do you have a 'life'?
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hangbi92
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MikeyC
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You're missing out on some good socialising but, more importantly, you're denying yourself fun. Is there any reason why you only go out for school and nothing more?
tenuous~hold
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one of the most depressing songs, hopefully to make you take a step back & realize that your life isn't as bad as what it's portraying ~
Death in June - Nothing Changes (Lyrics) - YouTube
Nothing changes
It only gets worse
Nothing changes
Waiting for a hearse
There is no hope
Escape is a hoax
The pressure's building
And I just can't cope
Now and forever
Nothing changes
It only gets worse
Nothing changes
Waiting for a hearse
There is no hope
Escape is a hoax
And we're the punchline
To a Splengler's joke
Now and forever
Death in June - Nothing Changes (Lyrics) - YouTube
Nothing changes
It only gets worse
Nothing changes
Waiting for a hearse
There is no hope
Escape is a hoax
The pressure's building
And I just can't cope
Now and forever
Nothing changes
It only gets worse
Nothing changes
Waiting for a hearse
There is no hope
Escape is a hoax
And we're the punchline
To a Splengler's joke
Now and forever
Predacon
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I go out when I have to otherwise I'm pretty much a homebody, but even if I didn't have SP I don't think it would make a huge differance as I'm just not the sort of guy who wants to out all the time. At the end of the day I just want to relax, read a book or watch tv something like that.
MikeyC
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Are you sure? I mean, you're saying that with an SP brain and thought processes. If you were without the phobia, you might have the desire to go out a lot more often.
However, there's nothing wrong with staying inside with a book or watching TV. I like that, too.
MercySparx
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I guess I'm just less accepting of obstacles that come up in life. If theres something about myself I don't like, I do everything I can to change it or atleast make it compromise with who/what I want to be.
BlueDays
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I really wish I could do that.
If you don't mind me asking, how did you manage to learn how to "make it compromise with who/what I want to be"?
MercySparx
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I really wish I could do that.
If you don't mind me asking, how did you manage to learn how to "make it compromise with who/what I want to be"?
Well, when it came to the anxiety, I just refused to let it dictate what I could or couldn't do. I "faced my fear" in a matter of speaking. I was on anti-depressants for a few years, but I've been off medication for a while now.
It wasn't easy at first, but it got easier the more I socialized and as I learned and gained social skills. When I would get panic attacks, I learned to recognize them and calm down. Now I only get panic attacks because I think I'm dying, but that has to do with recent medical problems, not with social phobia.
BlueDays
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ah i c.
Have you had to deal with any regression? I always make some achievements but then I can't stop regressing backwards.
MercySparx
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At first, but I didn't let it stop me from trying. Eventually it stopped.
BlueDays
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ah i c. Thanks for answering.
I guess I have to keep waiting for the regression to stop happening. It is interesting to come across someone for whom the regressing has eventually stopped.
MercySparx
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ah i c. Thanks for answering.
I guess I have to keep waiting for the regression to stop happening. It is interesting to come across someone for whom the regressing has eventually stopped.
haha well I suppose its because people who consider themselves "cured" wouldn't have much reason to talk about it. I found this site by accident.
Blannabers
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well, I sorta had a life for a little bit there, maybe for about 3 or 4 months but all of a sudden, something happened that made me realize that the people I were having a 'life' with probably couldn't care less about me. All of a sudden, I was the outcast and from past experiences with this happening, it came to a screeching halt and now I'm pretty much back to being a recluse. I honestly thought I was a pretty cool kid, until this all happened.
I'm sad this happened because it feels like this wont end. After putting in so much effort to put a life together, it goes to shambles and I don't have that 'nook' I was searching for. I don't belong anywhere.
I'm sad this happened because it feels like this wont end. After putting in so much effort to put a life together, it goes to shambles and I don't have that 'nook' I was searching for. I don't belong anywhere.
LazyHermitCrab
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This is exactly how I feel right now too.. i keep having short bursts of social life and then I avoid anything that isnt predictable after a few or so times and end up lonely again :0 some alone time is valuable and just being around people in general doesnt fill the void without complete trust