Do you ever actually enjoy socialising?

[worrywort]

Do you ever have moments where you really enjoy socialising? When you geniunely connect with another person and really come away feeling great?!

I went out again last night to my cousins engagement party and I actually had a really good night! I've been doing pretty well the last few years, SP wise. Sometimes I think it's barely recognisable! And, well, the evening actually went really well. I barely felt anxious all evening! I was more excited than anything. I said all my hello's to old friends and relatives throughout the evening, and made the effort to say my goodbyes too at the end instead of sneaking off then feeling guilty. I stayed relatively composed throughout the evening and had some great chats with some people, and it was just so nice to feel some geniune authentic bonds being formed between myself and these people, knowing that next time there's a get together I won't have to dread it, but I can look forward to it.

anyone else find that on occasions socialising can be really pleasurable?

 

[PhillyFlyersGrl]

Thats great that you felt good! I have moments, where I enjoy socializing, what sucks is when all of a sudden, I just start feeling really self conscious, it ruins it for me.

 

[dooby-duck]

I don't really push myself enough in socialising, but at Christmas I went out with a load of people from where we work. It's the same place every year which makes it a lot easier, a familiar place is a lot easier for me to handle. I didn't really talk to hardly anyone and although I felt a bit awkward and was twitching quite a lot I did enjoy myself.

I'm not so good with unfamiliar surroundings as I seem to have to stand back and monitor what is happening everywhere. I'm not keen and always avoid family gatherings. The whole atmosphere intimidates me too much and there are always too many embarassing questions. So it is great if you can be comfortable with your extended family.

 

[Anomaly]

When you geniunely connect with another person

The great majority of socializing for me has been nothing but superficial. Thus, I have great difficulty saying that I ever genuinely connected with another person.

 

[mrb]

iv forgotton what its like to be honest .......

 

[Emily_G]

Yup, sometimes I enjoy it...sometimes I enjoy it a lot. It's never as bad as I think it's going to be...I build it up in my mind and freak myself out.

 

[static]

No, I hate socializing. It just makes me uncomfortable.

 

[philly2bits]

It depends on the exact circumstances. I tend to enjoy myself more if I have less expectations going into it. If I think about it too much beforehand, I build it into something I can't possibly enjoy, therefore ruining the experience before It even starts. When the time comes, I can't separate what I built up from what is actually going on.

Also, I enjoy myself more if the people around me are not trying to force me to enjoy by trying to get me to do some activity I don't want to do. First off this makes me the center of attention which I don't like, and also I prefer to do things at my own pace.

 

[BlackKids]

Awesome man. I'd be the same and as Serafina socializing gets easier and more enjoyable as it is done more and more.
I've been trying to push myself and (re)learn how to be more outgoing and fun.

 

[xxaimsxx]

I know what you mean. I always expect the worst and in the past it seems socialising and leading a 'normal' life has actually made me more stressed because im constantly worried trying to juggle friends.

But theres times when its good and i wish i could go out all the time and do them things.

I went shopping the other day in CROWDS! ahh. lol. And saw some of my family i hadnt seen in years. That was kinda big for me.

 

[nopark]

For sure it happens. I generally like socializing when I'm actually in the mood to socialize at all.

Though even when I do really connect with someone, or have a great time at some social event -- I'm still tired and ready to call it quits after a few hours. Just the way I am I guess.

That's why things like new years parties or weddings aren't very gratifying to me. They just last so damn long!

 

[Noca]

I do enjoy it like once a week or so, more than that, not really.

 

[Lorraine Manca]

no, i enjoy people from a distance, like one of those giant blurry paintings that only look decent from a distance and just look like blobs of paint up close

 

[Kitana]

There have only been a few times I can recall where I've actually enjoyed a conversation with a stranger.. but usually I end up blowing it by doing or saying something stupid.

My problem is that I can never think of something SMART to say.. all I can ever do is state the obvious.. which makes me look even dumber!

 

[Falkor]

Hmm well... I don't really enjoy socialising, of course I like to have a nice convo, but I feel really awkward .... It's just that i'm bad at it.. ::

 

[Vecis]

Yes I do when proper time comes. I have two friends at the university. With one I speak often we discuss history go to book stores. He is really intelligent more intelligent than me so I am really happy when I meet him. Other however is crazy, he only understood this now and now is trying to hold on me because he knows he pathetic. I really want to get rid of him but he keeps emailing me and even if I pull him of he still haunts me. I do not get well with others in university, recently however I befriended a person that freaks me out because he is so overacting smart and a Nazi sympathizer, but we have common views on Russian and Muslim problems.

I like going to theater, or concert or even opera. I like going to academic meeting even though they are boring and long. I go to book stores many times in month.

Even though I am more less social phobic I feel that I must socialize to achieve something in my life.

 

[lyricalliaisons]

I've never enjoyed socializing. On the few occasions when I would go somewhere with my one & only "friend" & her friend, I didn't enjoy being there. I did enjoy the museum we went to once, but I would have enjoyed it much more on my own. I never enjoyed any of the other things that we did (movies, mall, dinner, etc.). I think if I met people who were more like me & shared my interests, it might be more fun to be around them, but that has never happened.

 

[Moonie]

Once every blue moon, I get this desire to be social. I rarely act on it, though. I remember once back in college I was in my room, and I heard my roommates out in the living room talking, listening to music, etc. I had this DEEP desire to go out there and be social. I rarely ever feel this. Of course, I didn't, though (and I really should have, because they were the only roommates I ever liked in college.) But, yes, I sometimes crave social activities.

But, socializing is very draining for me. I do believe I have a low social threshold. But, every once and awhile it needs filling.

 

[Timid_Wolf]

yeah! but then I spend all my time avoiding the person so I don't have to talk again.....

 

[AGR]

Yes I had found a really good friend,but with my luck I dont see him as much and he lives pretty far away........