Being shy, even online.
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dyingtolive
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i can relate lol. so i got hooked into an mmo recently for almost a year and just recently quit.. during that time, i started about total of 1-2 groups in about 1000+ total quests.
dyingtolive
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i often feel like im sorta a bad guy and everyone else is much nicer than me. I also feel like everyone else knows each other more and it sometimes makes me feel unimportant lol. But i notice this in all forums. But this is a really nice forum because everyone is very nice and that keeps me coming back
Intelligence doesn't have much to do with it. All these feelings are, generally, pretty irrational. The important thing is self awareness. You discredit yourself, but then you seem wont to do that.
Hah, that's why you play DPS. Keep your head down and the rest of the party probably has no clue whether you're really contributing or not, and when things go to hell they won't blame you. (I know that's really not the crux of the issue but I had to make the joke. :
I feel this way sometimes, then that spirals into thinking nobody else is actually sincere and blah blah blah misanthropy. Generally I can convince myself that it's just everybody being human, though.
How_slow_the_Wind
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I think my shyness extends to online aswell. I mostly browse sites/forums but don't really comment even if I have my own opinion that I want to express. I think this site is an exception, where people use it as oppurtunity communicate thoughts uninhibitedly. Although even then, I don't comment as often as most other posters.
PhillyBoy45
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i dont really feel shy online just interactions i have in person
Eristelle
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Wow. This is a nice forum and all, but I still feel like I'm the unimportant, ignored newbie here. It's mostly like that in every forum, no matter how pleasantly nice the people are. I guess it's because everyone has been around for a while and they all know each other. Yet, I tend to give up when I become too overwhelmed by everyone acting so familiar around each other and I'm a third wheel. The only difference is, there are rarely any trolls here, so I feel more comfortable posting. That's why I typically lurk more. You just don't want to try so hard to fit in, because you're afraid it'll fail miserably just because you're new.
On a side note, I never thought quite a few people had the same issue. I actually thought I was a weirdo for being at my shyest online. Well, it's better than being in the public. I rarely express myself around people. I just choke and stammer away. Online, I just express, then freak out and wonder how people will reply. As of now I'm constantly rereading what I type with anxiety.
-sigh-
On a side note, I never thought quite a few people had the same issue. I actually thought I was a weirdo for being at my shyest online. Well, it's better than being in the public. I rarely express myself around people. I just choke and stammer away. Online, I just express, then freak out and wonder how people will reply. As of now I'm constantly rereading what I type with anxiety.
-sigh-
razzle dazzle rose
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Ah, I can understand. I have gotten to know some members here and it is nice. But not many. Not as many as I could if I tried harder. I find it difficult to keep up with people. My automatic feeling is that of just wanting to hide. I like being anonymous online...but the problem with that is not getting to know anyone.
For a long, long time, my online persona was anonymous. I'd never let anyone see my picture or know my real name...they just knew a vague location. I liked it that way. In the past couple years, I have become friends with people online, and they know who I am and all that. I have made lots of friends this way--even if it is just online, it counts. I do kinda miss that anonymity though. That is my problem in real life too. I meet people, but it becomes "too much" and I will flee the relationship and hide... I want to hide here too. So, it would be a helpful exercise to not hide, and instead visit this site and post/participate. I just have to stop the whole running away thing I tend to do.
SilentBird
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I am, even online.
MikeyC
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I'm glad I got to know a little bit about you and that you didn't want to hide. Being your friend is pretty awesome.
Some personalities can make you do that, too. They can be over-the-top for one reason or another and that can make you want to hide more.
razzle dazzle rose
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I'm glad I got to know a little bit about you and that you didn't want to hide. Being your friend is pretty awesome.
It is nice knowing you too, Mikey
You are so easygoing. I don't get that wanting to hide feeling with you This is true. I have realized that with certain people I can only take them in "small dosages" or else it is just too much.
True...same here...but sooner than later I will get to know a person here or there, and then I am not as anonymous anymore.
MikeyC
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Great to know!It is nice knowing you too, Mikey
Haha, yeah, I have a friend like that. Too much can be overwhelming. :
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megalon
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I've been on this forum longer than most and I don't really know anyone. Online and in real life, I have this somewhat irrational belief that I'm not worthy of being anyone's friend, that they're better off not knowing me. So even if someone does make an effort, my defenses come up and they can't get through.
Rembrandt Broam
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I don't use chat rooms for exactly this reason. I'm fine on a forum like this, where I can weigh and consider my words (even though it probably doesn't seem that way when people read what I write ) but the realtime nature of a chat room would be as anxiety inducing as real life interaction for me.
I have considered trying it though, as a form of exposure therapy. At least with a chat room you can just log off if you start to feel overwhelmed. If only that was an option in real life.
) but the realtime nature of a chat room would be as anxiety inducing as real life interaction for me.I have considered trying it though, as a form of exposure therapy. At least with a chat room you can just log off if you start to feel overwhelmed. If only that was an option in real life.
Srijita52
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I've a friend like that too, its nice to hang out with him for a while but if its too much it can really get to me. He's a very nice person and all but we're just so different.Haha, yeah, I have a friend like that. Too much can be overwhelming. :
OceanMist
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Online courage and real life courage are entirely different, imo. Any shy person can go on the internet and post in threads and chat and all that stuff.
It takes ten times more courage to go out in real life and express yourself.
I'm not talking about this site only, but on the entire internet in these forums and chat rooms you'll find all these people, mainly men, trying to troll, insult people and talk tough, and that right there is a shame about the internet. Those people say stuff they would never ever say in real life to my face, and that's just cowardly.
It takes ten times more courage to go out in real life and express yourself.
I'm not talking about this site only, but on the entire internet in these forums and chat rooms you'll find all these people, mainly men, trying to troll, insult people and talk tough, and that right there is a shame about the internet. Those people say stuff they would never ever say in real life to my face, and that's just cowardly.
Srijita52
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I know how you feel, when I first joined this forum I too was overwhelmed by everyone acting familiar and always felt hesitant to post anything as I still do. You're expressing yourself quite well though and your definitely not an unimportant and ignored newbie, atleast not to me. So whenever you feel the need to talk, do so.