Being shy, even online.

[Eristelle]

It does take more courage to express yourself outside the internet. Heck, I can't even leave my house most of the time. Those Internet tough guys get trolled too. It's funny, once you're labeled as someone annoying on the Internet, you get trolled. Or if you just happen to be there, people troll you just to troll. One of fears is getting trolled, actually.

I feel like even though it's easier to post online, I still have trouble making even online friends. I still get that same anxiety as if ill be rejected. In reality, I don't even try to make friends because I'm downright afraid. I only have one real friend and I feel pathetic because he has many friends, and I only have one. Online, I can attempt, at least.

 

[dyingtolive]

^ To Eristelle's 2nd comment above, yeah.. thats how i feel as well

^ To Megalon, yeah, you have been here about the same time I have also and I've seen you around over the years too. So I guess some of us have that in common but we still stick around

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

Haha, yeah, I have a friend like that. Too much can be overwhelming. ::

I've a friend like that too, its nice to hang out with him for a while but if its too much it can really get to me. He's a very nice person and all but we're just so different.

I probably could have saved a couple friendships if I had kept my distance a little. I can't handle too much contact with certain people--actually, with most people. I need lots of space. But there is always that pressure to hang out or text back. I feel like a bad friend if I don't. It can be too much for me to handle though.

 

[MikeyC]

I probably could have saved a couple friendships if I had kept my distance a little. I can't handle too much contact with certain people--actually, with most people. I need lots of space. But there is always that pressure to hang out or text back. I feel like a bad friend if I don't. It can be too much for me to handle though.

You need to find a balance for yourself, and, if possible, let them know how you feel. It could save you a lot of trouble and a lot of unwanted forced socialising.

 

[Srijita52]

I probably could have saved a couple friendships if I had kept my distance a little. I can't handle too much contact with certain people--actually, with most people. I need lots of space. But there is always that pressure to hang out or text back. I feel like a bad friend if I don't. It can be too much for me to handle though.

I can relate, I need a lot of space too but I always feel like a bad friend if I can't get back to them. It doesn't help that most of my friends are very social.

You need to find a balance for yourself, and, if possible, let them know how you feel. It could save you a lot of trouble and a lot of unwanted forced socialising.

I need to do it too.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

You need to find a balance for yourself, and, if possible, let them know how you feel. It could save you a lot of trouble and a lot of unwanted forced socialising.

I have tried being upfront and honest but it has backfired :: Perhaps I didn't use the right words? Finding a balance has always been hard for me, not just with the friendship thing. But knowing what I can handle and setting boundaries will help a lot for sure. Why is it so hard for me to make and keep friends? Arrrgh.

 

[MikeyC]

I have tried being upfront and honest but it has backfired :: Perhaps I didn't use the right words? Finding a balance has always been hard for me, not just with the friendship thing. But knowing what I can handle and setting boundaries will help a lot for sure. Why is it so hard for me to make and keep friends? Arrrgh.

Maybe some people misconstrue what you're saying as being unfriendly or that you don't want to hang out with them, which is obviously untrue.

I have been guilty of, ahem, "fudging" the truth a little to my friends in getting out of social situations, and if you're feeling like you can't handle being social and you've been asked out, you should do the same. It's not ethical, but it's either not go and be content, or go and be anxious/depressed and possibly bring the group down, intentionally or not. Only you have the power, razzle!

Hey, if I lived in your location, I'd be your friend!

 

[takeheart]

I dont know if its bad luck or what but every friend l make online always ends up being bored with me and they lose interest in me. Hence why l have completely negated having any online friends. Im better off alone so no more online friends for me.

 

[truffleshuffle]

You know, I get scared when I think maybe no one will reply. I'm deathly afraid of playing online games. Meeting new and experienced players laughing at my noobness and lack of skills. *sigh* that's why I play single player games. I feel like no one can see my fail, just me. Then when I get better after a massive amount of failures, I let others watch me play.. I guess it's a perfectionist issue.

I get the same feeling like what if no one replies. I am not so bad on the online games becasue I usualy just talk to them about the game were playing and it helps. I am usualy just playing the game for fun. what I worrie about most with on online fourms and chats is what if the stuff I type is just stupid and makes me look dumb.

 

[laure15]

Yep, I do feel shy even online. I thought about creating my own threads and everytime, I feel shy because I would putting a part of myself out there. When I am the first person to reply to a thread, I do feel shy too.