make some achievements but then I can't stop regressing backwards.

At first, but I didn't let it stop me from trying. Eventually it stopped.

BlueDays Dec 18, 2011 at 5:49 PM #55

MercySparx said: ↑
At first, but I didn't let it stop me from trying. Eventually it stopped.

ah i c. Thanks for answering.🙂
I guess I have to keep waiting for the regression to stop happening. It is interesting to come across someone for whom the regressing has eventually stopped.

KiaKaha Dec 18, 2011 at 7:01 PM #56

No not really. I dont have a job, I dont really have any friends...the one friend I had is currently enamored with her new boyfriend... I feel like a huge loser. I live in fear loneliness and discomfort.

I have no one to blame but myself.

Perhaps next year may be better.

bsammy Dec 18, 2011 at 8:22 PM #57

yes im to the point where i dont even know what 'enjoying life' means to be honest.i can do the social thing, my introverted hobbies and whatnot but still dont feel like im getting much enjoyment out of life so i am not sure.

MercySparx Dec 18, 2011 at 9:07 PM #58

BlueDays said: ↑
ah i c. Thanks for answering.🙂
I guess I have to keep waiting for the regression to stop happening. It is interesting to come across someone for whom the regressing has eventually stopped.

haha well I suppose its because people who consider themselves "cured" wouldn't have much reason to talk about it. I found this site by accident.

Blannabers Dec 18, 2011 at 9:14 PM #59

well, I sorta had a life for a little bit there, maybe for about 3 or 4 months but all of a sudden, something happened that made me realize that the people I were having a 'life' with probably couldn't care less about me. All of a sudden, I was the outcast and from past experiences with this happening, it came to a screeching halt and now I'm pretty much back to being a recluse. I honestly thought I was a pretty cool kid, until this all happened.

I'm sad this happened because it feels like this wont end. After putting in so much effort to put a life together, it goes to shambles and I don't have that 'nook' I was searching for. I don't belong anywhere.

LazyHermitCrab Dec 18, 2011 at 9:49 PM #60

Blannabers said: ↑
well, I sorta had a life for a little bit there, maybe for about 3 or 4 months but all of a sudden, something happened that made me realize that the people I were having a 'life' with probably couldn't care less about me. All of a sudden, I was the outcast and from past experiences with this happening, it came to a screeching halt and now I'm pretty much back to being a recluse. I honestly thought I was a pretty cool kid, until this all happened.

I'm sad this happened because it feels like this wont end. After putting in so much effort to put a life together, it goes to shambles and I don't have that 'nook' I was searching for. I don't belong anywhere.

This is exactly how I feel right now too.. i keep having short bursts of social life and then I avoid anything that isnt predictable after a few or so times and end up lonely again :0 some alone time is valuable and just being around people in general doesnt fill the void without complete trust

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