Being skinny in a "bigger" world
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Pacific_Loner
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I was thinking the same as I went through it, but I'm not sure we are bugged by the same thing... :question:
Hellhound
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I'm not bugged (yet), but makes me wonder what the problem is with being "thick". What's the big deal? Are we infrahuman for having some extra weight? Not worth dating? I'm not upset, just wondering.
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glad you laughed, I still don't get it but hey:idontknow:
planetweirdo
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This is the same problem that I have. I'm skinny and can't seem to gain weight no matter how much I eat. And it seems that I have to work out about three times more then most other guys just to get one tiny little muscle to pop up.
what's worst is that am too short. You're lucky that you are tall, because being short and skinny really stinks. I look like a little wimp with a man's head on a little boy's body. :sad:
Bronson99
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How tall are you? I'm 5'9" and no one has ever told me I'm "too short" at this height, or anything like that.
planetweirdo
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I'm only 5'6" or maybe 5'5"1/2
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MikeyC
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OceanMist
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My complaint was more what you said except an inversed version of that.
I'm concerned that many women don't want to date me because they think I'm too skinny for them.
I actually like thick girls who are just a little thick and have nice curves, nice legs and a nice chest doesn't hurt. I also like skinny girls that are cute so my range of weight preference in a girl is actually quite a variety of weight. The problem is, a lot of those women don't want to be with me because many don't want to be seen as the thick girl with the skinny guy.
I do understand that what I've said is a little complicated, and yes it is situational (as in beauty is in the eye of the beholder, etc.)
Hellhound
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OceanMist
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I'm glad someone gets what I'm saying. Whenever I make threads most people take them the wrong way it seems. I'm a controversial poster.
Some people's bodies just don't gain weight or muscle weight very easily. We are naturally scrawny dudes.
For instance, I'm actually stronger than I look as far as lifting objects (people are surprised when they see me lift something heavier than I thought I could lift).
I sympathize with the height thing. Your position is probably even harder than mine because I've noticed many women are very picky about guys' height.
Although a guy like you can do very well with shorter girls, possibly better than a guy of my height. RSDTyler explains this really well in one of his youtube videos. I bet you could clean up with girls around 5'1'' or 5'2''.
Bronson99
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I haven't been able to clean up with a woman of ANY height, lol. Theoretically, at 5'9", my height shouldn't be a major problem.
I bet it's the fact that I've basically never approached anyone or tried to improve my confidence, though, that has a lot to do with this.
As far as the size thing goes, it's the same with me, my metabolism is too fast. I once tried removing most added sugars from my diet, along with decreasing carb intake, and within just a couple weeks most of my pantaloons were too large for me. (I did have more energy, though--which is part of the reason I tried it.)
As far as the opposite approach, just eating more, I actually do not like to eat too much.. I feel uncomfortable. Also, it's not that simple.
WeirdyMcGee
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My one and only was a thin guy.
He could eat for days and never gain and it made him feel self conscious but I always told him that he looked good even if his being thinner around the waist than me made *me* feel self conscious. haha
He wasn't massively taller than me, either.
There's nothing wrong with going with a guy shorter than you. My mom has mainly dated shorter guys and she's only 5'5.
You could move to a country where the %of thinner people is higher than the other?
Like... France?
Is that correct? I have a feeling that the French are known for being thin.
... by the way- I have French ancestry and am NOT thin. I'm 'athletic' without actually being an athletic person.
He could eat for days and never gain and it made him feel self conscious but I always told him that he looked good even if his being thinner around the waist than me made *me* feel self conscious. haha
He wasn't massively taller than me, either.
There's nothing wrong with going with a guy shorter than you. My mom has mainly dated shorter guys and she's only 5'5.
You could move to a country where the %of thinner people is higher than the other?
Like... France?
Is that correct? I have a feeling that the French are known for being thin.
... by the way- I have French ancestry and am NOT thin. I'm 'athletic' without actually being an athletic person.
Athletic body types are awesome :thumbup:
planetweirdo
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I do believe that there are some women out there that like small, thin guys, but I fear that they are such a small minority that I may never come across one of them.
I could be wrong, most of my ideas about what women like comes of the media and the media portrays women as only being attracted to tall, muscular, outgoing, macho men.
I have not met a lot of real life women because I'm afraid to.
I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with a woman not being attracted to small, thin men though.
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MollyBeGood
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Kiwong-that is great news. We have a rodent problem as of late with all of the rain the populations have been exploding. My house needs a cat so bad, but one of the dogs is not cat friendly. A clean home is great-happy for you! Mice are awful 
Hellhound
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The media is completely unrealistic, nor it speaks for everyone.
MikeyC
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I agree! :thumbup: