Hi - as a social-anxiety sufferer - do you find that you only attract more of the type of negative responses that you fear the most? I think it's most unfortunate that - due to our vulnerable, tormented condition - we seemingly have to endure MORE negativity and disrespect from the world than our more fortunate, more outgoing counterparts. These experiences reinforce our anxiety and can make it inordinately difficult to claw our way out of the abyss of interpersonal torment.
I've often felt that - because of my condition (severe social anxiety, depression, stress disorder, Avoidant/Schizotypal personality disorder) - I've had to endure much more scrutiny than the average person in various situations. Perhaps because my body language may not be quite like that of the standard non-depressed, anxiety-free (relatively-speaking), socially at-ease person - my intentions have been misconstrued in various inaccurate ways. I seem to be under increased suspicion in different situations.
For example, I am beyond tired of the extra scrutiny I seem to receive in stores. People always seem to think that I'm there to shoplift - and I'm treated accordingly. I literally cannot shop without noticing at least one instance in which some employee is targeting me in some manner. Various techniques are used on me to "prevent me from stealing"; you name it, I've likely been subjected to it. Employees seem to go the extra mile with me - from forcing me to interact with them more by asking me questions or engaging me in extra "conversation" (just what a s.a.d. sufferer needs, right?), to staring at me, to "checking inventory" near me, etc.. I've seen it all.
It's particularly insulting and hard to accept - because I've done nothing to actually deserve this type of treatment. I've always been an honest shopper - I've never entertained notions of stealing. But, I feel that I am a victim of people's unforgiving overgeneralizations of people who may appear more self-conscious or ill at-ease than average. And, that might not be the entire story (I'd like to think that my personal struggles aren't always that visible - but maybe they are); perhaps it's sometimes a combination of appearance, body-language, and financial-status. I suspect that some of these grocery stores keep track of EBT (food-stamp) recipients - which would be another type of horrid prejudice (not all EBT recipients are dishonest). (My anxiety and depression are severe enough that I am on SSI disability for them - which makes me eligible for the additional financial assistance.)
Have you had such experiences in stores or in other situations - where your social anxiety was misconstrued as some sort of "shiftiness"? Have you noticed "strange" occurrences in stores that gave you the feeling that you were being watched or under more scrutiny than average?
I've often felt that - because of my condition (severe social anxiety, depression, stress disorder, Avoidant/Schizotypal personality disorder) - I've had to endure much more scrutiny than the average person in various situations. Perhaps because my body language may not be quite like that of the standard non-depressed, anxiety-free (relatively-speaking), socially at-ease person - my intentions have been misconstrued in various inaccurate ways. I seem to be under increased suspicion in different situations.
For example, I am beyond tired of the extra scrutiny I seem to receive in stores. People always seem to think that I'm there to shoplift - and I'm treated accordingly. I literally cannot shop without noticing at least one instance in which some employee is targeting me in some manner. Various techniques are used on me to "prevent me from stealing"; you name it, I've likely been subjected to it. Employees seem to go the extra mile with me - from forcing me to interact with them more by asking me questions or engaging me in extra "conversation" (just what a s.a.d. sufferer needs, right?), to staring at me, to "checking inventory" near me, etc.. I've seen it all.
It's particularly insulting and hard to accept - because I've done nothing to actually deserve this type of treatment. I've always been an honest shopper - I've never entertained notions of stealing. But, I feel that I am a victim of people's unforgiving overgeneralizations of people who may appear more self-conscious or ill at-ease than average. And, that might not be the entire story (I'd like to think that my personal struggles aren't always that visible - but maybe they are); perhaps it's sometimes a combination of appearance, body-language, and financial-status. I suspect that some of these grocery stores keep track of EBT (food-stamp) recipients - which would be another type of horrid prejudice (not all EBT recipients are dishonest). (My anxiety and depression are severe enough that I am on SSI disability for them - which makes me eligible for the additional financial assistance.)
Have you had such experiences in stores or in other situations - where your social anxiety was misconstrued as some sort of "shiftiness"? Have you noticed "strange" occurrences in stores that gave you the feeling that you were being watched or under more scrutiny than average?