Do any of you have no friends?
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LittleCarla
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I haven't had any friends for years. D:
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Friends are difficult. Good friends are easy but hard to find.
206Raider
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I was the most popular kid in Jr. High, when I got to high school I got more anxious. I went out to parties everynow and then but I was definitly becoming SA full on. Now I'm not friends with anybody. I as well would have 1 or 2 really good friends and hang out with people who were friends with them but I never really trusted the others. Fast forward to now and I only trust myself which I feel is bad (at the moment) becuase myself is my own worst enemy who beats me down cosntantly when no one else does but then again, I tell myself nobody else really knows the real me like I do so I don't hang out with anybody but I really wish I would. My old best friends moved on.
A bold statement. Personal experience, yes? I have three very good friends. They have not taken a thing. Personal experience.
Our friends are people. There some really good people and there are some really dishonest, disturbing, disrespectful people. Not much you can do but to see it before it happens.
I'm friendless at the moment and I suppose given my current life situation, quite content about it. After my divorce I went through the tiny list of my remaining acquaintances and asked myself, are these relationships of any use to me anymore?
Did I meet these people from some past circumstance that no longer exists?
Are these friends of my choosing or did they happen to be conveniently there at the time, e.g. high school or work.
Do I value these friendships any longer and even worse are they destructive in any way?
If I couldn't answer these questions and others with a straight face, then I cut them completely from my life.
As draconian as this sounds, I needed a clean start and I have never looked back since. Sure it can get pretty lonely at times, but I have to say my pillow hugging days are over, I'm feeling better now than I did before. I just don't need the complex baggage that friends entail right now.
I sometimes wonder though if I'm setting myself up for a mega fall sometime down the road. Am I turning into a sociopath? I really don't know, but I'm going to keep doing what I feel is best for me and screw social convention.
Did I meet these people from some past circumstance that no longer exists?
Are these friends of my choosing or did they happen to be conveniently there at the time, e.g. high school or work.
Do I value these friendships any longer and even worse are they destructive in any way?
If I couldn't answer these questions and others with a straight face, then I cut them completely from my life.
As draconian as this sounds, I needed a clean start and I have never looked back since. Sure it can get pretty lonely at times, but I have to say my pillow hugging days are over, I'm feeling better now than I did before. I just don't need the complex baggage that friends entail right now.
I sometimes wonder though if I'm setting myself up for a mega fall sometime down the road. Am I turning into a sociopath? I really don't know, but I'm going to keep doing what I feel is best for me and screw social convention.
Fear of people
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My husband is my only friend...I have great difficulty making friends with other females and never had any sisters to hang out with. I find it easier to make male friends and has always been that way for me.
nightcrawler
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I have friends at work but don't see any of them socially. Have only 1 proper/real/human friend who I do see socially, but have known him for over 20 years.
coastal112
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I haven't made a single friend since entering college. I have my boyfriend, and that makes me happy. I guess I could count my college roommate as a friend; we were put together in a random selection, but we get along well. I don't think we would go out and eat lunch together though.
I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. I had friends in high school. In college I always thought I would go to class and make friends. I'm not unfriendly
I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. I had friends in high school. In college I always thought I would go to class and make friends. I'm not unfriendly
sevenroses
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I have many "friends" at work but outside of work not really. I did have 2 very close friends. One moved away and the other is busy pursuing is degree in medicine so we kind of drifted away.
Skog
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Yes - I have people I work with who I am sure would state that we are friends, but we don't socialize outside of work, so we are really just acquaintances.
Although it was just one close friend at a time, I miss that aspect of my school days when my life and that of whoever was my friend were so intertwined that we were frequently at each other's houses and involved in daily activities together. I hear people talk about their activities outside work as if they have friends who they regularly see and do things with every month. I envy that.
N0D
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Since high school ended I haven't made any friends. I went to community college for a few years taking a couple classes at a time. Sometimes I have to drop classes though because I can't get myself to go to them or because I am falling behind and lose hope of passing. I am sort of a perfectionist in this regard too, so if I think I won't be able to get an A or at least a B out of a class I drop it. I can't fail if I don't try (or so I like to tell myself). It's really hard to make friends because I am so ashamed of myself and have no confidence. They will probably ask about school since we're at school when I would meet them. I can't tell them I'm 22 and I haven't finished a 2 year degree in 4 years of trying.
I basically only have myself and my parents who just got divorced last year. I'm an only child. I don't even really mind not having friends I just wish I could go out and do things on my own without being afraid everyone's staring at me and thinking horrible things about me.
I basically only have myself and my parents who just got divorced last year. I'm an only child. I don't even really mind not having friends I just wish I could go out and do things on my own without being afraid everyone's staring at me and thinking horrible things about me.
hippiechild
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Right now I have basically no friends. There are a number of people who I'm on good terms with, but none that I would risk seeing outside of structured settings (settings where the I can't be held accountable for my presence)
oh, me too.... wait, WOT!?
oh, me too.... wait, WOT!?
