Razzlecherry
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Yeah, I feel the exact same way. I want it to mean something.
Are you a Virgin?
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Yeah, I feel the exact same way. I want it to mean something.
kristina303
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I'm a virgin by choice until marriage.
CursedSoul
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what???? :-o
kristina303
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Lol I don't believe in sex before marriage.
Razzlecherry
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People do it all the time. How do you not believe?
CursedSoul
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nice belief
kristina303
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That's how it's supposed to be. You're supposed to wait.
surewhynot
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twiggle
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You're not a loser at all. I think it takes a stronger person to wait until the right time and ignore the pulls of peer pressure.
As for your friend... well, what he does is his prerogative, but it does seem as though he is the loser, not you, because he had to go to such lengths to validate himself - taking somebody else along for the ride. No pun intended.
MrJones
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Yep. At first I was just scared (got my first chance when I was 13-14, needless to say I was ****ing scared lol but then when I was 17-18 I got some more chances where I wasn't that scared but I still flew away from it 
). Now I could do it if I wanted to, but I want to find the right person.
). Now I could do it if I wanted to, but I want to find the right person.
Flanscho
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It's supposed to be that way according to your personal believes. That's great of course. Everyone can belief what he/she wants to. But we shouldn't forget that these are our personal opinions, and that everyone has the right on his/her own opinion. On these and on other matters.
I'd never marry someone without having had sex with that person first. That would be for me like marrying someone I never saw before. Beeing incompatible in matters of sexual preferences is what breaks many relationships. Not making sure of this working out before marrying is risky.
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Starry
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Good for you!
I don't agree necessarily with no sex before marriage, but I am of the ideal* that it should be only with the person who you intend to spend the rest of your life with... Pretty similar idea perhaps, but without all of the societal ideas of marriage suddenly making things okay or that somehow marriage really does mean "forever", when looking at the divorce rate, it clearly doesn't to many people.
I am no longer a virgin, but have been only with my husband, and he only with me, which is wonderful! ^_^ I couldn't cope with the jealousies had it been any other way lol.
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* Ideal meaning that I am aware it cannot be that way in all cases, but in a perfect scenario it would be that way.
MikeyC
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I can't agree with this, but it's good that you have your own beliefs and that you're sticking with them.
Yes, I'm a virgin.
I used to care. Not so much now.
I voted on this poll, but I seriously need to ask... what's the big deal about being a virgin or not? Why do you guys care about it so much? I thought you wanted to be with someone for love and companionship
I feel the same way. Perhaps it's a primal thing for social circles to brag about such a thing, but I can't understand why this type of information would be important in any significant way to anyone.
I mean, I haven't gotten stupid drunk before, while many of my peers have been. Does that means I'm a alcohol-virgin? Does that mean I have to get stupid drunk as fast as possible so that I have inside experience with it? No, it's really not that important.
When has sexual experience ever solved a real problem? It's not like a flat tire, or medical problem was ever solved in great numbers by swift experienced intercourse. The knowledge of it is essentially useless. Enjoyable, but useless. I find bragging/comparing whether someone is a virgin or not just as petty and silly as people bragging/comparing their video game high scores.
I get that under peer pressure it can seem like an important thing, but it really, really isn't.
A86
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pressure. I can not help but think if someone wanted heart surgery, they would instinctively go for the heart doctor with more experience.
the graduate with only the theory and no practical experience is not usualy seen in the best of light?
these thoughts plague my mind and self esteem.
the graduate with only the theory and no practical experience is not usualy seen in the best of light?
these thoughts plague my mind and self esteem.
Yeah, but that's also a situation between life and death. If you make a mistake during heart surgery, it's has lethal non-fixable consequences. Mistakes during love making are insignificant health/consequence wise.
And in terms of experience, 1 to 8 times (just loosing ones virginity and few times afterwards) isn't going to make a big difference. And it's not like there's a skill chart involved that they can cross reference. Making ''good'' and ''bad'' overlap a lot, making actual skill less important.
CursedSoul
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Once you've had it you just say you regret it and those who haven't, know the real deal of being unplugged from the social pipeline!
InvisaLady
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I have to agree with this 100%.
I would hate to marry a guy only to find out he is really bad in the sack, minuteman, only in it for procreation or is really into giving oral.